Is there sex(life) after 40?  

rm_guithappy413 56M
5 posts
2/15/2005 7:04 pm

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Is there sex(life) after 40?

In which a middle aged man tries to get his mojo back...

If you're reading, hello. I thought I'd try this blog because I'm always looking for a creative outlet...and because it helps me to understand my life better if I write.

So here goes. In 2000, I left the country to be with my wife (at the time), an Austrian diplomat. To be truthful, I was a little bored with my life as it was, my fourteen year career working for magazines, New York in general.

My relationship was strong. We were newylweds who had sex whenever and wherever we could. I was looking forward to the adventure as we set out for Damascus, Syria.

Nearly four years later, I was still enjoying the adventure. I can't say that my relationship was doing so well. Among other issues, we rarely had sex, though when we did, it was still great for me; I assumed it was for her, but I may have been wrong.

So in October of 2003, we started our new life in Lagos, Nigeria. After only three weeks there, it all came to a crashing halt when my wife told me that she didn't want to stay married anymore, that she thought she could do better (she'd begun an internet affair with a man in Kenya, I later learned).

Flash forward to January 2004, about the time I joined AdultFriendFinder. I was back in New York (this time in Brooklyn), reestablishing my career and beginning to get involved in bluegrass music, a scene I was lucky to find and for which I'm incredibly grateful. I sing, play guitar, and am learning to play the mandolin.

I wish I could say that my sex life was going as well as the rest of my life, but, sadly, that isn't true. I love sex. I love women. And yet, I've always had a difficult time connecting with them.

I'm hoping 2005 will be different. I do have sexual adventures--and misadventures--but not enough to satisfy what increasingly becomes a stronger and stronger libido. I'm not sure why that is. I know my libido is supposed to subside at this age, and yet it doesn't. It just keeps getting stronger and stronger. Go figure.

About AdultFriendFinder: I really haven't met very many people here. It's hard to get people to commit to meeting, and forget about the chat rooms--fucking juvenile bullshit.

Anyway, look for more. There are a lot of beautiful women on this site, and I'd look to meet some. But I'm not holding my breath.

0nno61 56M
228 posts
7/21/2006 5:08 pm

Good luck in finding what you want.
Tell us when you find it....



0nno61 56M
228 posts
9/17/2006 2:25 pm

I found part of it via AdultFriendFinder.
I disagree with you on the Chat rooms; sure part is juvenile.. you just need to find teh right room(s) ....

I am 40+ and met some nice people via AdultFriendFinder



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