rm_cumalicking 52F
15 posts
6/21/2006 4:57 pm


roundtownguy 51M

6/21/2006 5:13 pm

Honestly...the outlook is bleak. If this guy leaves his wife for you, you will always remember that and wonder if he is going behind your back. If you love him enough to remain "the other woman" then stay with him. Though his lack of honesty in the situation should probably be a good indication of the kind of future you can expect with such a man.

rm_NAVYGAL07 48F
19 posts
6/21/2006 5:16 pm

Sorry to hear that you have been with a married man and have fallen for him. What are his plans? Is he planning to stay with his wife or leave her or is it vise versa? From there, you should be able to find s reasonable answer. Plus, remember what he has done to his wife now does not mean he will not do it to you later down the road.

Once a cheat always a cheat..... once a dog, throw him a bone !!!

My husband is cheating on me or had. I know the wifes feelings and point of view. Not a good one. Is the guy from on here? Willing to share his name?


rm_Dragonwolf64 53F
678 posts
6/21/2006 5:34 pm

How can u trust a person who keeps something that important from u for 3 months? It's not about whether u would still have gone there if you had known - it's about having an expectation from a situation when all the time the important facts are being withheld. What else are they keeping from u? You have the right to be informed and to make informed choices. You've been blindfolded against your will and nobody walks into a mine field with a blindfold on. Have some courage and self worth, u deserve much better, give them the flick and move on. You CAN do it.

rm_ironhead1956 61M
275 posts
6/21/2006 5:40 pm

If this guy was really serious, the next thing to do is talk to him and find out what he intents to do next, it's his call. When he makes up his mind, the next decision is yours. You'll either be with him, or have to think with your head and not your heart right now, (I know its hard, most of us have been there), and decide whats really best for you, and how best to move on. LOT OF LUCK TO YOU.

49AK 56M
1823 posts
6/21/2006 6:28 pm

This is easy for me to say... The one thing you want is honesty. If you don't have it on something that basic, you'll always be asking questions...

imLadyBambi 59M/51F

6/21/2006 6:29 pm

Dear Cum,

Certainly you realize that the only thing to do is to cut off all contact with him. Let's face it, he has disrespected you by misleading you (lying to you), he is disrespecting his wife, he is untrustworthy, he uses people, and quite frankly, this character is greatly flawed.

The problem always comes in when the heart and the mind do not want to do the same thing. Perhaps the question you are really asking is: how can I continue to see this man and minimize the emotional pain?

One way is to take on a second lover. Another way is to come to full terms with the fact that you will never have this man (even if you have him physically, he is to selfish and dishonest for you to have him emotionally).

In short, quit while you are ahead (or not too hurt).

I'd love to stay in touch... please visit my blog and leave a comment so I know you have been there - that will prompt me to check back in on your blog.

Lady Bambi

chef953 64M

6/21/2006 7:49 pm

I fear I have to agree it's not hopeful. One does lose them the way you get them, so even if you were to get together -- the dishonesty has done real damage... from personal experience I know it leads to the other evil siblings... distrust and jealousy as often as not. You need to work through this yourself, but if it's advice you truly want, ImLadyBambi is dead on, 100 percent correct in her advice my friend. Sorry to learn of your pain.... but it will probably only get worse if you stay in that relationship.

rm_ironhead1956 61M
275 posts
6/25/2006 3:23 am


amoldenough 71F
16436 posts
6/25/2006 8:48 pm

Hon, I've been there, and the pain is not pretty. Being in that relationship cost me my self-esteem and made me mis-trust all men, and that isn't right. There are millions of good, honest, trustworthy men. Consider this a learning experience and get rid of him. You will find an honest, good single man. Best of luck to you. I know it hurts.

"Don't cry because it's over; smile because it happened."

rm_NAVYGAL07 48F
19 posts
6/26/2006 11:23 pm

Am oldenough is right... get rid of him, find a single man who can treat you with dignity, honesty, trust, faithfulness and loyality. No man is worth low self esteem, or lost trust, headaches or heartaches. There is always a diamond in the rough, you just need to look harder to find the gem.

Best of luck. !!! I know your pain. Keep your chin up !!!

rm_love2eatpuci 43M
1 post
7/11/2006 7:43 pm

bby girl u don't want to be the one that is said to break up a happy home or being known as the other woman. Very much so it is his fault for not being completely honest with you, but now you know and if i were you mami I would cut my losses. You never know if he does end up leaving his wife think about what every one else might say including his family and friends and leaving them in the dust. mami don't get caught up.

7grinder7 54M

7/25/2006 6:27 pm

I dunno i know what you must be going through

i had this girl invite me to her place and right in the middle of our having fun i cought a movement and turned to see a man standing there when i asked her who he was she said my husband i had no idea and the hurt he must have felt i just said sorry dude and left.

i know now how he felt when my recent x told me she had feelings for someone else and wasnt in love anymore

i just dont understand since this guy was only a person she met and slept with and talked to on the phone a few times who is presently incarcerated for the second with a long record what she see's in him

its hard to understand and know what to feel when you care so much for a person.

i do wish you the best of luck take care

cuminme38 50F

9/5/2006 9:27 am

Thanks for the comments. I left him alone and didn't think twice to talk back to him. He wanted to continue talking but I had to put my feet down. He thought it was alright to have me and still be with his wife. I said no. That's how the story ended. Thanks again for listening.

dvnalexis 51M

12/24/2006 5:28 am

Good for you sexy. I KNOW you can do better and would love to show you better. I'm a Berkeley, Mo. guy looking to find the right woman to spend my time with. I feel like I know you from some where by the comments you place on here. Other then here have we actually met? I may have been that guy trying to spoil you but just couldn't get my foot into the door. Find me on the who under sfctrotter and lets chat..?

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