I just have to ask...  

rm_hardtarget00 56M
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3/28/2006 10:59 am

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I just have to ask...


The wonderful ladies here on this site ask so many questions and I hope that everyone that responds to them does so with honesty and intgrity. But I truly have to ask this of the ladies:
I grew up dating just like any male of 'average' looks and physical ability. I was turned down by girls that said I was 'too nice'. I was invited to this site by a lady I find to extremely intelligent and completely sure of herself, not to mention sexy. Until it comes to men. She seems to get bounced around so much I hurt too. So here is the question; How many of you ladies on AdultFriendFinder have enough confidence to in yourself, and who you meet on this site, to enjoy a variety of sexual encounters? Ladies you control the game! How many of you can accept various partners, encounters, and maybe the stigma of "enjoying sex" in what ever way you want it? Ok, so that is more then one question but I gots to know!

SaucyNSassy 40F

3/28/2006 12:23 pm

Hmmmm.... Those are loaded questions for me. In a way, I would love to not take having sex w/ someone SO seriously. I would love to meet a man that I am sexually attracted to and just fuck the hell out of him all night. However, there is that little voice in the back of my head that says "You aren't a slut, no sex on the first date". Sometimes, the voice wins, sometimes it doesn't. lol

"Sassy"

BTW, Nice guys don't finish last. In my world, they finish first... and with me.


rm_hardtarget00 56M
128 posts
3/29/2006 7:29 am

    Quoting SaucyNSassy:
    Hmmmm.... Those are loaded questions for me. In a way, I would love to not take having sex w/ someone SO seriously. I would love to meet a man that I am sexually attracted to and just fuck the hell out of him all night. However, there is that little voice in the back of my head that says "You aren't a slut, no sex on the first date". Sometimes, the voice wins, sometimes it doesn't. lol

    "Sassy"

    BTW, Nice guys don't finish last. In my world, they finish first... and with me.
Oh do not get me wrong! I do not want people to think sex with someone else is not serious. It is deadly serious. Besides all the emotions involved there is HIV and other STD's. I mean, today you should ask for a doctor's note and verify that the note is real. Sex is extremely serious. I know that sexual attraction for women is not just about looks, they help but they are not enough. I know that you ladies need to be seduced intellectually as well. So, I can see the getting to know someone first. Fine, but what about making those connections but having a variety to chose from? Just wondering...


SaucyNSassy 40F

3/30/2006 6:52 pm

Hard, sweetie, I am a big fan of amazing sexual encounters BUT not various. I can't sleep w/ more than one person during a period of time. It would make me feel dirty... Most men dont have that problem.

"Sassy"


tillerbabe 57F

4/10/2006 4:31 am

I've been "bounced around" enough - now I just want love; one on one simple love. "sigh"


rm_hardtarget00 56M
128 posts
5/11/2006 7:04 am

    Quoting SaucyNSassy:
    Hard, sweetie, I am a big fan of amazing sexual encounters BUT not various. I can't sleep w/ more than one person during a period of time. It would make me feel dirty... Most men dont have that problem.

    "Sassy"
I would hope that the intelligent ladies I have communicated with on this site feel the same way you do. By various, and these responses help me clarify, encounters I am saying that you might have a few 'close' confidants for variouse types of encounters. For instance I have friends on this site for different reasons then the people in my daily life. Sassy, in no way am I trying to imply that ladies should be loose or dirty. We men, it seems to be that stupid competitive thing. I fortunately or unfortunately never attracted a lot of women. I never lacked for dates but they never saw "that" way.


rm_hardtarget00 56M
128 posts
5/11/2006 7:06 am

    Quoting catastrophegirl:
    i am perfectly ok with having a variety of encounters but i do insist on my partners having a brain and respecting me and my intelligence. you know that or you and i never would have gotten past the part where i stole your crossword puzzles.
    the hardest part is finding the intelligent trustworthy guys.... especially the nice ones. of which you are one
You just love to butter me up! You actually ispired this sort of introspection. Of course you knew that already.


rm_hardtarget00 56M
128 posts
5/11/2006 7:19 am

    Quoting tillerbabe:
    I've been "bounced around" enough - now I just want love; one on one simple love. "sigh"
Tiller I completely understand. It is hard enough to deal with one relationship not to mention 2 or more. I dated 2 girls on time, in high school, both knew of the other. It was not long until one of them said "Choose". We all want that one, desirable, person to complete the story. We all have pasts which shape who we are. We all have certain type of person we seem to attract. Me, I attract the people I think I can help. (maybe it is me going for that type?) Tiller I wish nothing but the best for you and I hope you get everything that you want. Heck, set your sights on the hunk you've always wanted. I bet you can get him. You have the confidence to run into burning buildings remember.


rm_hardtarget00 56M
128 posts
5/11/2006 7:35 am

Mzhuny, what determines a "right" encounter? I can assure you that I too have attracted my fair share of leaches, emotional , and slugs. I have met only one lady in my life that was so confident in her self that she led me to new sexual experiences. She was a fruit loop but she grabbed me by the ears and just used me. It certainly was not a 'right' encounter by any means but her confidence was extremely sexy. Catastrophe girl is the same way with her confidence. You ladies could, and I do mean could, grab any man you wanted, if it was just about the physical, and go to town. What should we men know about ladies like you and the others here about sexual confidence? For a man to walk up to a lady and whisper "I want to sleep with you" would usually get him slapped. I am not talking about a one nighter. I want understand what we men, as a species, should know to make you ladies comfortable, confident, and secure in the initial meetings. Sex is easy, maybe, but gaining trust and confidence is not. Hell I know with my track record that trust is on short supply.


happyladychat 49F
3740 posts
5/11/2006 4:50 pm

Hey... thanks for visiting my blog... already did the honour to reply on your comment.

Well... for me in AdultFriendFinder... it's just a matter of passing time since I've too much time on hand as a housewife. Although sexy encounters do amazingly crept into my life due to my exposure here... but I don't encourage, and I am very cautious about it.

Cheers.

Make it your challenge.... turn me ON!!


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