Here am I  

rm_horny5666 52F
57 posts
4/8/2006 11:55 pm

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Here am I


Here am I posting my regular entry to update friends and those who I may want to know. My injuries have healed for the most part. So I decided to go out just to beat the fear that started to grow inside me from the prior incident. I went to a place where it was quiet but I knew a few people. After I went back to my table from singing a song, a man came up to me. He said,"You are so beautiful. You have a beautiful voice. I love your singing. I heard you talking to your friend and your smart too. With so much going for you, why don't you have a boyfriend?"
I answered, "Because I won't settle for just anything and because I'm smart." He then tried some stale obvious lines on my friend & I. And I wound up telling him if he was going to try to pull those lines again, he'd better practice them at home b4 going out. Obviously I sent him on his way. This man looked dirty and grubby. He smelled and had no sex appeal. His character was phony. And appeared to have the intellect of mole. His overall rating from me was about equal to fungus. Now I know I have to lower my standards or forever be alone. But come on, I know there is a happy median out there.

I am bored sitting around the house. I want to go out for a few drinks with (or meet)a man who looks great, smells great, who isn't attached or married, who is honest and self sufficient and see where it goes. We can party and be friends or we may find we both may want more.

Are you out there?

SinfullySpoiled 51F

4/9/2006 12:28 am

Yes,theres a happy mediam just be patient sweety.


DIVISION77 40M
8337 posts
4/9/2006 12:36 am

I don't know what to say.

I realize you value yourself enough to avoid men that are "dirty and grubby" , but there had to be some reason he thought he could get you.

Is there a happy medium?

I don't know.

Sometimes you just need to seek out what you want, instead of waiting for guys to come to you.

DIV

"My every move is a calculated step, to bring me closer to embrace an early death." -Tupac Shakur


rm_horny5666 52F
15 posts
4/9/2006 2:39 am

To DIV;
or maybe he was provoked at a challenge?
I do like the idea though of seeking them out instead of waiting for them to come to me. In the past I just waited for men to come to me and I accepted or rejected. I thought that was what was expected of a 'real woman'. I had been forward a time or two but scared the poor guy off. What do you think?


rm_smosmof2 68M
3240 posts
4/9/2006 4:00 am

This is the second time (I think) that you've mentioned your songs.

Feel free at some point to talk about music. Where do you sing? What kind of material?

What other musicians do you relate to?

Be warned: don't be looking for a perfect guy who will fulfill all your needs. Ain't no such animal out there. I think that's part of why our society is so messed up now; we were brought up to expect to find the perfect relationship, and when things turn out to not be perfect, there's hell to pay.....


DIVISION77 40M
8337 posts
4/9/2006 9:50 am

    Quoting rm_horny5666:
    To DIV;
    or maybe he was provoked at a challenge?
    I do like the idea though of seeking them out instead of waiting for them to come to me. In the past I just waited for men to come to me and I accepted or rejected. I thought that was what was expected of a 'real woman'. I had been forward a time or two but scared the poor guy off. What do you think?
Honestly, I often wonder about attraction.

I think too many people try to limit themselves to a person they think is "in their league" instead of just seeing a person they find attractive and iniating a conversation.

That's how I differ. If I find a woman attractive, I'll go right up to her and compliment her, usually on her complexion or something about her face that I like and go from there. I see what I want and go for it. It's that simple. If I get rejected, I get rejected. It doesn't bother me because I already know that there are many women who find me attractive, just as there are many who don't find me attractive. I have no way of knowing unless I try. My ego can take it.

Most guys like to initiate contact because it's a man's role. However, if the guy already finds you attractive and you approach him, he shouldn't be scared off unless you persist in being forward. All you need to do is let him know that you are interested and he'll go from there if he wants you. Any more than that and you will turn off most guys. It can be a double edged sword. If you were to approach me like that and I found you attractive, it would work to your advantage. However, if I didn't find you attractive, you would know it right away. Eye contact speaks volumes.

Always remember, that you can get what you want from a man, provided you do it the right way. He has to feel masculine, otherwise you are just going to turn him off. He has to feel like it was his choice to seek you out, even if it was you who saw him. I know it seems counter-intuitive, but that's how the fragile male ego works.

DIV

"My every move is a calculated step, to bring me closer to embrace an early death." -Tupac Shakur


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