rm_Shen_Fei_Fei 53F
19 posts
3/5/2005 8:41 am

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm


Two days ago dad felt uncomfortable. Sent him to A&E and discovered an artery sending blood all over his body is blocked and a clot has formed between his kidneys. The clot was growing fast and operation was absolutely necessary before the clot swells more and erupts but he refused to go because there is a 10 to 15% chance that due to the surgical procedure and blood flooding his already weak kidneys, he may need dialysis. Or, his already failing lungs may not recover their functions once they remove the breathing tube after the op, causing him to live on the respirator for the rest of his life.

We have to make the decision for him to take the chance and go through the op ... but he demands that the doctors "do not resusitate" should his lungs fail.

As we respect his decision, as we pray that he will recover without hindrance, we are trying to come to terms with the ordeal.

The docs want to operate but they cannot. He has a fever. He has an infection as blood tests show. Op is schedule for Monday, if the infection clears. An emergency op will be performed if his clot grows further. Waiting is painful. Watching dad's shrivelled form, with all the tubes and plugs and machines ... is very very painful.

I have been living with dad for a long time. I am his caregiver. I am his fave child. I cannot deal with the possibility of losing him ...

FunExciteMan 43M

6/23/2005 10:49 pm

You wont lose your dad.. he'll always live.. in the hearts of people love him.

oldwine60 57M
1 post
7/4/2005 3:52 am

Just read your blog and I can feel for you but it's been sometme since you posted. Any new developments with your dad? hope the op was a success.

hipz369 38M
1 post
7/4/2005 10:40 pm

take care.

rm_tototwin 57M

7/29/2005 3:00 am

Hope it went well with your dad's op. My dad had a heart valve replaced last month. It came totally out of the blue and it is a big shock. He should be back on the golf course in a few weeks.

HugoBoss90882625 42M

10/1/2005 11:45 pm

Hope he'll pull thru. Pple our age have old parents and it's bout this age that you always worried bout their health!

Adonis6900 52M
9 posts
10/2/2005 7:34 am


Take care ... things have a funny way of working out

c u ...

sims41972 45M
8 posts
10/9/2005 8:35 am

i hv same experience like u and know how u feel pl take care of yourself as ur dad still need u

rm_hawkster65 48M
14 posts
11/11/2005 6:05 am

hi fei fei take care

Veryhappy1969 49M
4 posts
11/25/2005 7:19 am

My well wishes to your dad. he will be ok.

rm_deftboi 42M
3 posts
3/6/2006 2:15 am

Hope all is going well with you. Please keep us updated, ya!


rm_4funluv2006 58M
2 posts
3/6/2006 9:52 pm

I am not going to be sympathetic with you. But from my heart, you have been a wonderful daughter. Keep it up !!! I want to be your friend,AdultFriendFinder

rm_malayboy00 39M
51 posts
3/7/2006 1:52 am

hows yer dad now?feelin better i hope n he have sprrdy recover!May god bless him n the daughter!!:'

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