Female Libido  

rm_byron1724 54M
42 posts
4/12/2006 4:14 am

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5/16/2006 1:17 am

Female Libido

Just read an piece in the advice lines about what causes a females libido to decline and what can be done about it - I think the two are related (i.e. if you know the cause you have the "cure" so as forwarned is forarmed - so I thought it would be useful to see what has caused libido to drop off in partners (so I can make sure I can do something about it if it happnened to me or my partner)!

I know that either partner's libido can take a hammering so please feel free to reply from either gender!
motherhood - stress of being a mother and a housewife and a lover
career gets in the way - working long hours and too tired for sex
familiarity breeds contempt - do the things that once seem cute now seem really really annoying?
familiarity breeds... boredom - does a lover need the thrill of the chase to remain a lover?
foreplay - or not enough of it (reduced to twoplay?)
vroom vroom - do men forget that women take longer to get aroused or is this a fallacy?
Make love not sex - do women need to feel loved rather than feel its a duty?
others - anything else you'd like to add


sugarbabyhhh 45F

4/12/2006 5:29 am

mine certainly hasn't reduced, if anything i'm still on the way up at age 33. if i don't cum every 5 or 6 hrs i start to get crazy.


bluegirl39 51F

4/12/2006 5:48 am

when I first got married my x-husband was more then happy to preform oral sex. after the second year that became a choir for him always using one excuse after another not to preform (my neck hurts etc). Oral really gets me going so knowing he would not just left me uninterested in making a move toward sex..also he was cheating so of course that means he didn't ask as much...I think he became bored with our sex life...but if he would have told me this, I would have been more then happy to be a kinky little girl lol....On my end I needed the foreplay and I think on his he needed more spice...So its important to tell your partner what you need in order to keep the sex life alive...


rm_byron1724 54M
214 posts
4/12/2006 7:13 am

    Quoting sugarbabyhhh:
    mine certainly hasn't reduced, if anything i'm still on the way up at age 33. if i don't cum every 5 or 6 hrs i start to get crazy.
(why is there never an "eyes popping out of your head" smiley when you need one!) I'm not sure which is more impressive - the fact that you need to cum every 5 hours or your outrageous chest!!!!!!!


rm_byron1724 54M
214 posts
4/12/2006 7:17 am

    Quoting bluegirl39:
    when I first got married my x-husband was more then happy to preform oral sex. after the second year that became a choir for him always using one excuse after another not to preform (my neck hurts etc). Oral really gets me going so knowing he would not just left me uninterested in making a move toward sex..also he was cheating so of course that means he didn't ask as much...I think he became bored with our sex life...but if he would have told me this, I would have been more then happy to be a kinky little girl lol....On my end I needed the foreplay and I think on his he needed more spice...So its important to tell your partner what you need in order to keep the sex life alive...
so communication is the key! if we need to spice up our sex lives we should talk about it rather than give up or look elsewhere!

Can't imagine why oral should be a chore - I love it, but also love all that kissing caressing and cuddly stuff - although if we don't have time then a quickie over the back of the armchair will suffice!


phoenix639 50F

4/12/2006 9:36 am

My libido reduced when my ex stopped paying me any attention. He would return from work, get changed & be out again within 30 minutes to meet 'mates'. Then back home late at night & he would go into the spare room.

So naturally i felt rather ugly & non sexy for a while.

Hey but i soon changed that....got rid of him & my libido returned tenfold....watch out guys. Randy Northern lass on the loose.


Hippink 36F  
4498 posts
4/13/2006 9:57 pm

I voted for "make love, not sex" but probably not quite in the way you intended it to mean. I often don't feel I'm appreciated enough, and love was something he tried to keep out of the relationship (I'm talking about Square who is my lover, not my husband. Hubby is Great in that area). Now that we've got the love, too (I love both men individually and differently), things are a bit better.

I find that being put LAST has been the main cause for the drop in my libido. It made me feel so unappreciated. It was not his intention, but the result was the same.

I'd be willing to bet that a lot of women feel the same about their husbands... they don't feel appreciated. It's not as simple as being too busy with jobs or kids... a woman needs to be reminded that she's still sexy. A woman with a healthy libido will ALWAYS find time for sex.
Hippie XXX

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rm_byron1724 54M
214 posts
4/21/2006 2:33 am

seems like a lack of attention / appreciation is the biggest culprit - and I guess this works both ways, so its up to us both to make sure that we both feel appreciated and loved forever! x


NC4GT2 47M/42F

4/25/2006 6:20 pm

mine hasnt changed from 19 to 30 if anything
i want it 3 times a day!!!!


rm_byron1724 54M
214 posts
5/16/2006 1:17 am

    Quoting NC4GT2:
    mine hasnt changed from 19 to 30 if anything
    i want it 3 times a day!!!!
cool! its not just me then?


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