Making It In California...and we ain't talking sex!  

rm_Simplysexy65 51F
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5/19/2006 6:57 pm

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Making It In California...and we ain't talking sex!

We all want to be stars in California...or do we? Even if you're not some egocentric freak job, you want to be a star. Even if it's for a fleeting moment, a few times a year, or every time you get rejected in line at some fancy club with overpriced mojitos, you have, at one point, wanted to be more than Joe Nobody. You wanted to be Joe Somebody, or actually Mr. Joe Somebody.
We are obsessed with being recognized, being given our dues, and, most importantly, being respected. Growing up in the Midwest has tainted my views of the the California Lifestyle of the Rich and Nobodies. I just sit back and watch the games played.

As a Mafia Mistress, I quickly learned Carmine's Italian accent wasn't getting him the service he needed at times. So whenever he needed any kind of special treatment at a hotel or restaurant where they didn't know how much weight he carried, he would always have me call ahead and tell them I was making plans for Dr. Scarponi (sounds respectable, don't it?). Never trust a man who's last name ends in a vowel
Yeah sure, it was a copout, but at the time he wanted to be accepted by "mainstream" society, especially in places where guys who serviced you wore finocchio bow ties.

So, yes, you can always be a somebody if you can accumulate the right amount of power and MONEY, but unless you plan on running for office (in which case you're still a nobody stuck in the job title of a "somebody") or feel that your brilliant idea of selling PORNO to senior citizens in a nursing home is going to make you a millionaire, you are going to have to work at it.

Start small, move up the ladder
Kids nowadays want everything yesterday. Nobody has patience anymore. It's no longer just about instant gratification; it's about instant gratification that someone else works for on your behalf. You can almost never amount to anything in life or appreciate what it is to be a somebody unless you start off as a nobody .
So what if you start at the bottom of the food chain? Seeing things from the ground floor up lets you see what it takes to distinguish yourself from the cafones around you. Don't kid yourself into thinking you can be a success overnight (remember; it takes 10 years to be an overnight success).

The concept is easy, guys. All these guys with fancy things? Guess what? It took them a while to get them. First they started with the small house that they paid off and turned into a down payment on a bigger house, which they paid off again to get the big house with the fancy marble walkway. Ever notice the gray hair and potbelly on guys with mansions or in exotic sports cars? And men with big cars have small......oh never mind. Lesson here is, don't expect at 29 what everyone before you got at 59. Capisce ? Good. Now on to some practical advice.

Ways to becoming important
There is never one single thing you do that can transform your importance instantly. Even if you are elected president, you get there by climbing the ropes and being different levels of a somebody first. Unlike the movies, no Italian kid, black kid or Hispanic kid is going to get plucked from Brooklyn and win the presidential election because he promises voters he is going to "keep it real." So here are several pointers:

1- Get MONEY
Buy your way into being important. The more MONEY you have, the more people want to lick your ass and the more crap you get for free. Go figure. There is nothing like walking into a place and saying, "I need to spend a lot of MONEY," to get you noticed. But this is fleeting importance and having cash isn't enough to make you a permanent somebody.

2- Have street cred
In my line of work, I have seen that once you are a "made" guy or even if you are associated with a Family, you are a somebody. Having a reputation on the street helps, how you go about it is a whole other article.

3- Make a big move
There is nothing like a big move to get you noticed. Whether it's a big heist, a large merger or an important speech, you can climb up the significance ladder pretty quickly by doing something that will be archived in the history books (whether it's the ones that get stored in a library or in the Feds' private collection of mug shots).

4- Be an expert
Everyone always needs the opinion of other people. That is why I am here Call a schmuck who can tell you what the hell that something is. But when you call, call the best because the best knows what he is doing and how he can help you before you even open my mouth. It's not enough to be an authority on something, you have to be the authority to get recognized. So instead of being satisfied as a regular lawyer, accountant, computer geek, whatever, be the best in your field. Have some trait that is exclusive to you and don't be a generic idiot like most people. Take risks, have a quirk and hook up with a cultured woman...hmmmmmmmmmmmm

5- Take risks
This is hit and miss, but in life, certain risks pay off. There are too many examples of things you can do, I'm not going to waste my time listing them, but just remember that very rarely do guys like Larry "The Boring Office Clerk" make it big.

