Shining armor or aluminum foil?  

rm_cmpatri 39M
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3/21/2006 2:43 am

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10/28/2006 1:08 pm

Shining armor or aluminum foil?

The above refers to a recent post by angelofmercy5 I'm trying to link this back to her, but I'm having trouble with that. See my previous post if you can help with that.

Anyway, the gist of it seems to be that no one is who they seem to be when you first meet them. I've seen this complaint both here and in the "real" world. Usually people are fooled for the worse, they think they're driving a BMW and end up with a Yugo. Very rarely do you hear someone say "Sure he/she seems boring and unattractive, but they're a great person!"
My answer to this is "well duh!" We all feel the need to hide our flaws to some extent from the outside world. Attractive people have it easier, people are more willing to give them the benefit of the doubt. We're willing to put up with more from the pretty/handsome, at least at first. As any relationship progresses the parties in it try to gain a deeper understanding for each other. That is almost invariably difficult, because, as I'm sure you've heard everybody's different. Let's face it if everyone could fully understand one another right off the bat our divorce rate probably wouldn't be what it is. Many people don't have the patience to fully explore their partner and are therefore unpleasantly suprised when flaws do turn up.
So. My advice, (If you're willing to take advice from a 27 year old who's never been in a relationship) is to revel in your flaws, understand them. If you do , then maybe someone else can look past the outside and understand you too.


3/21/2006 3:27 am

angelofmercy5 This should work you do [ then the word blog then her name the another]

rm_cmpatri 39M
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3/21/2006 12:06 pm

Hey it worked! Thanks for spelling it out for me!

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