random thoughts  

rm_bucfannn 62M/61F
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7/3/2006 7:39 am

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random thoughts

Pondering. Sometimes a good thing, sometimes not. I suppose it's all about what I'm mulling over.

This morning, I woke up in kind of a pensive mood. I wasn't thinking about world peace, nor was I thinking about myself.

I was thinking about people in my life. Not just family, but, friends. Or those that I consider to be friends. My sister is my best friend. I don't see her too often, as she is in the midst of moving up to north Florida soon. But, nonetheless, she and I are very tight.

I've got a VERY close friend up in Chicago. We grew up together, and have known each other since we were about 4 yrs old or so. So, that's 46 yrs we are friends. We talk often, but, we don't see each other, because of the distance. Doesn't alter the fact that I still love her. A lot.

I've got a few friends here in FL. Some I worked with, or am working with, and some I met through the group I joined here on A.F.F. One in particular. Funny, we hit it off right from the get go. I love talking with her, and hanging with her. She makes me laugh constantly. But, it goes deeper. We are, in effect, kindred spririts, and that in itself is way cool.

But anyway, I digress...

There are those, I desperately tried to give benefit of the doubt to. I'm no snob, far from it, but, I'm willing to forego a few jabs from my gut, in order to see if I am wrong. Unfortunately, I'm usually not wrong. I hate that. I should be like my female ex-TASA friend, and just go with my gut feelings, right from the beginning. But noooooooooo. I have to wait to see. WTF is that all about?

Things are not as they seem. It's hard for me to deal with the drama that is attached to certain humans. AND, I HATE DRAMA! I've lived tooooooo damn long to want to deal with that stuff. It's so damn High School, and I hated HS. So, why would I want to get involved with it now? I'm pretty much a pacifist, unless someone totally and completely pisses me off to the nth degree. Or LIES to me.


I hate liars. Male or female, it matters not. Lie to me about something, even something trivial, and my trust has just been flushed down the toilet. I don't lie. So why should anyone else? Is it to make themselves look better? Or to cover up some kind of insecurity issues? Or, is it because they think NO ONE wants to know the REAL truth? They are ashamed? Geez, Louise. WE ARE HUMAN! WE MAKE MISTAKES! That's called life. If I know the truth right off the proverbial bat, it's easier NOT to judge. However, if I am told something, then it comes out it was totally FALSE, my trust is gone. My respect is GONE. And then, yes I admit this here, I judge. Period. I am judge, jury and executioner. Sorry, that's the way I am.

If one has to lie in order to make themselves look better, or has to be the complete total center of attention, I'm pretty well over that entire scenario. Those people usually have an ulterior motive. And, it's usually not good. These people are FAKE. And, they are USERS.

Ah yes. Users. We all know some of those. But, what I don't understand is this: WHY IN THE HELL CAN'T OTHER PEOPLE SEE IT? What does it take? Someone is ALWAYS bound to get hurt. But, it matters NOT to the user. They just move on to the next unsuspecting victim. Conned by sweet words, not knowing that behind their back, they are ridiculed. Then stabbed. And it continues...

*Deep sigh*


Well, alrighty then. I've spewed enough for one day.

Ya'all have a GREAT 4th. I'll be working yet another double. Maybe I'll see a few fireworks from the confines of my cell, (the lab).

rm_gerson42 53M
2419 posts
7/3/2006 11:14 am

It is hard to not judge, I agree. Yet, I also like to give the benefit of the doubt. My attempt these days, is to offer 2nd and 3rd chances but just make sure that my decisions regarding people reflect the extensions of why those chances were necessary. Gotta say, that first response gut instinct, is usually right. Problem is... sometimes it has been wrong.

rm_bucfannn replies on 7/6/2006 5:42 am:
Oh, I know what you mean. Unfortunately, in my circumstances, it's never been wrong...

peaches19555 62M

7/3/2006 1:16 pm

Liar, liar pants on fire. I have burned a few bridges but not many britches. As for fireworks, if you can't see them it shall have to do that you will be the fireworks for another.

a cherry bomb (smile)

rm_bucfannn replies on 7/6/2006 5:43 am:
Oh yeahhhhhhhh... I do know about "those" fireworks.

AltumHunksUnite 54M

7/3/2006 1:37 pm

About the liars who do so to enhance their standing in social circles... yes, plenty of people notice, and yes, they do care. They may not always make it obvious that they care, but they do care.

Let me drive. I like the view

rm_bucfannn replies on 7/6/2006 5:43 am:
Thank you sweetie.

