Double Standards  

rm_flomax 46M/53F
7 posts
4/12/2005 8:15 am

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7/26/2006 4:55 pm

Double Standards

Why is it if a woman wants to be with another women and be considered bi, we all say that is great. If a guy wants to be with another guy and be considered bi the world thinks that it is not acceptable.

Apolybear 55M

4/13/2005 9:19 pm

Bi and gay men have always been stigmatized in our society. Actually, there's many right wing conservatives that consider any kind of same sex relating, to be blasphemous. It’s all ignorance and religious dogma…


7/13/2005 3:22 pm

Hey y'all
Apolybear, I couldn't have said it better myself..only to add that the world abhors sex in public and is obsessed with it in private. Why do you think TVs/CDs/ TGs keep such a low profile? I'm TV and I don't care what the next guy thinks...he hasn't walked a mile in my shoes...

1 post
1/11/2006 7:42 pm

There's no difference, really... other than the fact that two women making love tends to be a much more visually pleasing sight to MOST people. It is a double standard and it's wrong. If somebody is attracted to both sexes then more power to them! I think bisexuals are lucky in a way, they have twice as many options as straight people. Hell, I'd consider being bi if I wasn't so afraid my butt would hurt too much afterwards.

rm_goodguy656 47M
1 post
7/24/2006 7:05 pm

First of all the majority of people that usually react negatively to men being bi, are narrow minded, loud mouthed, scared men (or should I say boys). These men will jump at the slightest chance to engage in anal with women, yet claim that they would never let her do the same to them; knowing all along that the best bj they ever had was by the girl that fingered during the act.Then ,there are some women out there that find it down right unattractive. And this is more than likely due to being raised by a father with the above atitude. I think the more open you are about everything in life , makes it eaiser to find what makes you happy and satisfied.

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7/29/2006 11:02 am

I don't think that it's quite that simple. Both my girlfriend and I are bi and we've discussed this many times.

It's up in the air as to whether straight women approached by women are more or less vicious in their reponses. I say men are much worse, even if it's only because a woman isn't going to hit you as hard.

Lesbians don't like bi girls, and gay men don't like bi guys. Of course this is a generalization, I'm only referring to when people are looking for an SO, sex is sex.

Straight men like lesbians as well as bi girls and straight girls that are just pretending for attentions. Straight men they're very vocal about it. It's permeated our culture, become a norm. A lot of striaght women like gay men (Sex and the City anyone?) but they don't view them in a sexual way, we can be like girlfriends. In my experience, and this comes up rather often as a topic with my friends as well as random straight women, straight women don't like bi guys as much, we're not as "safe".

So I say that it's not "what the world thinks", the world has to be broken up into different groups and their feelings are and what they want. Next you have to take into account that this is a male dominated society.

Just for the record, I'm not a socialogist, psychologist, politically motivated or anything like that. I work in informatics in the hard sciences.

7 posts
8/16/2006 6:45 pm

sad but true !

kellybar200 64M

3/29/2009 6:09 pm

Not really sure about the reason behind it all, but it does seem to be true. I became "bi" between the stockinged thighs of a TV and loved it at once. But I would not have taken that step at that time with a regular guy. It took a guy with a femine touch. Go ahead, laugh. I did later myself. Then went back for so much more! Love grrls!

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