Is it just me?  

rm_bebingtonman
14 posts
9/12/2006 8:03 am

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Is it just me?


I was a Gold member for about 15 months, and to be honest, it was really a waste of time and money for me. Enjoyable as the thrill of the chase has proven, unfortunately I have not really caught anybody. Now the more cynical amongst you will no doubt take one look at my picture and say, "Well, what do you expect"? I have to agree that I am certainly no oil painting, but I believe that I am fun to be with, treat ladies with due respect, and always listen intently and politely. In essence I try to be as charming as possible as charm is the major weapon in my armoury if I am to get a nice lady into a horizontal position. One can therefore perhaps understand the upset felt by me, and I guess most men of my vintage when they are considered by younger ladies to be perverts, while the older ladies are searching for young "studs", and have little or no time for maturity.

Is there anybody out there who is interested in an "earlier model"? Even older men need loving too!

TnWitchyWoman 57F
6852 posts
9/12/2006 8:47 am

(4175 miles from you)

That doesn't help one bit. But I really see nothing else in your profile that would make me immediately turn away. When I was 18 I dated a 36 year old man, and at 45 I had an offer from a 22 year old. I keep an open mind, but maybe not everyone does. *shrugs* Good luck in finding someone close by.

Lori


funintheday2006 58M
9659 posts
9/12/2006 9:31 am

I hope you stick around the blogs, there are so many genuine and nice ladies here mate. color]


attentive2u58 59M
251 posts
9/12/2006 9:41 am

Hmmmm. I think it's just the time in which we live. I also have had little luck in pursuing interesting females. I am told I am a handsome man still. Ah well, remember it is the chase that is to be treasured.


Hydragenias 57F

9/12/2006 9:59 am

yes, we ABSOLUTELY exist! I find older men extremely attractive. My ex-husband is 14 yrs older than me.
The problem I run into is that most men have no interest in women over 40.


Hydragenias 57F

9/12/2006 10:03 am

just one more thing............you being MARRIED would hinder most women. You already have someone, some of us have no one. Don't be greedy.


rm_iceyAngel333 36F

9/12/2006 10:16 am

well dont just be eager to look...dont just be in hurry so much...there are still genuine people here even the site was too vulgar..for me at young age..Age doesnt matter as long as the person i love is nice and genuine...money can be see but love is precious and thick among all..hope you understand my post im just trying my english so everyone can relate my thought..good luck and think positive.


cobra70118 106M

9/12/2006 10:17 am

Dude! Young *studs* can't hold a match to older studs and fun is totally right about the people here. Fuc those raggers. Real woman younger and older appreciate mature guys.

1. Mature men are way better lovers. Young guys can't go past an hour and most often five minutes. Every woman has told me that.
2. Mature men know how to treat a lady.
3. Mature guys have wisdom that real woman are way attracted to.
4. Mature guys know who they are and have a handle on life. Younger guys are still tryin to figure it out.
5. Mature guys have more life experience. Mummy is still wiping some of these younger guys nose.
6. You got more money! lmao... ya know... it counts!

I know what your talking about though. Many woman over 40-45 won't give the time of day. But their younger sister and daughter will! Age is total BS.

Stay and hang out dude... your post is great cause it's authentic


Eros40 54F

9/12/2006 10:18 am

I, for one, prefer my men older. I am 42, my hubby is 54. (Open marriage btw!) I have a playmate that is 59! I am one that prefers (but open to the exceptions) that my playmates are MARRIED....they understand that I am NOT looking for a "one and only" sort of relationship, nor will I be one! Friendship? Definitely! Fun romps in the hay? I sure hope so!..... and then we go home.... seperately! I am a firm believer of "family first"....so if we have something planned and one of us has a family situation that requires our attention... date is canceled and I am not one to question that. period. As crass as it may sound, I'm not looking to "take" someones man.....I just want to "borrow" him for awhile. And, I personally do not believe your pic to be so bad it would send me running for cover screaming. As a pro photographer...I've seen some REAL scary pics....your's is NOT in that catagory!!! I think patience is gonna be key.... sort of like us women.... you'll have to go through several frogs before you find the prince(ess)...... take care and keep your chin up!.................E.


cobra70118 106M

9/12/2006 10:22 am

ps... there's just as many married woman here as there are married guys... maybe more. let's not have a double standard here.


waldstille2 61M

9/12/2006 10:38 am

I think the problem lies partly in the nature of the internet. Because it is a 'cyberspace', the person that you are gets reduced to bits of information; instead of your age being one aspect of the man you are, it is seen as a independent criterion: if your age exceeds an arbitrary number, your existence is canceled in advance. This is extremely discouraging, and it makes you feel bad about yourself, worse than the reality of your age warrants.

When you meet someone in real life, they see YOU and not a number, though your age of course is an important part of you. I, and also friends of mine in their fifties and sixties, have had serious relationships with girlfriends half our age who, if you had asked them beforehand, would have said they didn't want someone so old. But we did not meet them on internet. I know from actual experience that with many of the women I would be interested in, my assets give me a good fighting chance alongside younger men; but what use are these assets if nobody sees them because I am eliminated before the first round by a two-digit number? On the internet, people dream about lovers and adventures in a way quite dissociated from reality, and if you can't connect with their fantasy through the skimpy bits of information they see within the first thirty seconds, they are not interested.

This unfortunately is the reality of internet. I am still here only because I discovered that there are some interesting blogs. Perhaps through blogs I might still make a connection here, but I am not banking on it!

I would recommend trying a introduction service where you are presented by real people rather than through a digital profile and brief messages(writing longer messages won't get you anywhere since they won't even be read) – for those of us who no longer have digits that whet the appetite.


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