I do so love your words of wisdom...

diverunner 56M  
6013 posts
7/3/2006 1:52 pm

I know a few people that I declared "Users" but I realize now that they were just self-centered people. They really didn't care that much about me to even 'use' me. They're just going on their own social autopilot and are oblivious to those around them.

So many of my friends in the same circle hold grudges against them because they don't see it that way. I think they're judging too quickly and it leads to negative social energy. That's what I think one of the biggest problems with judging is: What if you're wrong?

I agree though, judging is not something that is always in your control, it's just a reaction. We are made of emotions aren't we? I hope so, how I'd hate to think what we would be without them.

rm_bucfannn replies on 7/6/2006 5:48 am:
Yes, but what about when you're right?

I just never understood the need to be the center of attention. Could be because I've always been the shy type. Dunno. But, what I do know is this: People that are usually that way, are "users". I know we all are to a certain degree, but generally speaking, when they take what they need from one, they move on to others. Sort of like leeches.

oldude1946 72M

7/3/2006 6:25 pm

I came by to tell have a happy 4th

rm_bucfannn replies on 7/6/2006 5:48 am:
Hope you had a good one, sweets!


somethingelse40 76M
14676 posts
7/3/2006 7:02 pm

Invent yourself every day.

somethingelse40 76M
14676 posts
7/3/2006 7:04 pm

I too have known joy and sadness, and on the whole, I prefer joy.

rm_bucfannn replies on 7/6/2006 5:48 am:
Don't we all?

rm_JohnMacLaine 51M
585 posts
7/3/2006 10:19 pm

Drama, who needs it.....

I have tried to avoid it at all costs, but somehow, where ever I go, it follows. My personal reaction to it is to roll my eyes and walk the other way. If I am the target of someone's sharp tounge, I just consider the source, laugh at it, and walk away. I dont care what other people thik of me. I am comfortable with who I am at this point in my life, and I am making great strides in becoming a better person. I dont lie (no fann, not even at my job *wink*) and I always try and treat people the way I want to be treated. I know that sounds cliche' but it is the truth.

Hope you have a glorious fourth, I will be cooking out with family and friends. I have plans to show up on Sat night, so hope to see you there...



"I can retain neither respect or affection for a government which has been moving from wrong to wrong in order to defend its own immorality" Mahatma Ghandi

rm_bucfannn replies on 7/6/2006 5:50 am:
I do so try to avoid it in social circles, too. Annoys the ever-livin' crap outta me. I watch, and I too, roll my eyes. Usually, by then, I'm rolling, anyway. It's easier to watch from the outside, isn't it?

LovableAscending 60F

7/4/2006 6:24 pm

Life is...curious. And full of opportunists. Be glad you are a smart cookie - pity the poor souls without the brain power to figure out the ones they should steer clear of. What I don't get...the ones that know someone is an attention-seeking fake but continue to stoke the fire of that person's ego. Birds of a feather I suppose...? Low self-esteem feeding off of each other? Life is curious, yes.

rm_bucfannn replies on 7/6/2006 5:52 am:
Ah yes. But, it's that danged social ladder than most want to climb. Matters not if the most "popular" are bloomin' idiots, because they help the others achieve...

Makes me wanna puke...

toothysmile 51M
16517 posts
7/5/2006 2:52 am

i hate liars too. and i've had my share of them.
i'm throwing a party! i'm blowing 100 candles for my 100 posts. i will be so happy if you stop by.
my kisses.

rm_bucfannn replies on 7/6/2006 5:52 am:
I've been by the celebration, luv.

heavensent11236 53F

7/5/2006 3:56 am

I think Lovable nailed it down beautifully.

rm_bucfannn replies on 7/6/2006 5:53 am:
Yep, she did

HeardLankaMalls 56M
2925 posts
7/5/2006 6:53 am

It's always good to vent Fann.

And, this is a perfect venue to do it in.

Hope you had a nice weekend and Fourth (even if you were working).

Hugs, C

rm_bucfannn replies on 7/6/2006 5:53 am:
I got to see some fireworks from the window of the lab. It wasn't the same. I couldn't hear the BOOOOOOMS!

digdug41 50M

7/5/2006 10:01 am

I feel ya on what you've wqritten here and I try not to say too much but sometimes just like in real life I will say something coz thats just the way I am I need to be quiet tho

roaming the cyber streets of blogland

rm_bucfannn replies on 7/6/2006 5:54 am:
No dig. That's why I love your blog. You shoot straight from the hip. It's refreshing to see someone NOT go with the flow. That's what I try to do, too...

somethingelse40 76M
14676 posts
7/5/2006 7:47 pm

A time will come when you'll lose all control of your body and mind. Would you like to schedule a wake-up call?

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