Point of view  

MalumEmoteRanis 35M
10 posts
4/2/2006 1:02 am

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4/2/2006 10:45 am

Point of view

Ok I had a couple of intereting experiences in the last couple of hours and would like to know what everyone else thinks. This is primaraly for the women out there. I am still young and i still have those stupid little thoughts about pure sexual attraction, but now in the last couple of years i have wanted somthing else. Sure sex is great but what happens if you are with that person 10 years from now time takes its toll on everyone. I find myself with the desire for a woman who can have a great conversation. It in a maner of speaking that turs me on more than the physical looks i realize this is a (sex partner/swinger) site but i still see people looking for a relationship. I know that after the physical attraction wears off there has to be more to that person to keep me interested. Most women i meet just want that physical attraction. I have several female friends that are older in age than me by 10+ years and they seem to agree with me that there has to be more to a person than how they look. Is this trait in women develope over time after they have dated for several years or is this something women always want. I feel the need to be challanged mentally and be able to talk to the person about everyday things and not just sex am I in the minority here or are most people afraid to admit it. I guess what i am saying/asking is for people out there is what are you really looking for i know what most people say, but in my experience the more you talk to a person they are not just interested in the physical aspect, they need that extra somthing. let me know what you are really looking for? is it purley physical, mental or are you idealy looking for a good mix of both and how important is it to you that they have one or the other or both. I apologize for the scaterbrain sequence of things but have had very little sleep over the weekend and had to get this all out of my head. Thanks for your time. and i hope to find out what you think

alwzwetbbw 38F

4/2/2006 5:53 am

I absolutely agree there has to be some sort of mental connection. It doesn't necessarily mean that the woman wants a relationship or a committment. It just means they won't sleep with anyone they can't talk to.

I think the mental connection starts with e-mails, then chatting, then phone calls and then if it hits the level where you are wanting to meet, in person. In my experience so far (only been on here 72 hrs.) men who start with talk of sex and ONLY talk of sex don't last long with me. This doesn't mean that I am looking for a relationship, it just means that I won't sleep with someone that I can't relate to on some level.

Hope this helps and good luck sorting this out

teddy2757 60F

4/2/2006 6:37 am

i also talk with a lot of men here that are not here just for sex.lots are looking for a fiend as well. if a man can capture my mind first then its more than likely he will capture all of me.

bluegirl39 51F

4/2/2006 6:51 am

diddo with ShayeDK...have to have the mind click as well

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