Alcohol and Inhibitions  

rm_bri28ma 40M
256 posts
2/12/2006 6:11 am

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Alcohol and Inhibitions

Let me preface this by saying that I am not, and never was, a big drinker. I've actually never gotten drunk...I've just never seen the need.

Yesterday at a retreat I had the pleasure of viewing many of my colleagues get slightly drunk. These normally socially reserved people were speaking openly...flirting...actually having a good time. Such a difference in their normal personas! In a group of women I was talking to, one shared her penchance for streaking and skinny-dipping...the other complained that she and her new husband had been so busy they hadn't had time for sex. During the conversation, several people asked me if I needed a drink. I politely said no and didn't think much more of it.
When I finally got home, a few things finally snapped into place. I didn't feel like I needed a drink because I act like other people do when they're comfortably tipsy. I'm open, flirty, and definitely less reserved than most sober people. Also, my friendships have been limited for most of my adult life for one of two reasons. First, people don't invite me to social gatherings because they I don't drink. Second, I think most people are put off by my openness during sober conversations.
My question to y'all is this...WHY do people feel the need to use alcohol as a social lubricant? And why, especially if their drunk behavior is as open (if not more!) than my sober behavior, am I shunned except when they have a glass in their hand?
...I did get invited to go streaking, but we decided against it based on the weather. We'll see if she's still interested in a raincheck later!

rm_bri28ma 40M
357 posts
2/12/2006 9:58 am

LOL...Play, you're my kind of gal! I'll go to parties with you any time! I'm afraid it was a one time only deal. We'll see...I always hold out hope that people will surprise me . -Bri

skierchick 54F
3947 posts
2/12/2006 12:42 pm

Most people are worried what others think of them. They are not comfortable enough with themselves to be who they truly are. When you have alcohol it is a ready excuse to say and do the things you really want to do but are afraid of what others would think. i.e. "I was so drunk I can't believe I went streaking." Meaning I wouldn't normally do that, but it was the alcohols fault. As opposed to you...."I love to streak".

BTW, I got 17" today! HOw about you?


sweetcandyfloss 46F

2/13/2006 3:56 am

Its a confidence issue i think ......people drink to let go of there inhibitions, to escape reality and for a little while be the people that they truly are......most individuals walk around there whole lives living a lie, otherwise how else do you explain there dramitic change in nature when there senses are stimulated by alcohol.......when you already know and accept everything that you are , there is no need for escapism , no need to run , no need to hide, the confidence inside projects itself and as a result scares a lot of my friend you are not shunned because you dont drink , you are shunned because they fear your open confident nature ........ a nature which in most people remains hidden there whole lives.


rm_bri28ma 40M
357 posts
2/13/2006 8:21 am

I've known this for years, I think, without having ever put words to it. It's a sad commentary on most people that they feer judgment so much that they can't be who they are. I think we're all a little "freakish"...better to accept it and live an honest life than be something you're not. By the way...great image...I do looove black and whites! -Bri

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