Do drinking and swinging mix?  

rm_bludlfn 54M/42F
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10/31/2005 12:48 pm

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Do drinking and swinging mix?

When I was into the Los Angeles swing scene many years and a failed marriage ago, my partner and I would think nothing of having a few glasses of wine before heading out for a party, or a few drinks with dinner when meeting a new couple. It relaxed us, loosened our inhibitions, and added to the party atmosphere of the moment.
Now we set the clock ahead ten or so years and my current wife and I are making our entre into the PDX swing scene. She is newly sober, so a drink or two is out of the question and since I am committed to her sobriety, it is out of the question for me as well.
In pondering this together, the question came up, should a committed couple, who are unable to engage in the lifestyle without so much as a single glass of wine even be involved in swinging or extramarital activities?
When she first broached the subject of swinging with me I reminded her of an encounter we had together with aother woman that was fueled by too much Jim Beam and grass. It ended badly with much regret and bad feelings the next morning. She told me that she wanted to try it she could remember and be in control of the situation.
Im sure this is going to fuel some debate, so dont be shy about putting in your two cents worth

rm_caduick22 67M

11/2/2005 12:15 pm

Although it is certainly true that a good percentage of swinging couples need that inhibition blocker to get up the nerve to dive in (so to speak) there is much more fun to be had with a clear mind. How's that for a long sentence? I know I prefer to remember as clearly as possible the pleasures of the experience. Seems like a no-brainer to me. Hmmmmm...maybe that's the problem, no functioning brain cells. As for this guy, there is no better stimulus than a cup of Sumatra and a rainy afternoon.

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