About Clingy Females...  

rm_boytoysexcam 56T
63 posts
4/21/2006 11:23 am

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6/19/2006 6:54 pm

About Clingy Females...

...and the real mood word for this one is not listed in the drop down menu..it is Vulnerable. I listed uncomfortable because it was all they had.


I know this is probably the work of AdultFriendFinder's profile writing service, but I thought I would respond to a little line I got from an interested suitor...

It said: 'I'm just wondering why some girls get so clingy.'

My response was..

I always wondered that when I was a guy..now that I think of things from the 'other side of the looking glass', I can feel why girls might tend to get 'clingy'.

It's an intoxicating feeling to give yourself to someone..to trust someone, totally and completely as they wrap around you, and to just put your head down on someone's chest and feel in safe harbor from the cruel world for just a few fleeting moments...

Even though they are in extremely close proximity to this..everyday men *CANNOT* know this. Being the sole suppliers of safe harbor, how could they?

But I feel that most women live and function in this mindset, every second, every minute, everyday, significant other or not..

Just to give you an idea..I never felt it so much until I was forced to walk from my car to a club, about three blocks, in the dark streets, dressed completely en femme, spike heels, leather mini, and all the accessories..I felt so at risk, and like someone could just jump out or rush up and really mess me up good...push me down, hit me, take my purse, and just being at such a total disadvantage, I could do very little.

I felt the eyes of every man in every passing car watching me and thinking of...who knows..?

I realised that even though I am a not a tough looking man or a big man, wearing male clothes has always been enough to "ward off" any interest in me as a personal target of a crime.. Especially a sex crime.

Being once very male, I know the feeling of that 'male sentiment'.

Sex = fun. Sex is light and usually frivolous. Spread it around.. Play, learn, experiment. Especially here at AdultFriendFinder.

Like I reported above..you will never know the feeling until you try it..it's a bit scarey.

I never had the feeling before someone wanted to just "cuddle" me as a girl..at first I didn't know what to do, for about ten seconds..then I just melted..as the woman in my heart poured out, my male heart melted like an ice cube in the warm life giving radiation of our own sun.

I have never been the same as before that.

pet_humility 49F

4/21/2006 12:16 pm

Very well writing! And can relate to the
vulnerable part from just being a woman..

anythingoes500 60M
5 posts
4/21/2006 12:54 pm

I want to cuddle you as the girl you are, making you melt in my arms and letting go totally, me, the man, and you, the woman being embraced seductively as you should be, a delicate passionate woman.

rm_jd29992z 55M
3888 posts
4/21/2006 10:02 pm

Yes you are right looking at it from someone elses shoes or from the top of the hill when you are in the valley realy changes your prospective. I am not afraid of a clingy woman she would not get clingy with me unless I let us, her, me get that far and if we get that far is that not what is supposed to happen? Hey guys if you don't want a girl that is clingy why let it get that far. Good post be strong see you JD

sweetnsassy41962 55F
7 posts
4/26/2006 7:46 pm

Wow to know how a woman feels. That is great that you know how we feel when we want to cuddle and not just have sex.


GougeDrawsThrew 77M
1 post
6/17/2006 10:53 am

Hi: You don't know me yet, but I will soon be contacting you via email. I have been reading all your profiles and blog comments and just wanted to respond to this "cuddling" subject.

I believe that men are also too often sterotyped - especially in the area of affection giving and getting. I do understand how you feel when you talk about being in the safe harbor of a man's love, and I will tell you that many men -including myself- feel the same way when they are held and cuddled by someone who really loves and cares for them.

In your words, many of us while expected to supply the "safe-harbor" are also Vulnerable - it's just that society has conditioned us to not show it and always present our macho side.

I am one of those men who truly craves closeness, cuddling and intimacy. Sex does not always have to include a climax.

I will be emailing you later today, but just had to comment on this subject while it was fresh in my mind. Hoping to get to know even more of the wonderful insights you have already shared.

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