Arguments with no conclusion?  

rm_Trillogy 60M
103 posts
6/6/2006 12:59 pm

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Arguments with no conclusion?

Sometimes arguments are good. They clear the air and pave the way to better understanding.

Other times arguments don't do anything other than make one or both parties to the argument angry.

Arguments are generally used to persuade someone to either do something or not do something. Or to prove a point. Sometimes to learn about something or a reason and sometimes to simply understand.

When I argue with a friend, I am generally arguing for understanding. In other words, it is more of a discussion. Yet, some people can not handle someone disagreeing with them in any way. I am not a "yes" man and never will be. So, I can't say how wonderful their thoughts are when I don't feel that way.

Given those parameters, how do you resolve conflict with someone that is unwilling to see both sides of an issue?

catseyes23 62F

6/6/2006 6:44 pm

Arguments do clear the air, I prefer to call it debating. With someone who is unwilling to see both sides of an issue, there is nothing that can be done if they are stubborn about it.


rm_Trillogy replies on 6/6/2006 7:49 pm:
Thanks Cats, I agree.

8337 posts
6/6/2006 11:25 pm

I will not deal with a person who is unwilling or unable to see the bigger picture.

That doesn't change.

There will always be people who expect you to see it their way and are obviously miffed when you do not follow the script.

People who know me, know who they are dealing with, so there is no presumption of implicit agreement on anything based on a friendship or acquaintance.

There is no conflict. They have their opinion and I have mine.

That's how it is.


"My every move is a calculated step, to bring me closer to embrace an early death." -Tupac Shakur

rm_Trillogy replies on 6/7/2006 2:36 am:
You say things that are true, DIV. I understand what you mean and follow that most of the time.

Occasionally, there are people that you feel are important to be involved with, perhaps to help them or perhaps other reasons.

But, it can be trying.

cairnsmale55 107M

6/7/2006 12:22 am

    You can only agree to disagree in those cases... accept that there will be a different point of view and move on... perhaps revisit another time and with a new approach... tends to work for me 50% of the time, so thats a good sign... then again, is the glass half empty or half full?

rm_Trillogy replies on 6/7/2006 2:38 am:
Cains, 50% is better than zero, usually. It might be worth a try.

tillerbabe 57F

6/7/2006 12:30 am

So this is "copy and paste" thing ..sorry 'bout that - but I'm exhausted.
I'm just drifting in to give you my most humble gratitude for your words. Thank you from the bottom, top, sides and the very center of my heart.

rm_Trillogy replies on 6/7/2006 2:40 am:
tiller, you don't have to thank me. I have done nothing other than tell you a few words.

I truly do wish for all to be well with your man. I am not a praying person, so I wasn't able to say that he would be in my prayers. But, he is in my thoughts, as are you.

digdug41 50M

6/7/2006 8:05 pm

I agree to disagree and leave it at that

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rm_Trillogy replies on 6/8/2006 1:35 am:
Hi dig, glad you could come by. I am puzzled by your answer. Not much to agree or disagree with, lol. I just asked "how do you resolve conflict with someone that is unwilling to see both sides of an issue?"

rm_Trillogy replies on 6/9/2006 2:40 am:
I'm laughing at myself. I just got your answer. Sometimes I am so darn dense it amazes me. I got it

complexlysimple 35M

6/8/2006 8:26 pm

I agree with digdug ... basically leaving it unresolved, realizing that it currently can't be resolved without some sort of change in circumstances, or a different approach to the issue/problem...

rm_Trillogy replies on 6/9/2006 2:43 am:
It's good advice. It's also something I have a difficult time doing. Usually, when something is not understood, I tend to want to "fix" it right away. Difficult habit to break.

Thanks for swinging by.

Cinderella21957 61F

6/9/2006 2:36 am

You can lead a horse to water ...but you can't make him drink.

Ever heard of the term to flog a dead horse, well, that is what some arguements are like.It the same with my son and I,He has his girlfriend ring him late at night when I am trying to sleep.Its the same dead beat conversation every night.I lose my cool and tell him to turn off his farken phone,I feel like throwing it out the window -then if the conversation starts:But Mum, she said this, your in my ear, her mothers in her ear at the same time I am trying to talk to her, your in my ear when I am trying to talk with my girlfriend.He always tries to get the last word about futile.


If you take your eyes off your goals,
all you see are obstacles.

rm_Trillogy replies on 6/9/2006 7:47 pm:
Gets a bit frustrating at times, I'm sure.

qyxx 61F
3334 posts
6/9/2006 6:55 pm

    Quoting digdug41:
    I agree to disagree and leave it at that
I state my case, I listen to yours, if neither of us is persuaded to change our viewpoints, I let it go.


rm_Trillogy replies on 6/9/2006 7:49 pm:
As I said above to dig and CS, it's good advice. I have a difficult time letting things go without some sort of resolution. It's like typing half a sentence for me.

BaronessK 53F

6/15/2006 6:39 am

I served him with divorce papers on our 10th anniversary.

rm_Trillogy replies on 6/15/2006 11:39 am:
lol, I suspect that worked!

amoldenough 71F
16436 posts
7/9/2006 4:51 pm

I have found that it is usually very difficult to try to change someone's mind. It doesn't work that often.

"Don't cry because it's over; smile because it happened."

rm_Trillogy replies on 7/10/2006 12:17 am:
Hopefully, if the other person and I both understand each other, we will be able to arrive at a common ground.

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