How much difference does age make, Really?  

rm_b2dnar 63M
22 posts
5/10/2006 1:33 pm

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6/21/2006 6:59 am

How much difference does age make, Really?

When looking for a spouse or life-long partner, I can concede the fact that is does make a difference.

However, from perusing the postings and memberships here, it appears that not everyone is looking for a long term relationship. Perhaps I'm just a bit too naive and believe those who state "Looking for a little fun - with no strings attached." Yep - just about fell for one of those (see earlier post), but I have this sneaky suspicion that a few of them are true.

Or at least I'd like to believe it is so. It makes the process much more interesting.

So to the issue of age. When one is looking for someone to spend some time with, in a sexual context, how much of a factor is age? Much has been discussed on the matter of size - but age isn't so widely discussed.

From my perspective - and yes, it's biased, I find that I'm a much better sexual partner now that I was in my 20's or 30's. Most of the women I've met don't believe me when it gets to the question "How old are you?' On more than one occasion, I've had to pull out the DL to prove it. Kinda like being carded!!

Having had the opportunity to "ride the bike around the block" a time or two, I feel as though I now have a much better feel for what to say, what to do and, perhaps more importantly, how to do it. I've learned how to focus on my partner's response - and how to enhance it at the same time. After all, this isn't supposed to be just about the guy.

What brought this topic to mind was the response I've received from a few of the "younger" participants on this site. I am full aware of the connotation that goes with one being over 50 - He's nothing but a "dirty old man!"

But remember, one should not judge a book by its cover. There are still a few of us "Gentlemen" out here, ones who know how to treat a Lady as she should. Some things do, in fact, get better with age. (And yes, I still have all my teeth!)

The upshot of all this - nothing, really. Just additional musings - and a spot of humor - as I navigate the labrinth here.

Until proven otherwise - I'll still hold to the thought that out there - somewhere - is one or ones who can appreciate the "fruits of experience" and aren't afraid to follow their curiosity.

For now - B2 out.

SlimGoodGuy 39M

5/10/2006 2:28 pm

On the contrary, you guys with a little age on you have the advantage and the demand too. We younger guys get the cold shoulder simply for being younger (and sometimes incorrectly labeled "inexperienced" ).

There's more of a lack of appreciation for "dirty young kids" around here than "dirty old men."

Besides, look at the age range of most of the bloggers here. Look at the ages of the members who browse your blog and your profile.

Can I twist it around on you for a second though? When you were in your teens and twenties and you heard about your 40 and 50 year old parents having sex, didn't that make you want to gag and die?

On AdultFriendFinder, the ball is in your court my friend. You have the advantage.

rm_b2dnar 63M

5/10/2006 2:54 pm

Thanks for the input, SGG.

As they say, there are two sides to every story and, I must admit, I hadn't taken the perspective you recount into consideration.

Yes, I remember "walking in" on my parents. And yes, it provoked the response you so eloquently relayed!! Touche! Point well taken.

But now, having the benefit of experience ( or perhaps simply looking at the game from the "other bench" ) I see it from a whole new viewpoint.

While it hasn't exactly played itself out here that way yet, I tend to agree with you that the advantage does exist on my side of the court. And not from the experience - or lack thereof - perspective.

Rather, those of us with a few years on us have the benefit of stability, a great deal more discretionary income to "play" with, and the time/ability to execute a, shall we say, an interesting encounter.

When 20 or 30, I remember that I would wince at the expense of a relatively simple evening - dinner, drinks, etc. Wasn't real sure, nor capable of, crafting those "extra" details that can make life fun. The limo, instead of the Ford Pinto (Yes, I had one!) A Five Star Restaurant - instead of the Waffle house. And a hotel suite - with a jacuzzi - instead of a Super 8!

Yeah - I have to agree - age has it pluses. Thanks for reminding me!

B2 out

LilSquirt_4mfm 68M/69F
3394 posts
5/25/2006 10:23 am

Hi b2
I noticed you "peak"ing round @ my silly lil SQuirter / MFM 3Some blog, so .......errr ......came..... to visit you.

Being as i am quite err... mature ...., i will reply .... all men are sexy to me ... it's his mind & attitude that matter .... have had sex with a few, and 21 - 70 in past cpl yrs ..... all of it was good, as made sure guy was a winner 1st .. .that's all that really matters ... it's his mind that will turn me on mainly

u r well cum to visit me anytime and add to our discussion style blog


bi the way, "peaked around here a bit ...nice blog ...i'll be back to look more closely in future

cobra70118 106M

5/27/2006 9:59 am


Your right. LOL... People are full of judgements... Rediculas beliefs. I'll open up just a tiny bit here. I wouldn't get the time of day from most ladies here... but in real life I see several ladies. All highly intelligent, education, beautiful, I mean knockouts and all in their 20's and early 30's. Cause they're smart ladies. Most of the woman who hit on me are in their 20,'s then 30's and rarely over 40. The ones who are mostly married are usualy in their mid to later 30's.

Age means absolutely nothing, it's about emotional maturity. Judge me by who I am and not by what's in my wallet, or by my race, or by my age... Whatever it is...

There is much to be said about gentleman...

657 posts
6/20/2006 8:21 pm

Sometimes I don't think age makes a difference. Many women say in their profile the age range they are looking for but at the same time I have had a few e-mail me that where not what I was searching for in my profile. Would rather stay above 35 myself but if the younger ones want to write and listen, hey who am I to argue with them.


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