ever fallen in love with someone you shouldnt have  

rm_greedycat2 65F
72 posts
3/17/2005 5:50 am

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ever fallen in love with someone you shouldnt have

it happens...it's easy to think oh!its just sex...but what happens when you clic so well the lust turns into love..oh yes!! not the plan when you first set out to have fun n games...you love the sex only at first then that person starts to get under your skin..dont matter how hard you fight it and telling yourself this is just for fun..your hooked...now the question is do you hang around and take what comes or get out as quick as possible?
and another question...can you love two people at once?
and another...will the sex be less enjoyable because of love thing?

NiceAndThick101 70M
38 posts
3/17/2005 7:30 am

yes you can love 2 people at once. but it depends on you for if you will hurt one or both of them. the sex can be wonderful ... it's the head game that will drive you crazy! maybe you can have the best of both worlds ..2 lovers who aren't jealous of each other. if you think you will hurt someone, then run before it turns to disaster, and chalk it up to experience.
good lick,

Gunslinger1954 64M

3/17/2005 8:54 am

Yes, I have. And what a wrenching and wild ride it was. It started with a night (all night) of sex that took both of us to places we had never been before. I'm talking headboard breaking, howling at the moon, making little fists with your feet and hotel call the cops stuff. There was just something about her that totally captivated me. She could keep me hard for 10 hours straight. We couldn't stop, couldn't get enough of each other. We fell in love, our relationship lasted for six months. She broke it off because she thought she wasn't good enough for me. (WRONG!) I still love her and think about her every day. It's so bad, I write her letters I know she's never going to see. I did hang around to take what came, and it was not pretty on any front. Pain all the way around.
As far as sex being less enjoyable because of the love thing - it wasn't for us. It kept getting better as time passed. Talk about passion! I could give her an orgasm by just kissing her mouth with no other body contact. She wanted to do a threesome with another woman but it didn't happen before I lost her. (I'm 50, she's 32)
Yes, you can love two people at the same time.
My advise? I wouldn't wish this pain on anyone. If there isn't a good, solid chance for it to develope into a long term relationship with no impediments, DON'T FALL IN LOVE!
If it's sex your after, think partner, friend, fuck buddy, anything but love.
There's an interesting story behind how we met if anybody's interested.
Good luck, be careful,

rm_greedycat2 65F
46 posts
3/17/2005 9:58 am

Hi Gunslinger1954...know exactly what you mean...started off just being fuck buddie...sex was and still is awesome...no way it can be anymore than a friendship and really good sex...he's been hurt bad and cant let himself get into relationship...which is ok with me...i dont want to leave partner...just want both but then im greedy..its just the not wanting to leave,wanting more n more....to be honest if we could all live together id go for it.
would like to hear your story

