Why do you cheat?  

rm_bbw90045 49F
5 posts
7/30/2006 12:34 pm

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Why do you cheat?

I've noticed people asking for advice on the best ways to cheat so their spouse doesn't find out, or asking if what they're doing on AdultFriendFinder is considered cheating. I am not judging; because frankly, it's none of my business, but I am curious.

So, my question is: What makes you cheat? If you're unhappy, why don't you leave? I know it's very difficult to divorce, especially if there are kids involved, but it is so much more honest.

Do you feel you got married too young and think you've missed out on sex with different people? Did you get married because you "had" to? did you feel societal pressure to be married when perhaps it wasn't what you really wanted?

I personally find the notion of marriage to be a bit antiquated, which is why I've chosen not to do it. Certainly I've noticed that marriage vows are not always taken as seriously as they should be and every time a married guy contacts me looking for sex I wonder, why get married if you want to screw around?

rm_marnisway 86F
5018 posts
7/30/2006 2:02 pm

not sure..why
we all look at things differently

but good luck with your blogs.



Nothing is ever the same... when it comes to pleasures.

with a hint....the erotic senses will manifest into an abounding mess of flesh

the mind needs fulfillment of the body

if it feels good ...it is good

I've done it again...*S*

rm_Speakeasy069 58M

7/30/2006 5:36 pm

I answered this in the mag. section...First of all, everyone has a different situation in their marriage...I was monagamous for 24 years, but due to special circumstances in my marriage, I was honest, discussed things with my wife, and went on from there..Not all married men who look for sex are breaking their vows. Im happily married, will be for the rest of my life and am happy i have a soulmate that can have an enlightened view

SteelReserve69 48M

11/27/2006 4:23 am

People cheat for obvious reasons. For reasons known only to married people, it is often candy coated. You'de have to be married to understand.
When you are dating it is all fun and exciting and the sex is great. Then you say to yourself... I want this to last forever. And you are 30 something... so why not now? You love her right? And you, like many people have always wanted to be married. So you tie the knot.
The love last forever, but the feeling doesn't. You have children. You get more involved in your career. Gotta pay the mortgage, feed the college fund, jr. needs braces (mouth look like a drawer full of sporks). You are both working 12 hours a day. You finally see each other after: work, commute, helping with homework, paying bills etc, fuck it's my turn to cook dinner and I haven't even done the food shopping.... Then on the weekend you are involved with the children, and doing the work you couldn't finish at the job because you've been downsized and you are short staffed and underpaid, she wants to have sex but you are are sleep, you want to have sex but she is sleep (and the old lift your leg up so I can bang it out real quick has gotton old).
But then there are those moments. Those ever so sweet moments. When you have the day to yourself. You are supposed to be watching the game over your homeboy's house. But you anticipated that the wife would be busy this weekend, the kids have activities planned, and you see that "big bottom girl" (you know the one: with a fat ass, nice round tummy like you like it and the little titties) you often see at that Starbucks you frequent. After another of many idle conversations such as: what do you do, then... oh that is interesting, then.... how's work? She finally gives you the "green light", as if to say "you can have this pussy as long as you don't say anything too stupid".
She is older, wiser... knows a man is as faithful as his options (and let's face it,... you have options,... hell - you have all your hair, all your teeth, a winning smile and successful financially). Maybe she has been burned i.e. divorce gone awry, maybe perpetually single, maybe always wanted to be with a black man and you fit her fantacy, maybe a good - girl who wants to be bad, hell... she could actually be married too but lying her ass off for fear of being found out. Who the hell knows, who cares?
You love your wife, you love your kids, you love your life. You even love your dog. And you aren't going to cry, "I want a divorce - unless she says it first". Afterall, at the age of.... whatever... this is all you have. Too old to start over (young women need too much training). Too young to lay down and die (you are still confident in your "man-ness", very verile and can slay even the baddest broad). And at the end of the day - every now and then, you want some new pussy. How does she smell, how does she taste? Damn her nipples look good in that blouse. Is she wearing a bra? Uh oh, she got a thong on. Is that thong parting the pink sea? You know, Man Shit!!!
So stop asking this "well-done" question. It is very obvious my men cheat (and women - but I can't speak on that since I am not one). We aren't complicated beings. We like to be fed, fucked and appreciated. Some of us got married too soon. Circumstances dictated (in their mind) the need to get married for others. And finally, some of us given the above have grown in a direction that is not suitable for married life i.e. wiser.

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