Finding a balance...  

rm_SecretFun59 58M
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2/25/2006 7:50 am

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm

Finding a balance...

Before the divorce, my wife and I used to play together as "swingers" - an awful term with inescapable 60's overtones. Makes you think of Hugh Hefner and Sammy Davis, Jr. And I got used to recreational sex. Now that I'm single again, I'm looking for a woman for a long-term relationship. I'm on Match and a couple of other "vanilla" sites, and I've met some very attractive and interesting women. But in getting to know someone who's not part of this community it's hard to introduce the subject of my sexual history. I've scared one or two off once they hear about meeting strange couples in hotel rooms with handcuffs and whips. On the other hand, the women I meet here on AdultFriendFinder, though much more sexually adventurous, tend to be either married and playing around (love you, ladies), or looking for a one night stand.

So the search goes on. It almost seems that by defnition I won't find a serious relationship with a woman on this site. But I love the honesty of the women here who aren't afraid to talk about and pursue what they want sexually. It just cuts through so much crap. I've been through the thing of dating a woman 2, 3, 4 times, building up through the different levels of intimacy, just necking the first time, then the next date maybe feeling her breasts, perhaps sliding a hand inside her pants. Finally, after weeks or a month or more of growing sexual tension, you finally get to a bed... and discover you're not sexually compatible at all. And, as far as I'm concerned, if that part of a relationshp doesn't work, nothing else will either.

Just some random thoughts on a cold Saturday morning...

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