Gunslinger1954 64M

3/17/2005 1:33 pm

Good afternoon greedycat2-Now I understand your handle. I also understand the not wanting to leave, wanting more and more part. In that regard I too am greedy. I would have loved to have them both. Thanks for your interest in the story. I'm having all this mental shit going on and have no one to talk to about it. Telling stories about it might help. Here goes:
For background: I am a successful businessman, had my own business for 25 years and was bought out by a large corporation who wanted me to manage their business interests in California. Been married for almost 30 years and have 4 wonderful children. Wife has no interest in sex. I am one affectionate, loving and horny man. Sex is on mind 24/7. I have never cheated despite lots of opportunities. I think the women at Safeway even had a pool going once about who could nail me first. And they tried real hard. I don't go to bars and I don't chase women.
OK - I'm on a business trip to Sacramento, it's early evening, doing work on the computer and I'm out of wine so I decide to go to the bar and get a glass. At the bar the world series in on big screen TV so I decide to take a break and watch for a while. A very cute 27 year old blonde shows up, sits down next to me and strikes up a conversation. She says a friend was supposed to meet her there in half an hour. We hit it off and had a good conversation. I stayed for about an hour and she had about 3 drinks to every one of mine. She seemed really worried about her friend and called her several times. I say goodbye, gotta get back to work and head back up to my room. About an hour later I decide to go for a walk and heard a ruckus as I passed the bar. The blond is in an argument with this bad looking guy and it looked like something violent was about to happen. I went in there and ran the guy off. She told me that her friend still had not shown up and she was worried sick about her. She was also plastered. I said I would sit with her for a while and wait for her friend. As she kept drinking I looked around and realised that there were about 4 creepy guys in there that were waiting for her to hit the ground. I finally talked her into taking a break on the drinking and get something to eat before the resturant closed. I almost had to carry her into the resturant and only about half of the clam chowder made it to her mouth. She was making quite a scene and I could tell she was about to pass out. I didn't know what the hell to do with her. Two of the creeps even followed us into the resturant.I finally told her that her friend was not going to show up and offered to get her a cab. She said "can I pass out in your room?". I thought, oh, what the hell else am I going to do with her? She would either end up in jail or . So I half carry her to the elevator then down the hall to my room. Once in the room, I opened up the bed, turned around and she's standing there naked. I noticed she has exactly 3 articles of clothing - 2 shoes and one dress. She jumps into the bed, looks at me and says "now I suppose your going to fuck me". God, she was pretty and I was hard as a rock. I said no, not tonight sweetie. She then passed out cold. I Took off my clothes and hopped on my side of the bed and thought "how in the hell could this happen?". Couldn't sleep. Felt like my dick was going to explode it was so hard. About three hours later she wakes up and climbs on top of me. My brain was in a blender, I didn't want to cheat but I had to do something. I rolled her over on her back and went down on her giving her a good tounge lashing until she came, pulling my hair and beating my back and shoulders with her feet. When she caught her breath she said "oh, my god, thank you, that was the best I have ever had!". Then she passed out for good. I had an early meeting in the morning so I got ready, woke her up and said she could stay until I got back around 10:00. Had a hard time concentrating on the meeting. I couldn't believe what had happened, couldn't believe she was still in my room with my computer and all my stuff. I began to wonder if I would ever see my stuff again. Hell, I didn't even know this person. As I approached my room I could hear laughter coming from it and thought well, at least she and my stuff is still there and she must have found her friend. I take a deep breath and walk into the room. My blonde friend is sitting in a chair and sitting in my bed was one of the most beautiful women I have ever laid eyes on. The minute our eyes met it was over. I never believed in love at first sight, but this was it...
There's more...
Hope I didn't bore Ya'll
Thanks for asking...

rm_greedycat2 65F
46 posts
3/18/2005 1:20 am

no definatly not bored...please carry on..oh do you want to air this on here or would you rather chat in private...you can use me as sounding board no probs

Gunslinger1954 64M

3/18/2005 5:54 am

Hi greedycat. Thanks for the sounding board offer. It looks like we have similar afflictions. Communicating with someone who understands the situation might help me find some peace. And maybe I can help you find some peace, too. Let's chat in private.

ReadyToTango46 59M
161 posts
3/18/2005 8:08 am

Chat in private? Hey, no fair! I want to hear the rest of the story.

About the falling in love thing, yes, I can relate to that. It is simply not possible for me to have intimate contact with a woman without some sort of emotional attachment getting mixed up in it. That's why I don't do one-nighters. Besides, I think sex with someone you know, trust, and care about is MUCH better than with a stranger.

CuntSlurpa 47M
131 posts
3/18/2005 10:03 am

Hey Greedycat,

I guess I'm just lucky. I love my wife (even if the sex thing is lacking) and would never choose to leave her. I would certainly not say that I felt the same kind of affection for my (now sadly no longer available) fuck-buddy. Sure, I wouldn't intentinally hurt her, but my wife would *always* come first.

Gunslinger1954 64M

3/18/2005 11:51 am

Well, that makes two. Does anyone else out there want to hear the whole story? I just sent the next chapter to greedycat. If folks are interested I could put them here. Thanks,and good comment, Tango46

