how do you accept a thank you?  

rm_abutoo2 45M
708 posts
8/11/2006 3:28 pm

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how do you accept a thank you?

Well, in dealing with my life I'm trying to look at how I can be of service to other people. I've done some small things for some people I know. Just to show them that I appreciate them and that I'm thinking about them.
First off, let me say that it's hard for me to do these things, cause I'm not used to having anything to give. But when they say thank-you to me I run away like a little girl. You know, it seems that when I'm thinking of what I can do for them, I forget about my stuff. So it's really kind of a selfish way to forget about my own life.
It's just really hard to accept thank-you from people. I know that part of giving graciously is to receive the thanks for what you've done. To deprive a person of saying thank you is in-effect, the same as refusing a gift from them. I really need to learn how to do this. I sure hate to think that I offend them because I'm embarrassed.
Any suggestions? How do you handle a thank-you?

tight_n_tasty2 51F

8/11/2006 4:02 pm

hi abutoo2 (like your pix) Anyway I think it's nice for others to thank you for any help you give them,and you have to allow yourself to be thanked for your thoughts or gifts whichever. Maybe you don't feel like you deserve the thank you and that's why it's so hard to accept it. They say it's better to give then to receive..and when you give it comes back ten folds(maybe that can help you )I think also you should see a *Thank you * as somebody saying to you that you are valued as a caring person because some ppl are very selfish and NEVER hear *Thank you* from anybody because they are to damn lost within themselves

then we have the ones like family that NEVER says thank you and act like you have to be there for them so I think your on the right side (how would you like it if nobody EVER thanked you?.....that would mean ur a selfish bastard..lmaoooo

In closing *Thank you for sharing your thoughts*gigglies*

rm_abutoo2 replies on 8/11/2006 5:56 pm:
lol... thank you! lol... ok, we're getting goofy now. I'm just not used to hearing thank you as a true endearment. We hear it all the time in polite conversation, but when someone's eyes are sparkling and they're trying to thank me, I get really embarrassed.

OboesHonedIambs 63F

8/11/2006 4:18 pm

I try to keep it simple "You're welcome, it was a pleasure." "You're welcome, I'm happy to help." "I'm glad you were satisfied with my work." Phrases like that work for me. I get embarassed at times, especially when the thank you seems a little much, but acknowleging a thank you is polite - and receiving a gift graciously is something we often need to practice.

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rm_abutoo2 replies on 8/11/2006 5:57 pm:
practice is the keyword. I'm gonna keep on giving until I get the recieving the thanks part right!


8/11/2006 4:54 pm

Try thinking of it this way....You are doing them a favor when you are receptive to their Thank you's. It will make them feel good to be able to show their appreciation for your help.

rm_abutoo2 replies on 8/11/2006 5:57 pm:
I hear ya bi, that's something I was trying to express in the post. But I honest to god RUN AWAY! I'll hide gift and let them know where it's at after I'm gone so I don't have to be there for the thank you... pretty sad really.

NSAAddict 43F

8/11/2006 5:32 pm

With a warm smile and a heartfelt "you're welcome" It is hard to accept thank you's, compliments, niceties but you're right if you refuse them or lessen them by trying to downplay what you've done, it does make it harder for the person accepting the gift.

rm_abutoo2 replies on 8/11/2006 5:58 pm:
well, you come on down here to oklahoma and we'll practice giving and receiving lol

marathonman45202 54M
6640 posts
8/11/2006 7:36 pm

I just say, "You're very welcome!"

It wasn't always that easy though.

rm_abutoo2 replies on 8/12/2006 12:43 am:
I hear ya


8/11/2006 9:42 pm

Well I for one would like to say "thank you" for the picture you have on your blog! Now I'm helping you practice accepting thanks lol.

rm_abutoo2 replies on 8/12/2006 12:43 am:

rm_AnOddGirl 58F
3469 posts
8/12/2006 2:13 am

It took a few years to learn "Why thank you" ... It really is as simple as 3 words, then move on. Argueing or discounting how THEY feel about you is - for lack of a better word - rude. At least that's what my Mum taught me!

rm_abutoo2 replies on 8/13/2006 8:57 pm:
aye, I consider it rude too. But I get shy and I wanna run away, lol

sassy1296 52F

8/12/2006 3:20 am

The simple your welcome can say so much. I still get embarrassed when people thank me. Alot of times it is my job to help them but when they sometimes seem so thankful it is embarrassing.

rm_abutoo2 replies on 8/13/2006 8:58 pm:
right, I hear ya

canuhandle1968 50F

8/12/2006 7:15 am

Think about it this way Abu... All of these things you've done have been very thoughtful, and to those receiving them, VERY unexpected. People these days just done do kind things, in general, unless it's our closest friends. Accept their thanks graciously. Tell them to pay it forward...

rm_abutoo2 replies on 8/13/2006 8:58 pm:
I like that movie

amoldenough 71F
16436 posts
8/13/2006 6:45 pm

I usually say a simpe "You're welcome", or "It was my pleasure", Or I appreciate the compliment, things that seem appropriate for the occasion. Good luck practising.

"Don't cry because it's over; smile because it happened."

rm_abutoo2 replies on 8/13/2006 8:59 pm:
I guess these weren't really "little" things that I did... I kinda fudged a little. And their thanks were... ahh... very emotional.

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