Brutal Honesty  

rm_fatty15451 54F
49 posts
5/25/2006 6:30 am
Brutal Honesty

What is it to be a bitch? I have been called a bitch on many occasions. Most of the time it is by someone who simply is turning a blind eye to their own personality flaws or someone who takes offense to my refusal to compromise my own beliefs and opinions.

Like just about every woman on this planet, I have been called a bitch by a man when I refused his advances, or when questioned about my refusal to interact with him on any level. In these situations it is quite clear by the person's tone of voice that they are of the opinion that my being a bitch is a negative thing. I see it as doing them a favor. Most of us know of at least one man who goes through life completely oblivious to the fact that he is repulsive to the vast majority of the women he meets.

For example, I was recently in a bar with a friend when a man approached me and offered to buy me a drink. I tactfully declined stating that I already had a drink, thanked him for his offer, and resumed my conversation with my friend. He did not retreat, instead changing his tactics by asking me if I would like to dance. Once again I refused, politely, and went back to my conversation. At that point he interrupted again with an invitation to leave the bar, and go have dinner with him. It was at that moment that I realized this man would not leave, so I opted to use a different approach: I asked him to please explain to me what was compelling him to make an ass of himself by continuing with his one-sided flirtation. I pointed out to him that I was well aware that a guy conducts himself in his manner clearly had no interest in anything outside of a woman's panties. I let him know that it was highly unlikely that I would ever be willing to have sex with him, but in the event that he grew some hair, brushed his teeth, applied deodorant and donned clean clothes, or every other male on Earth vanished, I would reconsider his offers.

While I am well aware that my response was abrupt, I don't believe it was unwarranted. The man wouldn't take a polite NO for an answer. He clearly had no idea how offensive he was in both manner and appearance. I believe that by pointing out these reasons I was doing him a favor as he was mislead in his beliefs that women find pushy, smelly men with poor taste in clothes attractive. How he came to this conclusion in this day and age boggles me. He approaches women that he finds sexually "attractive" with NO realization that anyone who would return his advances would have to find HIM attractive. Let's face it: guys like this do not initiate interactions with complete strangers because they think the woman has a sound character.

The initial reason for a person to approach a total stranger is based on mainly physical attraction. Because I was honest about what I found physically UNATTRACTIVE about him, he labeled me a bitch. I have always held the opinion that by NOT being honest with someone, (whether or not the truth was what they wanted to hear), I am doing them more of a disservice than by just being brutally straightforward. Too many women are dishonest and put a man's immediate feelings first. They are willing to ridicule him behind his back, but not tell him the outright truth. This kind of woman will fake an orgasm and tell a guy he was great, when in reality she mentally wrote her grocery list. She'll then laugh about it with her girlfriends at the bar the next night. The guy will then go through life employing the same sexual techniques thinking they were successful and in doing this, he will be the brunt of many jokes by the women he has slept with.

Don't be afraid of being called a Bitch. I say if a man sucks in bed, let him know! The next time a girl in the office asks you if she looks fat in her skirt, tell her the truth! If at the end of a particularly horrible date a guy asks you if he could call you, say "No"! If we all just try to tap-dance around the truth and just hope someone else will tell them, they will continue to go through life making asses of themselves when the truth MIGHT help them improve, thus possibly eliminate future heartaches for them and at the very least, future headaches for you.

1973GAL 45F

5/25/2006 7:25 am

You are so rite..the truth is much better than lying about your experience or preference!!!

rm_lovesex1315 54M
8 posts
5/28/2006 6:04 am

truth and honesty is the perfect thing even if it hurts.
whoever cann't afford it its his or her problem

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