I just don't care for all the BS sometimes  

rm_curious9825 56M
8 posts
5/9/2006 4:37 pm

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I just don't care for all the BS sometimes

You know, on the surface AdultFriendFinder seems like just what it is. A place to meet (and hopefully hook up with) people.

Therein lies the problem. People. I guess that it's this alter ego Internet thing or something, but I am not finding too many of the people here all that honest and open. Now don't get upset with me! I understand that everyone is different. I myself am probably a little too open and honest. So you are asking yourself, why am I even here in the first place? Right?

I am in a committed relationship with someone whom I care for deeply. I have been in a caretaker's role for the past 5 years now, due to illness on her part. She is doing wonderfully, and is as healthy as most anyone is now I guess.

But there is a problem. We no longer seem to connect on the physical level anymore. It is like she has forgotten how to be intimate. It has been about 5 years now, and some days it just drives me nuts! I am not looking for someone to replace what I have. Just someone like-minded enough to have some interesting times together, when it is possible.

So here I am, blogging to you all, who probably could give a rip about me and my petty problems. But I thought it might be helpful in understanding me, for those of you that are interested.

Please let me know what you think.

clevergirl4U 59F

5/9/2006 5:12 pm

Well, I'm not sure what kind of BS you are coming across.

It takes TIME to get to know people here. Go read lots of blogs and see what people have to say. Be sure and and always leave some kind of comment...meaningful, if possible...they want to know that you "get" what they are writing. Find a few blogs that you LIKE and can relate to...put them on your "Watched List" and visit them often. Let them get to know you.

Not EVERYONE in the blogs is "looking" for someone. Make friends. See where it takes you Good luck!

The flirting and chatting that you see here is going on between people who have known each other for several months

LaPlaytogether 64M/64F

5/9/2006 5:14 pm

I am sorry for your situation and wish you and your wife well...
you are very correct about some of the people on this site. We play together and both bi....
our experiences has been with emails back and forth, he calls and talks to them to get an idea where they are coming from, sets up a date and then...nothing...no phone call...nothing.
seems most here are just all talk.....
Good luck to you

rm_PurryKitty2 49M/51F
9753 posts
5/9/2006 5:29 pm

My recommendation is let her log on and read some of the blogs and profiles and i bet she gets stimulated and then the two of you can share this.

Purry {=}


dirtynastygirl2 55F

5/9/2006 5:43 pm

Is her lack of sexual interest due to a physical issue? You mentioned medical problems. I am curious also have the two of you talked about your physical needs? I know a little about this issue, which is why I am asking.


rm_curious9825 56M
26 posts
5/9/2006 6:59 pm

Thanks for the advice clevergirl. What you said make sense.

rm_curious9825 56M
26 posts
5/9/2006 7:06 pm

No DNG2,

Mainly her lack of interest seems to be from her meds.

Honestly, I don't even know how to bring the subject up anymore... Thanks for asking though.

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