just wondering  

rm_hasso352002 50M
2 posts
5/31/2006 8:41 pm

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6/1/2006 7:53 am

just wondering

ok...sitting here and wondering a bit about the girls out there.Why do they tell you."You are such a great guy,and so nice to me,just a wonderfull person"...and THEN they go back to their abusive,controlling,heartless EX's.
Is it because the girls still think they can change a person???Is it that if you make mistakes you get chances again and again and again???Or is it because we never learn to handle a GOOD person????

imLadyBambi 59M/51F

5/31/2006 9:40 pm

Actually, the reasons are quite complex because of the psychology involved in an abusive relationship. In you are truly sincere in your quest for knowledge and your desire to relate to these woman, start by researching "The Stockholm Syndrome" on the internet. Then do some reading on "The Psychology of Abuse."

Now, the real question... What is it about your character or personality that attracts you to women with baggage, co-dependent women, or women who still have an attachment to another? Believe me, it is not by chance!

Ain't psychology a blast!

Lady Bambi

runzwithknives 61F

6/26/2006 7:19 am

Welcome to blogland-albeit a bit late, LOL. No, not change a person or handle a good person. More like don't deserve a good person. Lady Bambi has it right on. Hope to see you post again soon. Hugs.

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