Interesting turn-around in my life.  

rm_Tink6978 40F
15 posts
12/5/2005 5:49 am

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm

Interesting turn-around in my life.

As of this past Friday, I have decided that my marriage just isn't going to work. I had thought this life style would help, but it has only made me realize that my marriage truly sucked. I stuck around for the wrong reason, and ended up getting hurt more. I guess the saying "once a cheater, always a cheater...once a hitter, always a hitter." is true in every sense. When i last found out that the husband was cheating on me for the 3rd time, I thought that maybe if I gave him permission to sleep with other women, as long as i could do the same with other men, it would help him realize that it was me he wanted and loved...WOW!! How wrong I was. But that is ok, because now that i have been active on my side, it just goes to show me that I am truly attractive to others, and that I deserve to be treated much better.

2xmrclean 60M

12/5/2005 8:19 am

leave and leave fast! or tell him to get out! one or the other. no fooling around!!!!!!!!!! no one is worth staying with under those circumstances. no matter whos doing the abuses...........and you are right there is some one out there who would give you the life of love. and you do deserve to be treated well. some times we need to be decisive. and not look back..

rm_jamesmpeters 40M
3 posts
12/8/2005 5:25 am

your absolutely right...that addage is true. I am sorry you have been in such a bad relationship and I look forward to helping you realize that there are nicer guys out there to be with who will treat you right

rm_zardoz1234 57M
7 posts
12/26/2005 1:06 pm

2xmrclean is so right. If your husband is a 'hitter' you want out of there as fast as you can. Too many women have died trying to stay or change a 'hitter'. Find someone that will cherish you rather then cheat on you. You still have alot of life ahead of you and there will be many chances for love in your future.

rm_Rdsff69 49M
1 post
2/4/2006 5:57 am

Well... Tink... I think that the other posts here have hit it right on the head.

That addage is true in the truest sense... Some people are unchangable and it goes back to their upbringing.... It is possible that was the way his father was and the child is only imitating what he learned from his father.

I forgave my first ex for cheating on my the first time.. the second time she was shown the door. Hows that other addage.. Shame on you the first time.. shame on me the second??

Follow the other posts and get out.. Find someone who will treat you as a person not a possession.

forgotforgetting 51M
5361 posts
3/1/2006 9:42 am

Hey - I will not add to the advice but I hope things are working out for you. I might be able to help if you are interested.

“Be yourself; everyone else is already taken.”
― Oscar Wilde

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