No more 2nd dates  

rm_chislut 43F
1534 posts
6/10/2006 11:02 pm

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No more 2nd dates

Meant to write this a while ago.

Actually, I was out on a "date" with a guy who said he "already" wanted to see me again. Before we even got naked. LOL. So, I told him, well, good thing I didn't post my new rule about no more second dates then, huh? He took that to mean he had no chance at a second date. I meant that it would be ironic if I'd posted that I no longer was going on second dates and then immediately went out with a guy who I wanted to see again. Anyway. That's besides the point.

So, why no more 2nd dates? No second chance, do-overs, repeats, sequels, etc.

I self-identify as a slut. That I *want* to be a slut. I do NOT like feeling like a callgirl. Yes, there's a difference. And it's not just the fact that I ain't getting paid.

The first dates are fun. Exciting. Interesting at the very least. There's at least some talking. Laughing. And during the sex itself? I'm making assumptions about the guys' intentions here, I know that. I think they're trying to impress me. They try, at least, to make it enjoyable for me, too. And any "dates" after that? It's all about what they want.

Ugh, that doesn't sound right. I mean, I *like* doing the pleasing. That's not the problem in itself. There's no effort to get me off. There's no non-sex foreplay. There's rarely much sexual foreplay either. It's very very similar to what I imagine (cuz I don't have actual personal experience with this) a callgirl experience is like. Call her up. Tell her what you want. She does it. Nothing in return. (Well, at least a callgirl gets paid, I suppose.) Then send her on her way.

Ok, I sound a LOT more bitter than I am. I'm not. I'm not mad at men. Or any thing else negative. I'm just saying that what happens on second dates is not what I'm looking for. Live and learn, right?

So, only first dates from now on. But I reserve the right to change my mind for certain people. Like the guy I mentioned above.

With him... I ended up drinking too much and we didn't get to the good stuff til the next morning. And, yes, it was good. Even if the jewelry on the pierced cock clinked on my teeth a bit too much. I'm sure with some practice I could get used to it, right?

He wanted to spray my face with his cum. As long as I get to lick some of it up... sounds good to me! Yum.

Plus he was really fucking good looking.

Why do I even attempt to write about any of my experiences when it just makes me horny?

I got a new toy recently... as seen on the side here. I think I better go make sure it works. G'nite.

goodatpoetry2 68M
16569 posts
6/11/2006 3:11 am

Now THAT'S an interesting theory.
But what if he tends to get nervous the first time with women, and actually gets BETTER with time. Many men do.
You may be missing out....

rm_chislut replies on 6/11/2006 12:01 pm:
Oh, I realize that I'm making a sweeping generalization. It's bias based purely on my own personal experiences so far. I'd love to be proven wrong!

eorbust 61M

6/11/2006 4:05 am

Ever get turned on at work? Ever have a man seduce you with his aura right between the Dewewy decimal aisles? Do you really work at a library? Can I rent my books from you?

rm_chislut replies on 6/11/2006 12:03 pm:
Yes, especially since sometimes I log on to AdultFriendFinder. No, no seduction at work, plus we don't use Dewey at my library. Yes, I really work at a library. No, I'm not at a public library, so you can't check out books from my library most likely.

Any more questions?

eorbust 61M

6/11/2006 4:36 am

Oops, I think it's Dewey, or is it Doo yee?

cheddarguy60 57M
50 posts
6/11/2006 7:08 am

Wow. You are every guy's dream gal

BTW what is that thing? Looks like a pretty kinky product from Batman's utility belt. Or maybe that's from Cat Woman's utility belt.

rm_chislut replies on 6/11/2006 12:06 pm:
LOL! If only!

It's a mini vibrator with these clips that clip onto the outer vaginal lips to keep it in place hands free. It's called a Craby. From JT's Stockroom. It's cute, isn't it?

rm_onlineparty 34M
23 posts
6/11/2006 8:06 am

I'm with goodatpoetry2 that sex usaly seem better the second time around, just because the fact that you get to learn likes and dislike of each other..(like how a person like to be grabed how hard they like it, what type of pace they want, etc...) I can see your point that the first time it all going to be new sometime you might get more then you would the second time around, but again I think it matter who your are with. Some men like to give pleasure to women just as much as they like geting it back. Some men realy dont enjoy sex, if it is where they see you, we get naked do it and take off from there. You did say certian guys you would give a second time around so aleast you fair in that way , Was thier a guy who messed it up for all other guys to get a second chance with you? just dont forget sometime things are better the second time around.

rm_chislut replies on 6/11/2006 12:09 pm:
Like I responded to goodatpoetry2, this has just been my experience so far. And I want to repeat that I KNOW this isn't true of ALL men.

No, it wasn't just one guy. I wouldn't make such a generalization if it were. And yes I absolutely plan on making exceptions. At MY discretion.

goodguysneedit2 57M

6/11/2006 12:50 pm

Well gorgeous... you already know how I'd feel about that theory, right? calm down, now... -snicker-

Uh-Uhhhh...nope...can't agree. I think it gets better and better for quite a while.
I don't know who in the hell has led you to believe otherwise, maybe plenty, but oh God do I disagree, majorly!!!!! LOL The whole adventure of learning more and more about what works and works better, the anticipation of "next time" is just overpowering.

That doesn't make you any less hot, and it doesn't make me crave the living shit out of you any less... but oh my God how I'd be wanting to return again, and again and again.

