To Suck or Not to Suck  

rm_hotmamaNcols 41F
460 posts
6/22/2006 10:01 am

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To Suck or Not to Suck

Tuesday night, I'm having a drink with a very sexually repressed gal pal at a local pub. Now I already know, there is a good chance our conversation will be interrupted by some dumb drunkard confessing how badly he wants to just sniff my underwear. So we go off to the less populated side of this U shaped bar. I order the usual double te "killya" with lime juice. She orders a "Relaxer".

We caught up, recapping all the things we missed. We talked about the relationships we are in, and in my case, the potential candidates. Then somehow, the conversation migrated towards sex and sex acts particularly blow jobs.

Now, WHY my girlfriends want to talk with me about relationships and sex is a no brainer. They get an honest answer with some insight and tact. Don't get me wrong, I'm no expert in either field. I've had my strings of bad relationships. And as far as sex goes, there isn't much under the sun I haven't "tried", and my close friends know this.

She is "grossed out" by the act itself. She says it makes little logical sense to her to put a penis in her mouth. "It is how he pees" while displaying a half grimace on her face. I asked her about whether she liked oral performed on her. Again she doesn't care for it. "If he tried to kiss me after that I'd puke". My view "It's mine and I'll taste it." Clearly, she only sees the utilitarian use of the beloved "penis" in question. And doesn't care for the tasting any organ or juices for that matter.

She then told me about a porno she watched with him. She said the girls were deep throating so deeply, they were gagging almost puking. This disturbed her. Well, that shit disturbs me too. Being the porno connoisseur, I've seen that gagging, spitting, and retching. But in real life, I personally would never tango with a HUGE penis. Huge penises are just plain scary...hit walls, not organs is my motto.

She asked me if she was "normal" for not caring for oral. "Fuck No" was what I wanted to say, but what came out was: "Well, everybody has their preferences. You need to talk to him, and see how important oral is to him, before you guys make an argument out of it and resentment settles in."

Of course, she wanted to know whether I truly liked it or just did it to please. I reminded her, I do nothing out of the way to please anyone unless I enjoy the act myself. Of course I like it. Yes, watch as I unleash this mouth, this tongue, these lips, on that penis!! If I had one secret weapon that I knew would BLOW HIS FUCKING MIND, hell, why not? I told her oral sex IS the appetizer at MY table, but if she wants to serve fast food, it's her choice.

So readers, is there a sex act you do not care for? Is/was there a sex act your current/former didn't care for? How was it resolved?

Sailor376 64M
2288 posts
6/22/2006 3:43 pm

Hello Hot,

A woman I lived with years ago, did not like semen in her mouth. Wonderful, marvelous, toe curling oral for each. Her finish of me was, however, by hand. For the most part I respected her wishes. And we did talk about it. I think that was the key to all of our relations. We just talked about it. Everything. So the few transgressions were for fun and a little devilment. Damn it was hard sneaking one by, she could read me so well. Pay backs were just as much fun then. I remember. I remember talking and being chased about happily when I transgressed.
My vote is for full disclosure. Gently, happily, in advance of, when talk is both cheap and effective.


rm_hotmamaNcols replies on 6/23/2006 12:41 pm:
Yes, I agree. It is important to communicate about sex and each other's preferences.

Jeepidiot 43M

6/22/2006 8:19 pm

At this point, as long as the sex act involves me then I'm happy. Unfortunately there doesn't seem to be a sex act that calls for me yet.

rm_hotmamaNcols replies on 6/23/2006 12:43 pm:
I don't believe you. You have to be getting more sex than you say you do! You cannot be deprived like that....

rm_jd29992z 55M
3888 posts
6/22/2006 9:28 pm

You are right not for everybody. I think (well for me anyway) to receive oral sex is the greatest complement a woman can give me to show my that she really wants to please me, make me wiggle, shake and scream. As far as something I don't like would be pain not spanking or nipple clamps but draw blood hard pain I am more of a sensual person I guess. Later girl JD

rm_hotmamaNcols replies on 6/23/2006 12:46 pm:
I don't like pain either. A little playful spank here and there, but definately NO drawing blood pain. I think it would start a fight for sure!!

