When You Fall Out Of Love  

rm_PurryKitty2 49M/51F
12865 posts
3/13/2006 4:40 pm

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3/15/2006 6:43 pm

When You Fall Out Of Love

When you fall out of love.....

Do you feel that the way you thought and the way you felt, while being in love, was very childish and immature?

What do you think are some reasons people fall out of love?

Purry {=}

Disclaimer: Sail and I are not falling out of love. I am just curious!


SmedlySuperGophr 53M

3/13/2006 6:29 pm

A friend of mine always used to say ... "Love must have Wings to Fly away and then to Fly back again!" Story of my life ... lol

The all elusive definition of Love ... hmmmm? Oh how I wish I had the answer to your question ....

christo_67 50M

3/13/2006 6:32 pm

Hmmmm good question Purry. I've only fallen out of love once. Pretty much was devastated. Hey when it comes to that aspect of live I'm a all in or all out kinda guy. I never regretted being in love though and never felt childish. As far as the reasons, married young and went in two completely differnt directions. Slow burn with a nice big implotion at the end. Oh and my spell check isn't working....thats my excuse and I'm sticking to it.

greatguyintul 56M
2102 posts
3/13/2006 7:09 pm

It's a good thing you put your disclaimer on there!!

Talk about PASSION, ROMANCE and EROTIC... CLICK HERE: greatguyintul

rm_goddess1946 107F
13518 posts
3/13/2006 7:50 pm

Don't think we fall in love...
Believe we choose to love..choose to be open to love...
can't fall out of something I didn't fall into.

When I love, I love.

And in the meantime........ [post 269388]
You, Miss Purry, are needed for an event!

Just a little food for thought.............
If you really want to be happy, nobody can stop you...

Cowboy_Deluxe 39M

3/13/2006 9:12 pm

Poor foundation.


5dock 40M

3/13/2006 10:43 pm

watching this with intense interest as its on my mind

aascrompn 43M
6444 posts
3/14/2006 8:22 am

I think people fall out of love b/c of a lack of communicating. Other times, they just grow apart. Somebody may want to advance a career, while the other may want to just enjoy life the way they have it... Don't know if this makes sense.

jadedbabe78 107F

3/14/2006 9:54 am

This is hitting home with me .

Lack of communication, lack of interest, lack of intimacy, lack of a hell of alot.

A person can only take so much before they feel beat down and broken. And then when the other peson realizes they're about to lose something, they do a complete 180 and do a toal change up to throw the other person in a tailspin of confusion and makes them confused beyond doubt about what is real and what is competition.

dasher121 37M

3/14/2006 9:54 am

Its hard to explain I think. The experience is different for everyone.

I do believe that all perspectives do change though, you begin to look at things relating to that person in a very different way.

crazygurl2xx 58F

3/14/2006 10:43 am

Yeah, things change and it deosn't mean you were foolish or it didn't mean anything...people forget love is an action verb, not a noun.

pragmaticCTcpl 62M/51F

3/14/2006 11:13 am

Purry - My experience with love is this: Sometimes what you think is love really isn't. It is LUST!!

giasine 43F

3/15/2006 5:54 pm

They get older and grow apart,

They realize they have a different set of priorities and/or goals in life,

They were never in love in the first place- they were either in "lust" or in "like",

They're bored.

ForPlay2000 56M

3/18/2006 2:15 pm

What a Woman says to her most ardent lover
should be written in wind and running water

...Caius Valarius Catullus, Roman Poet, 54 B.C.

It would seem your question is ageless. Caius Valarious certainly seemed to understand that love could be fleeting. Of course he presents it from the male perspective. Yet, love can be equally fleeting among the genders and equally painful when it slips away. Love is like energy, it simply is not constant and can change forms before our eyes. When one finds themselves in love they should not take it for granted. In fact they should both nurture it and cherish it deeply for one day it may indeed change forms.

I think the most common reason love is fleeting is the fact that we are alive and living to various degrees and a natural outgrowth of living is growing. Some grow together while others grow apart. Both happen at a gradual rate, so slow it is not noticed until one day what has happened is apparent. Growing together takes mutual effort, sincere work and awareness. Yet, even the best gardener understands that not every seed planted germinates and even the ones that do can become infested.

Another reason we FALL out of love is: as the young love goes through its discovery phase it learns more about the other they find incompatible with their notion of the future and love itself. And, as we negotiate the art of compromise, which is necessary in all relationships, we decide what is right for ourselves.

I have never felt childish for having loved. No, in fact I feel blessed to have loved and been loved. And, I look forward my next love and will apply all that I've learned from my past experiences to that... Next love. I will embrace it if I am lucky enough that it discovers me.

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