Is there something wrong with me?  

rm_cl12065 47M/47F
13 posts
6/21/2006 5:09 am

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7/12/2006 5:18 pm

Is there something wrong with me?

Ok here we go! My husband wanted me to tell him my fantasies... well to be honest I really dont have any! Is that wrong!! We are new to this and believe it or not I'm the one who started it.
Maybe it has to do with the way I was brought up. Where "SEX" was forbidden to be talked about. I did not learn about sex from them I had to learn it from my friends. My past sexual experiences were ok, one was very bad example... If I said no he took it anyway! no madder how much I cryed. But anyway that is in the past and we are here now. What can I do?

bingybongy 56M

6/21/2006 5:44 am

My advice would be...

Close your eyes.

Do your best to shut out all noise.

Breath deeply and float away.....

Make your husband your fantasy.

He will love for it and when you imagine him in your thoughts, I think you will surprised just how many fantasies you have.

The beauty of making HIM your fantasy is that you can make it come true.

I hope this helps.


GossipJunkie 41F

6/21/2006 5:48 am

A fantasy doesn't always have to involve the act of sex. It can just be something you think about that produces a "happy" thought. Also, if you're not used to producing said "happy" thoughts, practice, practice, practice. How so? Watch your husband while he's doing something around the house, maybe hanging a picture or wiping down the counter, and gaze at the muscles in his forearm (I have a weakness for them, that's why I suggest it here) and let your mind wander to other ways that he could use his hands and just let that thought roam wherever it wants to. Pretty soon, you'll have a nice little fantasy just running around in your brain.

Happy thoughts make you fly.

"Dance like nobody's watching"

rm_cl12065 47M/47F
6 posts
6/23/2006 3:30 pm

Thank you so much for giving me some pointers. I appreciate very much.

Shes2Hot4one 47M/43F
1 post
7/3/2006 7:36 am

First off,
There is nothing wrong or wrong with you.
I feel as if because you brought up the bad time, you need to put that in the past–i mean really complete with that and know that that episode was not your fault.

Secondly, once you'e completed that past, i think you will find that the relationship with your amazing husband will become more powerful. Why? because your ability to fulfill not only his fantasy, but your own fantasy will become easier. Because it's a new beginning. You past has no power over you.

I am curious your thoughts on this.
Fred (of fred&elyse)

rm_cl12065 47M/47F
6 posts
7/11/2006 10:49 am

Thanks for the advice, and I try very hard to put the past behind me, its a part of who I am today,its been 12 yrs and I still have to have contact with him cause we share a child together. My husband now is the best thing that has happened to me in my life and he is trying to help me two. we do need to work on this together to get past this and someday we will.
Thanks again its reasuring to hear other peoples point a view!

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