Porn and AFF affecting my brain!  

rm_chislut 43F
1534 posts
5/1/2006 7:01 pm

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Porn and AFF affecting my brain!


My view of the world has been changed by being active here on AdultFriendFinder.

Every single guy I see I assume is thinking about sex. I wonder if they are one of the guys who have a profile here. Or who have contacted me. I mention in my profile that I think about sex all the time. But, now I'm assuming that every guy does, too. (Not getting too many emails from women, I don't generalize that assumption towards them.)

That's not a criticism or a bad thing, btw. Just an interesting change. It makes going to the cafeteria at work a lot more interesting anyway!

Another thing... the more penis pictures I see... (I just know some women are gonna want to kill me for saying this) the more appealing they are. Once upon a time in my life, I thought penises were kinda gross looking. I never thought that about naked women, though. Then I became a bit fascinated (can you be just a little bit "fascinated"?) with how they're all so different from one another. By the time I signed onto this site, I was neutral towards the pictures. A little interested because of the wow look how different they are factor, but not turned on at all. Now... yeah, they kind of do turn me on.

I really think this is because I keep seeing them. In the context of a site where people are looking for, thinking about, and talking about sex. It seems to me that instead of becoming used to (numb to? immune to? there's a word I that's right that I can't think of right now...) the erotic aspect of the pictures, they're becoming MORE of a turn on. Which isn't what I would have guessed would happen. It doesn't seem logical. But, it *seems* to be what's happening. Unexpectedly.

So, I wonder then, if the rising popularity of amateur porn, mostly viewed by men I assume, might somehow be making "regular" women more sexually appealing to regular men. I know. That's a huge jump to make. And I'm not saying it's true; it's just something I can't help but wonder about.

Think about "traditional" porn. A lot of the women look very similar. And men consider them hot. Yes, guys, I KNOW that's not true for ALL of you. I'm makin' some generalizations here! So... do the women in porn look like that because that's what men find a turn on, or do men find that a turn on because someone somewhere at some time decided that that's what women in porn should look like?

I know that I'm influenced by who's portrayed as being sexy. I'm straight. I will and do "play" with other women, but mainly for the effect it has on men. I *like* fooling around with women... women are soft and squishy and smell good and... well, I LIKE them. But, I don't fantasize about them. When I'm really horny, it's a guy I'm craving, not a girl. I don't GET turned on looking at women. But, I know which women are sexy. Some women are definitely hot. There are some women that I see and just think... "sex." Even if I'm not thinking, as a guy might, "gee, I want to fuck her." I really think this all has to do with certain types of women, certain looks, being associated with sex. It affects me, even though I'm straight. That's my theory anyway.

On the other hand... this could very well all be a weird quirk that I have. I've often become turned on by something which originally had no appeal for me at all. I might hear of an idea -- a sex act or scenario or fetish -- that I completely don't understand. I'll have no idea why someone might find that a turn on. Then it's like it incubates in my subconscious. And one day, I'll hear of it again and get totally turned on. This has happened a few times. But, like I said, that could be just me. And that might explain why what I see in porn -- or in naked photos on this site -- affects what gets me hot and bothered.

Anyway, that's what I've been thinking about lately.

rm_anacortes 75M
2850 posts
5/1/2006 7:22 pm

And so it is for a Goddess... relax and enjoy your "Yin-ness"..

Namaste


angelofmercy5 60F
17881 posts
5/1/2006 8:22 pm

I know that for me, there are times that I look at people and wonder if they are on this site too. And I've become really curious about how many men wear nothing under their jeans! lol


rm_chislut replies on 5/2/2006 6:11 pm:
Ha! Great, thanks. Now I'm going to be wondering, too!

goodguysneedit2 57M

5/1/2006 9:36 pm

I can relate to many of the things you said as being true for me too.
Some of the activities I used to find a little over-the-top are becoming closer to being 100% desirable. This includes writing some kind of sexual fantasy to a woman I know I'll never have sex with because she is too far away and not interested in actual sex anyhow. Now I like the thought of a day trip, an all nighter in a big city north of me with a librarian who has a wet-dream set of tits I'd still love to get lost in.

In being here and on a normal dating site I'm just like you...I look at everyone I pass by somebody who's probably seen me online.In some cases,it feels embarrasssing or panicky. With women I find sexy though, it kinda puts a flirty smile upon my face.


rm_chislut replies on 5/2/2006 6:17 pm:
How about sending a sexual fantasy to a librarian in a big city north of you who lived in Urbana for 2 years and still has friends and family down there.... Hmmm?

The reactions you describe are the opposite for me! I feel kinda smiley and flirty when I think that maybe I kind of sort of think I've seen someone online and they may have seen me. But, if it's someone I'm attracted to... I get all embarrassed, fluttery, and probably blush!

magnum9000
166 posts
5/2/2006 10:19 am

When I go out of town ,,Meet new people I also wonder if they are members of AdultFriendFinder or chat online..I must say I luv to chat and meet ladies from all over the world when im online...And if we cam2cam its even better..


Westhill19 54M

5/2/2006 2:12 pm

As I said in an earlier comment on one of your posts,what a fantastic pic,especially with me being a ''nipple'' man lol.
Very interesting post too,I did read it,honest !!!
Take it easy...


goodguysneedit2 57M

5/2/2006 8:31 pm

"""chislut replies on 5/2/2006 6:17 pm:
How about sending a sexual fantasy to a librarian in a big city north of you who lived in Urbana for 2 years and still has friends and family down there.... Hmmm?"""


I'm most certain I already did! LOL ...before your blogging days began.
I do believe additions have been made to your profile since that time.

How about coming down to visit family and "friends",get together,then we could s-s-s-s-s-s-suck down a little s-s-s-s-something to eat,decide what fantasy we want to work on...and then...then..
...


toothysmile 52M
16517 posts
5/4/2006 5:24 pm


~blushing~
So... would you care to see my... ahem,... etchings?...


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