3d60 49M

6/23/2006 12:57 am

nope....been lucky first experience of anal sex was an accident, which to our joint surprise was actually okay!!! ( do you know how your in me ! did I not know.....were you me next mean I back doored you, thought you were a little tighter..sorry.....quite enjoyed it really thats why I didn't stop you....but all the same you can knock, just don't charge in unannounced...)

Showed a couple of women in ,my life the path towards their first orgasms, hard work but satisfying...a lot of communication and reassurance, got them where they wanted to be. Still one persons sex act another persons depravity.

Heres a question tho, after through communication ( or accident! ) a breakthrough is made, should you say thankyou, or act as if its now part of the everyday menu. this should get the cat amongst the pigeons, all me wistfully remembering the less innocent past juv me XX

rm_hotmamaNcols replies on 6/23/2006 12:54 pm:
Depends really. Me personally, after a "breakthrough" I express thanks in my actions. An "oh, that was great!" OR more groping time, extra kisses and such, usually works. I think a verbal "thank you" is in order only if it seems appropriate. As far as acting as if its now part of the everyday menu: if a person does NOT express a distaste for the act, why not? Closed mouths don't get fed.

stides6 36M

6/23/2006 12:50 pm

I dated a girl once who did not like oral. She loved to give it but wanted nothing to do with receiving it. She never even let me try. She said when she let other guys try, it did nothing for her. At first I did not think much of it, but after a while I realized i lived to eat pussy. I know it is not the same thing your friend is going thru, but i left her because of it. On the other hand my current girlfriend cant do it write I would rather slam my dick in a door than let her put it in her mouth. weather giving or receiving is what you want or dont want. One of them is bound to leave the other because they are not saitified.

rm_hotmamaNcols replies on 6/23/2006 1:14 pm:
Lemme get this straight.... You left a girl who gave good head because she didn't care to get head, and end up with a girl that likes to get head but performs very poor head. Talk about head games!! LOL!! Sorry, but I had to laugh at how ironic your situation is.
No seriously, that sucks. To me seall forms) is a contest in which one vies to make the other convulse uncontrollably in sheer ecstasy. I would be pissed at myself if a partner wasn't happy with our sex.

OhioGentArthur 55M

6/23/2006 4:08 pm

Well my wife seems similiar to your girl friend, in that she usually objects to giving oral sex. It seems that generally she simply does not enjoy the taste of cock in her mouth. We have tried flavored gels, flavored condoms, etc, but nothing really seems to work at all, except for being in a shower together. Even then, it only works up to the point that the pre-cum starts leaking out, at which point she is definitely finished.

We manage to muddle through it all. I love to eat pussy, and she loves getting licked.

rm_hotmamaNcols replies on 6/26/2006 7:58 am:
Glad to hear you've worked thru it.

Choozmi 51M

7/4/2006 9:48 am

"Well, everybody has their preferences. You need to talk to him, and see how important oral is to him, before you guys make an argument out of it and resentment settles in."

I thought this was a very wise statement you made. I bet you did your friend some good (if she listened).

To answer your question... So far I've been wilder than almost all of my sex partners (I think) so I haven't encountered anything beyond my limits.

I'm not interested in pain and some of the messier, smellier pursuits that some people on AdultFriendFinder seem to enjoy don't sound enticing to me at all.

Call me old-fashioned, but I'm still into sweet, mushy, loving sex.

rm_hotmamaNcols replies on 7/4/2006 6:26 pm:
I'm into mushy lovin sometimes too, I suppose it depends on my mood or how horny I am. I'm glad to report they have (for now) resolved the oral issue. Visit again, thanks!

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