Chance Encounter  

rm_dragonheat23 52M
977 posts
6/19/2006 8:27 am

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Chance Encounter

The darker side of human nature fascinates me. That being said, I had a very interesting experience this past weekend.
I was going to pick up my son. On the way, I was passing through a “low income” part of Detroit. I needed gas, so I pulled off the expressway into a gas station. I got out of my car to pump and a older gentleman walked up to and offered to pump my gas for a quarter. I said no thanks, and he walked away toward another person. Something about this man intrigued me so after I finished pumping, I motioned him over.
I asked him, “If I give you money, what are you going to use it for?”
He told me that he hadn’t eaten and was very hungry; he was going to buy some food.
I said “I can go inside and buy you a sandwich and a pop for four dollars or I can give you two dollars to buy whatever demon haunts you. Which would you prefer?”
His mouth kind of dropped and he looked at the ground. After a few seconds he looked up and said “I’ll take the two, I’m a drinker sir”
I handed him two singles and said “I’m not here to judge you, that is someone else’s job.”
He took the money, thanked me and began to walk away.
I went back inside, bought a sandwich and a Pepsi and caught up to him a short distance from the gas station.
I got out of the car handed him the bag with the food and pop and said “Here. You probably are hungry.”
He thanked me, blessed me and sat down against a building and opened the bag.
As I got back into my car, I looked back at him and could see he had his head in his hands and his shoulders were jerking as he cried.
I drove away to continue with my life and left him to his.

HBowt2 60F

6/19/2006 11:28 am

Kindness....such a rare quality these days....

rm_dragonheat23 replies on 6/20/2006 6:58 am:
It's kind of funny that I chose to take that exit ramp to get the gas. It's like our paths were meant to cross. Thank you for your kind words.

pet_humility 50F

6/19/2006 11:42 am

I have done that often.
It actually use to bother me that I couldn't do it for all of them.
Then I relised not all of them want help. So when I give them money I am just donateing to their death warrant, so I stopped doing it.
It still kills me, but well you know...

rm_dragonheat23 replies on 6/20/2006 7:00 am:
I know what you mean. On one hand, I was contributing to his self destruction, but that is his choice.

534 posts
6/19/2006 1:39 pm

What a guy you are.....dam it...Once I was in a fast food joint and a homeless guy walks in...held the door for an elderly couple...I thought that was so kind of him.....I heard thru the grapevine that he has some kids...I guess he just had a breakdown....But I walked up to him and gave him $10.00....he thanked me....

Two kinds of people in this world "givers and takers" ...

Thanks for sharing..


rm_dragonheat23 replies on 6/20/2006 7:02 am:
Glad to know that there are other givers out there. I doubt that I really made any difference in his life, but he did have a small impact in mine

Notfunanymore 106F
10289 posts
6/19/2006 2:50 pm

Very nice.

rm_dragonheat23 replies on 6/20/2006 7:03 am:
Thank you, Notfun

moonfire2u 71F
2602 posts
6/19/2006 4:44 pm

I think the thing I like the most about your you didn't judge him...I feel you either give someone the money or you don' isn't up to us to judge anyone...I have done both myself...sometimes...I have given away my last few dollars...figuring someone else was worse off than me...I also believe that good things you do create ripples and bring good things back to you...I believe you are a good man...who deserves lots of good things...

kind thoughts,

rm_dragonheat23 replies on 6/20/2006 7:12 am:
I don't judge others. That really is not up to me. I also believe that the choices you make do come back to you. I don't know that he has much choice in his situation, but I don't know his story, so I can't judge the morality of what he does. For all I know, maybe that encounter made him start cleaning up his act. Maybe not, I'll never know.

aascrompn 43M
6444 posts
6/20/2006 9:02 am

You stated more by not stating a thing... I love it!

Whispersoftly5 53F
15176 posts
6/20/2006 6:05 pm

I've offered to buy food before and have been turned down. I gave money anyway, but I really don't do that anymore.

Interesting experience you had. I don't know that I would ever say what you did, but I thought it was a good test when reading it. You were so nice to help him out.


julie4daddy34 46F
599 posts
6/21/2006 3:32 am

We never really know why those people wind up like they do..but its not our place to know either. I was really touched by your story and its nice to know there are still kind people in the world.

CalicoSexKitten 51F
1880 posts
6/22/2006 6:39 pm

Okay, you made me cry on this one. I can NOT stand to see (or hear about) a grown man crying. Never have - I don't suppose I ever will. If I'd have been there, I would have been bawling after seeing him do that. It's also sad to see someone so desperate.

Thank you SO much for helping him and thanks for sharing with us. I'm gonna have this in my head all night long. This is an instance where I believe in human kindness again.

Such a bittersweet story...

Calico =^..^=

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