Yet I do understand that magical "first", especially if you've been crawling in and out of each other's heads for some time.
But you still haven't done anything more than butter up the griddle, girl!

rm_chislut replies on 6/11/2006 6:30 pm:
It's not so much that the first is magical as that the second is SO disappointing. Again, that's been my experience so far here on AdultFriendFinder.

Now what the hell did I say that was so enticing, though? Goodguy, I think I could quote Britney Spears songs and you'd find it tantalizing!

absolutelynormal 57F
6563 posts
6/11/2006 12:51 pm

I was gonna sya WHAT THE HELL IS THAT!?! It's got eyes!!

rm_chislut replies on 6/11/2006 6:27 pm:
heehee, I know. I think he's cute!

wanderlust01970 51M

6/11/2006 4:47 pm

I tend to subscribe to followup dates as a good thing for both of you. The more you get to know each other, the more he knows what your looking for, and vice versa. If you want to be and feel like a slut, let your dates know what your looking for. Hopefully, your experiences will lead to better orgasms.

rm_chislut replies on 6/11/2006 6:33 pm:
I agree as far as "dating" goes in the "real" world.

So far, it has NOT been that way here. And, for those keeping track, I haven't written about each and every "date" I've had. So, there are more times this has happened than readers of the blog would know about. Just FYI.

ohcurious14 60M  
1684 posts
6/11/2006 10:11 pm

Very interesting concept Chislut. An intersting book to read would be "Inside the Mind of Chislut." Sure intrigues the hell out of me.

rm_chislut replies on 6/12/2006 6:24 am:
Me, too! Let me know if you find a copy of it somewhere...

goodguysneedit2 57M

6/12/2006 5:27 am

"Now what the hell did I say that was so enticing, though? Goodguy, I think I could quote Britney Spears songs and you'd find it tantalizing!"

Chi-- I can only speak for myself...but I dare suggest I can speak for most of your male and female visitors...

You ARE "tantalization" in the flesh!

You could recite Gomer Pyle and it would still work.

Maybe it's just me though... (yeah, right)....

rm_chislut replies on 6/12/2006 6:29 am:
Hmmm. Ok. Well, now I know what to do with this blog when I run out of things to say.

MoonRise9 59M

6/12/2006 5:56 am

I'm new to your blog, came here because of your "Looking young" post, and then read everything else back to page 1. You're an interesting woman - and yeah, well - very hot too, though I hesitate to say that being an old guy who also wants to be clear that he cares about the rage of a person. Anyhow, thanks for being here and making the effort. You're getting a mention in my blog. Hope that's OK.

rm_chislut replies on 6/12/2006 11:03 am:
Hey, thanks! It's nice to hear from new people when they stop by. Especially if they have nice things to say, too.

ohcurious14 60M  
1684 posts
6/12/2006 10:24 am

    Quoting ohcurious14:
    Very interesting concept Chislut. An intersting book to read would be "Inside the Mind of Chislut." Sure intrigues the hell out of me.
Hell I'd love to be one of the chapters actually!!!!!

AGNJoe1 48M

6/12/2006 8:40 pm

Wait a if we were to get together for a date...that's it? Just one date? That bites! I mean, what if it was awesome? You at least owe it to yourself to try and find out if it continues to be awesome or it will stink.

Besides, I've had dates that have lasted weekends when I was single, and by Sunday, Mr. Peepers was raw and limp as a wet noodle by then.

chi, yes I understand the mystique with the first date and both of you getting together, but there have been times where I thought the second would be exactly like youve discribed, and I was pleasantly shocked to find that the second date was even BETTER and more awesome that the first.

Of course, I wouldn't know with you, because you haven't contacted me yet!

rm_chislut replies on 6/13/2006 8:21 am:
It's NOT because the first date is so great that I don't want any more second dates!!!!

It's because the second ones ALWAYS **SUCK**! For me. The guy always seems to get to enjoy it as much if not more than the first one.

And I'm sick of it. *I* want to have fun on the second date, too!

And, Joe? See my other post!

coff3216 41M

6/13/2006 4:37 pm


Just want to say wow! You're a down to earth cool girl who loves sex and is proud to say that. I love it.. and great tits to go along with it.. You're a lucky woman. Keep it up! You not only turn me on, but you make me laugh.

rm_chislut replies on 6/13/2006 8:22 pm:

I'll take any encouragement I can get.

Wait... that makes it sound like your encouragement was bad, but I'd still take it. That's not what I meant. I was just fishing for more comments... bad me.

SwissThumpEries 40M

6/15/2006 1:30 pm

Now I find this funny...

Cuz my theory is the complete opposite. I think when you first have sex with's half akward cuz you don't know the person very well (at least sexually) so the first time might be good but it's just the tip of the iceburg.

With tends to get better the more often we do it. I get to learn everything about her body and I make it a priority to focus on her pleasure even more now that I know what she likes and what is guaranteed to get her going.

eh...maybe it's just me.

rm_chislut replies on 6/15/2006 6:31 pm:
No, I agree with you that that's how it is in the regular normal real world. When there's the potential for a further relationship. A possibility of a LTR.

It's just the way I described on AdultFriendFinder. When it's *just* sex. NSA sex.

Apparently, getting the woman off is considered a string! LOL!

SwissThumpEries 40M

6/16/2006 9:10 am


Maybe it's just a matter of selection. Could be your choice of men on here. Either that or I am the exception to the norm.

rm_chislut replies on 6/16/2006 10:51 am:
Good point. I *had* been assuming it was the site. It could easily be MY choices. Thanks for pointing that out!

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