6- Have a spiel

You want to get noticed? You want to stand out from the crowd? Have some unique "thing" people remember you by. It could be a unique look (none of that earring or dyed hair crap though), a unique way of talking, a smirk, a gesture, whatever. Have something that makes you different, an original spiel that's your calling card. Like if you live in Texas, be a white guy with brown hair and you'll stand out among the blond cowboys all around you. In Miami, be the only guy that wears black day and night, and doesn't know a word of Spanish. Throw in a British accent or something for good measure. The point is be quirky, be eccentric, have a presence, but don't look like a fool.

7- Have a lady with significance
It's amazing what having the right woman on your arm can do for you. Not just arm candy but intelligence. Having some cursing, low-rate hillbilly at your side who looks like she just stepped off a zombie movie set and you'll get one kind of reaction. Have a classy, sophisticated, cultured woman whose self-confidence makes your own back straighten up (I bet you all just straightened your backs), and you will win by association. After all, the latter kind of ladies are in high demand; if she is with you then it means you got something, kid, that others don't.

8- Talk to people
Being connected doesn't hurt. The more people you know, the more people you have conversations with, the more you can open doors for yourself or others. Don't be a Rolodex whore who collects business cards like a bum collects tin cans, but be someone who talks to people with a hidden agenda and stays in touch. A rainmaker of sorts. Be the guy that gets things done. Be Joe, the guy that knows this guy or that guy. That sort of thing.

9- Have power
This is the most obvious way to become a somebody . But accumulating power isn't straightforward. Having a position that inherently has power attached to it is the easiest way to go. Being the CEO of a company, a big-shot consultant, a mayor of a major town, a college dean, the boss of a Family, a bank manager, whatever, all of that helps. But you already have to be a somebody to get to those positions. So place yourself into positions where you can wield power and influence, and inevitably the rest will follow.

Hang out with power
There are other things you can do too, but they are all gimmicks that have a fleeting effect. For example, being the leader of some posse can make you feel important, but if your "crew" is full of rejects from the Love Connection , how does that help you?
It all comes down to doing a combination of the nine things I mentioned before. Some are more effective than others, some bring immediate results, some are part of a long-term plan.
In the end, being a somebody isn't all it's cracked up to be (people always want a piece of you, you become a bigger target for your enemies), but it doesn't suck. Especially when you don't have to pretend you're some neurosurgeon anymore.

Ending with a Favorite song....
Puddle Of Mudd

Everything's so blurry
and everyone's so fake
and everybody's empty
and everything is so messed up
pre-occupied without you
I cannot live at all
My whole world surrounds you
I stumble then I crawl

You could be my someone
you could be my scene
you know that i'll protect you
from all of the obscene
I wonder what your doing
imagine where you are
there's oceans in between us
but that's not very far

Can you take it all away
can you take it all away
well ya shoved it in my face
this pain you gave to me
Can you take it all away
can you take it all away
well ya shoved it my face

Everyone is changing
there's noone left that's real
to make up your own ending
and let me know just how you feel
cause I am lost without you
I cannot live at all
my whole world surrounds you
I stumble then I crawl

You could be my someone
you could be my scene
you know that i will save you
from all of the unclean
I wonder what your doing
I wonder where you are
There's oceans in between us
but that's not very far


Nobody told me what you thought
nobody told me what to say
everyone showed you where to turn
told you when to runaway
nobody told you where to hide
nobody told you what to say
everyone showed you where to turn
showed you when to runaway


This pain you give to me

you take it all
you take it all away...
explain again to me
you take it all away
explain again to me
take it all away
explain again

SirMounts 103M

5/22/2006 12:23 am

I great collection of sage advice, simplysexy. *laughing*
I like your blog, very much. *smiling*

rm_Simplysexy65 replies on 5/22/2006 2:50 pm:
Hey, welcome to my world Glad you enjoy! Will peruse your profile soon Keep it stimulating

SirMounts 103M

5/22/2006 10:07 pm

"A great", even. *wink*
Well, your world seems very nice, simplysexy. *looks around more* Yes, I am glad I enjoy it, too. ...But how did you guess that My profile helps keep things stimulating without reading it yet? *scratches head*

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