Cathy_Dave 55M/55F

3/18/2005 5:51 pm

Sure lust can turn to love and in our case it has been wonderful. I had just gotten out of a crappy relationship and a guy I worked with was in the same boat. Neither one of us wanted any kind of a serious relationship at that time.....hell we weren't even interested in dating anyone.....we both found out that we were single again.....I had always found him sexy......he had always found me sexy ......anyway to make a long story short we started talking more and more......there was deffinetely lust between us......nothing more.......we were both horny.....we were both available.......we got together for one night of sex nothing more.....one night became two.....then three.....then we found ourselves getting together on a regular bases fucking each others brains out.....the sex was increadable......only one thing changed.....besides enjoying sex together we started becomming closer.....it was like we had always known each other yet we had only worked together for almost a year and had only been fucking each other for a couple months......the sex continued......the talking continued......and we are not sure when but we both fell in love. We have been married 15 years now and the sex is still increadable and so is our relationship......Cathy

Gunslinger1954 64M

3/20/2005 3:44 pm

For those interested in the continuation of the Gunslinger's love story, here's the next chapter. Thanks for your interest.
The Bonnie Chronicles, Part 2:
Our eyes locked. I stopped in my tracks and it seemed like a year had passed when I noticed the blond was looking back and fourth between us with a look of horrified facination. The facination turned to alarm and she jumped up and got between us and made introductions. Her name was Bonnie. I sat down and chatted with them for about an hour. We talked about everything including a lot of subject matter regarding sex that I have never spoken so openly about with any women. We talked about my marriage, family and the sad state of affairs of my sex life. Bonnie thanked me for taking care of her friend. On impulse I fed both of them some fresh cherries I had brought from a farmers market outside the hotel. The way Bonnie took hers in her mouth while looking directly at me made my blood boil. When it was time for them to go I asked if I could call Bonnie sometime and the blond quickly said no, she can't take calls like that. She scribbled her own name and number down for me and said to call next time I'm in town. Bonnie gave me a smoldering look as they went out the door. As I stood there after they left, there were a thousand things running through my mind. What just happened? Are you crazy to think that beautiful woman has any interest in your 50 year old ass? Hello in there, you are married, right? The one thought that stood out from the rest was: I have got to see Bonnie again. I have no chioce. Three days later I'm back in Sacramento again. After screwing up my courage I give the blond a call in the afternoon. I had no idea what I was going to say or how I was going to somehow get to Bonnie through her but she was my only link. She was glad to hear from me and said she would call later, maybe we could have some drinks. I cringed at that because I had a feeling if we did I would end up scraping her up off the floor again. So, later on I'm in a resturant bar and get a call from...Bonnie! She said blondie was sick and she got my number out of her cell phone. Would it be OK if we could have dinner tonight? After regaining my composure, I said yes, I would love to have dinner with you. So about half an hour later into the bar walks this well dressed absolutly beautiful woman that was so striking, I swear the place went quiet. (Think Catherine Zete-Jones on her best day) I stood up and she calmly walked towards me, looking directly into my eyes with her beautiful dark blue eyes. All eyes in the place were following her. She stopped in front of me, still looking me directly in the eye, put her arms around my neck, and kissed me on the lips. I think I was half hard when she was at about 10 feet from me, and fully erect before her lips touched mine.

rm_greedycat2 65F
46 posts
3/23/2005 9:09 am

Hey Gunslinger wheres the rest lol

Gunslinger1954 64M

3/24/2005 2:26 pm

All I need is a little goose and I come right back to life.
The Bonnie Chronicles, Part3:

