children at play  

rm_dynamut 38M/36F
11 posts
4/24/2005 6:29 pm

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children at play

How many people have had aproblem getting out to play because they have kids? We have two, ages 2 and 6. Whenever we meet someone nine times out of ten its at our house. Some people dont understand that the kids will be here if we play. How many of you would turn down the chanse to play because the kids are home.

wyvernrose 39F  
3964 posts
4/24/2005 9:09 pm

it depends on their ages, absolute cut off is kids over 3-4 they notice they talk and they are infamous for making excuses late at night and being scared.....looking for mum and dad, do yourself a favour you will just frustrate yourself if you try to play around their attempts to stretch bed times we tried to push it about 6 months before I fell pregnant and just got frustrated now SD is living here it is a no brainer, having 3-4 people playing in the house just can't be done discreetly, save up do it less frequently when you do get a hotel room and send them to stay with their grandparents for the night you will enjoy it much more than the stuffing around. meeting people isn't such a hassle with the kids around provided they are not pushy, understand that nothing will be happening......some people DO NOT understand this!


smileguyqc 54M

5/13/2005 11:00 am

We have 4 and yes it makes things very difficult. The cost of baby sitters inhibits us from going out together so we go out independently. I'd rather not do it this way but thats how it is. Other people that we've met aren't comfortable coming to our place while the kids are here even if they are sleeping. I suppose the comfort level would depend on how your home is arranged how much privacy there is.

chubbyncchick 42F
16 posts
7/11/2005 11:38 pm

I hope this doesn't come across as bitchy, because I certaintly don't mean it that way.

But yes, I would probably turn down the opportunity if I knew kids might be around. Granted, I'm not a huge fans of kids anyway.. but doesn't really have anything to do with it.

What I mean is, for me, feeling comfortable in these situations is very important. Whether it be with a man, women, or couple I must feel comfortable and secure in the situation. If kids are trotting around, and even if it's past their bedtimes, just knowing that they might knock on the door or walk in just creeps me out too much.

I'm sure you have friends or families that wouldn't mind taking the kids for a few hours on an afternoon.. or possibly get them a babysitter or other means of childcare.

I don't think asking parents to be responsible enough to remove their children from these situations is too much to ask.

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