Little Sugar Update- Not Good Folks  

rm_Rico0825 56M
319 posts
5/17/2006 1:36 pm

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Little Sugar Update- Not Good Folks

Well, the night she showed up at my place with a black eye and swollen nose, as we laid together we talked about where it was that she would go to from there.

I told her I would do anything I could for her. I would be there as a friend, a shoulder to cry on, and when needed some help with a bill here and there.

For this there no mention of sex between us, or any expectations on my end. I enjoyed her friendship, and I would have be thrilled to be apart of watching her grow into a independent women, from the one that lived from man to man.

So that night I put it on the line. I don't want to hear about love and all this nonsense. This man that beat you is gone. And if the day arrived when you went back with him, it would be me saying goodbye.

She surprised me the next morning, when her decision was not just to leave him but put him in jail. I was very proud of her, and really thought this was a major turning point for her.

Well, I find out that she took $400 she asked me for to pay rent, and combined it with her income tax check, and bailed this scumbag asshole out of jail.

I talked to her last night. She had tears in hers eyes talking of her love for this dirtball. I told her to remember what I said, and a fine goodbye it was. Don't be calling me when he goes to prison. I 'm not dealing this kind of bullshit.

I have managed a few housing developments, and have watched the see-saw abusive relationships. Taxing the time of our police officers, destroying property that I must fix, and there is always a tearful women going for sympathy, and in fact in one case it was the man. Yeah, ladies, you get all mine the first time, but when you go back for more it's all on you.

I asked her what does it say about her, that could love a man that times her trips to the market, checks the receipts down to the last cent, and monitors her cell phone calls and gives the OK if she can talk to the person who has called. Not to mention the black eye and what was probably a broken nose, cause he accused her of flirting or talking to a man to long in the bar one night???

And Peggy is a natural flirt. Doesn't even realize she does it most the time. Given the right conditions, this man is going to kill her. But she won't hear of that.

So just as a drug addict you give it your best shot, but I'll be damned if I'm going to be an enabler. I told her the next I'll probably hear from her ,is her name in the newspaper. A women killed or in the hospital in a domestic dispute.

It hurts to say goodbye. But if that is the life she wants to live, goodbye are the only words I have left. And that really sucks.

LilSquirt_4mfm 68M/69F
3394 posts
5/17/2006 2:25 pm

had one of those ... a phsyco he was ....... and deadly!!!!

everytime i tried to get away he found me & i ended in hospital

finally got away ... got a good one for last 20 years ..... so many repeat the same mistake, over & over

yes, is sad ... but she is an enabler to him ... unless it's coming from fear of him, like it was for me. If she is afraid to leave, there is an opening .... if its just voluntary, there is no opening


sexyariesgirl 59F

5/17/2006 4:04 pm

Oh sweetie! I am so sorry things have ended badly. I hope and pray Little Sugar realizes she doesn't deserve the kind of treatment this man is dishing out before it's too late! I've told you before darlin, some of us wounded ones take longer than others to learn and to heal. I hope she learns soon. You know I'm thinking of you! KISSES and HUGGS.

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