it's just not my turn  

rm_abutoo2 45M
708 posts
8/3/2006 1:29 am

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8/6/2006 12:45 am

it's just not my turn

Well. I told ya that I was seeing a lady. When we first started hanging out she was splitting up with her boyfriend.
Hell, I'd known her for years. Never in love with her, just attracted to each other. Then when I'm going through all that I'm going through. Getting ready to let go of a lot. There she is. Every evening. Really special nights to relieve the pressure of the fucked up days. And there she is.
No sex, but a friendship. No sex, but intimacy. No sex, but companionship.

Did I fall for her you ask? Oh you bet I did. But she's not gonna leave her boyfriend after all. Why did she tell me she was going to?

So, I'm going to post this for y'all. I got it in my e-mail a few days ago and I think it makes perfect sense to me:

Let it go for 2006..
By T. D. Jakes

There are people who can walk away from you.

And hear me when I tell you this! When people can walk away from you:
Let them walk.
I don't want you to try to talk another person into staying with you, loving you, calling you, caring about you, coming to see you, staying attached to you.
I mean hang up the phone. When people can walk away from you let them walk.
Your destiny is never tied to anybody that left.

The bible said that, they came out from us
that it might be made manifest that they were not for us. For had they been of us, no doubt they would have continued with us. [1 John 2:19]
People leave you because they are not joined to you. And if they are not joined to you, you can't make them stay.

Let them go.

And it doesn't mean that they are a bad person it just means that their part in the story is over. And you've got to know when people's part in your story is over so that you don't keep
trying to raise the dead.

You've got to know when it's dead.

You've got to know when it's over. Let me tell you something. I've got the gift of good-bye. It's the tenth spiritual gift, I believe in good-bye. It's not that I'm hateful, it's that I'm faithful, and I know whatever God means for me to have He'll give it to me. And if it takes too much sweat I don't need it. Stop begging people to stay.

Let them go!!

If you are holding on to something that doesn't belong to you and was never intended for your life, then you need to.....


If you are holding on to past hurts and pains ....


If someone can't treat you right, love you back, and see your worth....


If someone has angered you ........


If you are holding on to some thoughts of evil and revenge......


If you are involved in a wrong relationship or addiction......


If you are holding on to a job that no longer meets your needs or
talents ...


If you have a bad attitude.......


If you keep judging others to make yourself feel better......


If you're stuck in the past and God is trying to take you to a new level in Him......


If you are struggling with the healing of a broken relationship.......


If you keep trying to help someone who won't even try to help themselves......


If you're feeling depressed and stressed .......


If there is a particular situation that you are so used to handling yourself and God is saying "take your hands off of it," then you need to......


Let the past be the past. Forget the former things.
GOD is doing a new thing for 2006!!!


Get Right or Get Left. think about it, and then ...


"The Battle is the Lord's!"

This prayer is how I feel after reading that. I'm not religious and I have a bit of problems with the biblical references and some of the terminology in that post. But I can handle it, lol.

God, just for today I need you to look out for my heart. I know that sometimes people work their way into it. I can't help that. But I need you to take care of me. I can't worry about what she's gonna do, or not gonna do. I really don't want to spend my day today worried about her.
Did I fall in love with her? Yup, sure did. Just a bit. That's ok man, I understand that you want us to feel good and to love the other people on this planet. I also understand that we're supposed to love others, regardless of whether their love is returned to us or not. So, please God, just for today, allow me to love the people in my life unconditionally. Let me love them the same way that I love my child. The way that you love us as your children. Let me love regardless of reciprocation. Please, let me love her without any strings. Let me love my mom without the pain of how she treats me. Allow me to love my ex-wife today as I help her without being resentful about her leaving. Allow me to love today God. Without any need for someone elses love. Just allow me to love.

Thanks buddy, I'll ttyl.


KittyOKane 46F

8/3/2006 4:22 am

Nice post...and advice. I've learned to live by these words in the past few years. Letting go means you'll never give anyone the impression that you're a stalker! It's a little tougher when the other person doesn't ever actually say goodbye though...when they just leave you hanging.

I'm hoping for a bright future for you, Tim.

rm_abutoo2 replies on 8/3/2006 4:56 am:
lol, don't wanna be a stalker! crazy.... lol


8/3/2006 4:49 am

I hope your prayers come true darlin'.

rm_abutoo2 replies on 8/3/2006 4:57 am:
some already have sweety thanks

SingleNLooking72 107F

8/3/2006 7:49 am

At least she told you....that doesn't always happen. I know from experience.

rm_abutoo2 replies on 8/3/2006 12:10 pm:
ok, next time I screw around with someone's emotions, I'll make sure to tell em.

canuhandle1968 50F

8/3/2006 1:32 pm

Great words to live by... I have read this over and over again throughout this year, and have tried to remember these words when something smacks me in the ass...

rm_abutoo2 replies on 8/3/2006 2:59 pm:
thanks for mailing it to me

sassy1296 52F

8/3/2006 1:50 pm

Great words... I shall have to copy them and paste them up for me to read over and over again. Hugs and glad your back

rm_abutoo2 replies on 8/3/2006 2:59 pm:
thanks baby, hope things are going good with your son

GraspCrownRusts 47M
780 posts
8/3/2006 2:46 pm

Good stuff, buddy. I'd tell ya to hang in there - that it's gonna get better - but you're already on the way...

Don't ever be afraid to put yourself out there completely to each new person who comes along - you'll always know you gave it everything. If what you got doesn't work for her, then it's best to "let it go"...

rm_abutoo2 replies on 8/3/2006 3:01 pm:
thanks shawnee... appreciate hearing that from a guy, lol. Truly!

hereIam51757 57F
8001 posts
8/5/2006 6:44 pm

Wow! Words I needed RIGHT NOW!
Thank you.

And yes, I believe that God does NOT "do" coincidence.
I surely hope I can appreciate these words and then act by them.

God, please give me strength.
I pray it is not too late!

rm_abutoo2 replies on 8/6/2006 12:44 am:
it's never too late, just the right time

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