Can I get with a guy that is completely not competative?.  

rm_cockmerollme 46F
1607 posts
2/4/2006 10:14 pm

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm

Can I get with a guy that is completely not competative?.

Had a straight date tonight(meaning, he was not from this site, and at no time did my clothes come off.) and we played a wicked game of Trivial pursuit. I won. I demolished him. And I beat the pants off him last time at Scrabble.

Could I have found the one non competitive guy That I'm attracted to? Or is he gay? He doesn't watch sports either. He asked me if I was planning on watching the Olympics, and I told him I wouldn't miss it. He made a face.

Ever be on a date and realize that the guy is going down his mental checklist for you?
Likes NPR?
Likes sports?
Likes kids?
Likes Jazz?
Likes hardcore dirty songs?
Likes hiking?
Is Catholic, but not really worried about the no sex until marriage thing?

Yeah, but I still had a wonderful time winning the game. Date or no date, I gotta be me.
So, I did my little "you lost, you loser!" dance.
And he laughed! Big plus.

Also, I made a huge tactical error in taking my meds before I went to his place, and I didn't eat anything first.

Yeah. Bad time for stomach upset.

I had, what I like to call,"inside farts", in which you hold the gas in you, and you still make a noise, but it's not a loud or has that distinctive"fart"sound.

But don't be fooled, everyone can hear it just the same.

So, I sat there and played this stupid game, and every 10 mins. or so, had a gas attack.
And Trivial Pursuit isn't exactly Connect Four.
This game went on for two hours!

Really, how many times can you excuse yourself to the bathroom? See, they didn't smell, because I had not eaten anything, it was all just wind...

But he didn't call me on it or anything! I would have been all "Hey! Do you have to poop? Because you might want to go home and do that!" or "Can I get you a Tums or something? Your body sound like it's in pain!"

Poor guy. I'm crying laughing about it now. But still, an interesting night, nevertheless..

I feel like I want to marry him, and pretend I'm a virgin again.

I think he might actually be a virgin. Well, I suspect as much anyway.

I'm not sure I have the patience for a virgin at this point in my life.

That's awful, isn't it?

I have a headache. Must go lie down, and think of Steelers winning.


elysianpleasure 48M

2/5/2006 5:12 pm

It is the nature of men to be competitive...

I don't find myself so competitive with women, but I do find I have to constrain myself when it comes to other men. It is the alphadog in our genetics. Sorry.

I was having a conversation about the whole virgin thing. I have never been with a virgin... but I imagine as much as people fantasize about that it wouldn't be so hot at this point in my life. I want someone who knows what they are doing and who is totally comfortable doing it with me.

rm_cockmerollme 46F
1223 posts
2/6/2006 12:12 am

I know, right? I'm going to be 35 this year. As it is, I get impatient with regular guys.."wait, no...there...wait....just let me do concentrate on back there...."

And is it wrong for me to be wicked competative? You know, being a chick and all...


timberwolf6972 45M

2/6/2006 1:33 am

Look me up sometime. {=}


2/6/2006 8:10 pm

it's somehow hilarious to me that you are looking for a guy which has alot of opposite traits to your own. And since you are quite "yang" for a girl this add up to a who who has many usually feminine traits but is not gay.

And I'm not ridicule type laughing , I'm laughing at the uniqueness and character of it because I enjoy things that sort of go against the expected grain of convention. So condider my laughs a compliment because they are.

One of the reasons my last GF and I split was sort of because we were all too similar. This did have it's patyoff in certain areas. Like the bedroom. She almost seemed jsut like a guy concerning her attitude about sex with a horniness similar to my own too. And commincation and understanding concering sex was intuitive nearly from day. We She sure did not look anything like a guy though.

Where it did not work was in out trait of always wanting things our own way and being not too flexible about that, SHe was worse than I with this and for the first time in my life I got a huge dose of my own medicine in this regard and understood with great clarity what people used to complain aboutme when I was younger. I'm not so bad with this now but I was then.

And in the end the was quite adamant to get her way with most things. It split us up because for her it absolutely must be the case for her guy to eventually marry her and then play role financually of Adopt a daddy moneybags. And I knew I could not do that.

I do indicated traitwise in my profile that I am definitely not a "cars and sports guy" . It is intersting that there really are quite s few women who have great enthusiasm for an afternnon filled with beer guzzling and football watching.

I can fake doing that if necessary but pretty avoid it whenever possible.

I do like when a woman feels free enough to occasionally let loose with an ear deafening belch. Somehow I have little doubt that CockMe might sometimes do this.


rm_cockmerollme 46F
1223 posts
2/6/2006 10:14 pm

Yeah.....uhh. I'm not really enjoying this mirror....lolol..I don't know why I'm the way that I am, I just know what makes me happy, and getting this guy, who is very, very shy to figure out a way to get me, is paramount right now.

But yet I'm not willing to give up my steady lay...

And I will be 35 this year.....and why that matters. I don't know...



2/7/2006 6:14 am

Well conk him over the head and drag him back to the cave if that's what will realy get him to come get you. Those are the lengths some my ex girlfriends had to go to get me to bag 'em. I was horrendously shy butI can now just ignoreit and bypass if's causing difficulties.

It's fuuny how that shyness tendency still hovers around me now like a ghost but if I want I can just say "boo" to scare it away. But I used to have no command over it at all. And even though it does not make the guy look tough and macho (who happens to be me in this case) I always did quite like it when the girl would be motivated enough to play caveman in the manner that I mentioned above.

I feel nearly certain that this guy might take it quite well too. Or are a strict tradtionalist when it comes to who makes the moves? I'd say fuck tradition in this case. He is in fact a non gay guy with many traditionally feminine traits so he may actually need or be waiting for the moves tobe made on him.

Forever left the catholic church once my fathers fovorite father gave his big sermon on how fornication is an unforgivable sin. I was maybe 9 or ten years old at that time but if there was on thing I knew about my life back then with great certainty was that I most assuredly intended to do some fornicating in my life. I fact knew that i had inrtents of doing as often as I could. So after hearing that nearly brimstone anf hellfire type sermon I had no doubt that I could not be rightfully part of that church.

I will also never forgive the church for placing Catchism at the same time as the Saturday morning Bugs Bunny hour. I could naybe adapt to a life with no fornication but making me miss the Bugs Bunny hour goes beyond inhumane!


rm_cockmerollme 46F
1223 posts
2/7/2006 3:23 pm

Well, I hear that...Mom lets us go to the hangover Mass..1:115pm.

But where I grew up, if you missed Mass, all you had to do was drive to the next parish, like 7 mins. away....

And we never discussed sex in our house.
You just didn't do it.
Or, you kept it real quiet.
We still don't say "pregnant" at the dinner table!
I never had Catholic guilt over masturbation, and I majored in that at college...a Catholic college.

I can't ever see you being shy....coy, maybe, but not shy.

But I don't know you like that, do I?


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