When we broke off the kiss she took my hands, looked into my eyes, smiling the most angelic smile I have ever seen, and said "Hi, I'm Bonnie". As the hubbub from our spectacle quieted down we sat down at a table. She drug her chair around so she could sit close to me. I was glad to sit down because I had a raging hard on and I could hear several comments about it from around the bar. After sitting down we just sat there for a while looking into each others eyes. She told me something that I would hear often for the duration of our relationship "you have the most beautiful, stunning and moving eyes I have ever seen". I told her they were nothing compared to hers. We continued looking each in the eye. She brought her face close to mine and said "you also have a huge cock". Hearing this, Delivered in the most erotic fashon possible, after years of pent up sexual frustration, I came very close to losing my load right there. I remember thinking to myself - god, boy don't do it now, get a hold of yourself. A waiter came, I ordered wine and she asked for a menu and told the waiter we were in a hurry. I nearly blew again as she said that to the waiter while looking into my eyes and smiling. I had thought my brain was in a blender a few nights ago - this time it was more like a centrifuge. Mercy, the thoughts going through my head, for at this point there wasn't much question what this was leading up to. I had not slept with another woman for thirty years. Even with the pent up sexual frustration built up over that time, would I be able to satisfy her? What about endurance? I'm 50, she's 31, could I do it? In my younger days I was capable of having sex for hours on end. My wife gauged the quality of sex based on how short a time it took to complete so I had not had much practice at the marathon sex I had once prided myself in. The food came and we finally settled into a conversation, telling each other selected information from our lives. She wanted to know everything about me and my family and I was very open and honest with her. She thanked me for "saving" her friend and being such a gentleman. When she went to my room she said she looked over everything because she wanted to know what kind of man had rescued blondie. She opened my suitcase and looked at my clothes and was impressed that they were organized and folded. She said she couldn't believe that I had ironed blondies dress and charged up her cell phone while she was passed out. She smelled my cologne and approved. Checked out my toiletries and approved. She said she was intrigued by me before I ever stepped into the room. I said I was lucky she wasn't a thief and she agreed. We finished dinner in record time. When the bill was paid she gave me another of those smoldering looks and said "I don't have a car, could you take me to your room, please".

sportyfun56 107M

3/26/2005 4:33 pm

Well i have a near miss situation related to the subject of this blog.
But what the heck.. Forget mine... get on with it Gunslinger. Yours beats mine like a red headed step child.

Gunslinger1954 64M

3/30/2005 7:45 am

A beautiful woman and a fellow tortured soul want more. I won't leave you unfulfilled.

The Bonnie Chronicles, Part 4

It's hard to describe the way she was looking at me and the way it made me feel. I described it as "smoldering" but that word doesn't really do it justice. It was like she was looking into my soul, read it, and was offering something wonderful and beautiful that it desperately needed. In reading what I have written so far in this tale, one might think parts of it sound kind of sleazy. I can tell you that none of it felt sleazy. There was a powerful feeling of destiny from the time our eyes locked in that hotel room. Now, back at the resturant that feeling of destiny was almost overwhelming. Looking into her eyes, there was no question that she felt it too. We held hands while exiting the resturant and walking out to my truck. Yup, upscale redneck 1 ton ford crew cab with a diesel engine. I opened the door for her and helped her up into the cab and she gave me an approving smile. When we got to the room I poured her a drink and we sat on the couch and quietly looked into each others eyes. It was like there was a constant stream of information passing between us. I have never experienced anything quite like it. It was like we were both on another plane and didn't need to talk because we were already comunicating very well, thank you. I finally asked her what it was that made her want to see me again. She said that before she saw me she was intrigued by what I had done for her friend and her examination of my belongings. She said that when I walked into the room she saw a muscular, handsome man that moved like a cat. "Then you looked into my eyes and my heart just stopped".

very well, thank you.

rm_greedycat2 65F
46 posts
3/31/2005 10:08 pm

Gunslinger I'm leaving AdultFriendFinder but want to hear the rest of your story please.

Gunslinger1954 64M

4/1/2005 9:42 am

Well, folks, what's your pleasure? I guess I could start my own blog for the story but it seems like if I do, I should start again at the beginning. Your thoughts? Greedycat, will you be able to log on and see the rest of the story if I do that? Thank you asking your question and giving me a place to and the idea for writing the story. I think it is helping me deal with my pain over Bonnie. I hope your love triangle works out with nobody getting hurt.

rm_greedycat2 65F
46 posts
4/2/2005 10:54 pm

Yes.... I'm only shutting profile down and not accepting any more new emails.
I'm so glad my lifes touched yours and helped a bit towards your healing as for my "triangle" we will be fine we all understand each other now since being open with all our feelings...I love them, they love me and best of all they like each other.
I'll be looking forward to your blog

Take care all of you and thanks to you all for your input.
Greedy xxxx

we11hard 49M

9/5/2005 4:50 pm

Yes i too found that i love two women who are both married, one from this site and one who is a friend, the latter i love the most and she is fantastic, bisexual and we have fun. Where as the other lady in question is also fanstastic and great kisser and gives the best blow jobs ever. the first woman dosn't know about second one but the second one knows about the first and is ok about it.
Love them both but in different ways. would certainly marry the first

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