Race, Religion and Relationships  

rm_Poetical25 38M
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3/23/2006 5:10 am

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Race, Religion and Relationships


I have been thinking about those Factors and to what extent they affect a relationship. I know that the only chick I was with from my own Middle Eastern race was back when I was a teenager, I was 15 and she was 16 boy was I happy back then. And she was the only chick I ever dated from my own race. I found out that it is easier for me to be with women outside of my own race that might be for many reasons. It is rather impossible for me to hook up with a chick unless there is someone who introduces us to each other, and in the culture I am living in thats almost the only way, But in the states there is that window of flirting which made possible by the culture. So cultural differences affect relationships, now Race, Religion and Relationships fall under the overall culture of Society. Whats a norm in a Society might be unacceptable in another. There are many challenges that interracial relationships go through no matter what. There are even more serious challenges with interfaith relationships. The key is how to keep the relationship alive despite all of these challenges. I have been with women who were outside of my race, I didnt see race as an issue because I never saw race as a barrier in the first place. The only difference I noticed with being with two different women from two different races is the vibe my first experience I got a very happy up beat anything goes vibe and it worked like a charm with me, I was always in a good mood due to that up beat vibe. The second experience I got a very no beat and a very negative approach to things, I was destroyed. It is wrong to stereotype a whole race based on one bad experience or a one good experience. There is the good and the bad in everything; it is easier for a couple from two sub-cultures who fall under the whole culture to have more in common than a couple who come from totally different cultures. When couples are from two different cultures the stakes are high, there will be more compromises and sacrifices in order to keep the ship sailing. Same applies to religion. Understanding and respect are essential for every relationship to survive, what if there was both Understanding and respect but there wasnt the will to compromise? Not having a will to compromise jeopardizes the whole spirit of the relationship in fact there will be no relationship. If you won’t meet me half way! You are on your own! All of what I mentioned DOES NOT GURENTEE any relationship to survive despite the similarities or differences, those are just tools to build a foundation just like trust, respect, love, understanding, passion, physical attraction those are essentials of a relationship. You wont have a relationship without them. In conclusion every person is different when it comes to relationships. To have a stable relationship there is so much that has to be done to make it work; those tools are not tough they just come with the territory

I personally prefer having more in common with that special someone, the more in common the better, Hope I was helpful in shedding some light on my view on things!!!


SeaMist1966 51F

3/23/2006 6:09 am

Dude Ive felt the same way..interacial realtionships are a big Taboo here in the Dirty South..But its more black/white..Mexican/White...wat the fuck is it anyones place to pass judgument on two ppl who want to be together?..NONE...Love comes in many colors not juss white..to me White is the Purity in love...not the color of ones skin..We all bleed the same color...strip us of our skin and we all look alike...you me BB and everyone else...Im the first to jump to a racist..Im half Cherokee Indian and when the Pilgrims landed at Plymoth Rock the were greeted by the Indians..the Inaian showed them the ways of the land...and even broke bread with them..(white man)...Only to have the white man turn on them and kill their families to take the land and make it theirs!!!!Im not hacking up the white man becuz im also white in heritage...BUT..It wasent the black man..the mexican..nor the middle eastern that started it It was the white man...and ill argue this point till my death...Who made racist ppl judge and juror? it wasent GOD...thats for sure..LOL...I think racist hate themselves somewhere deep inside...they juss choose to lay blame on another because they arent happy in their own skin...I kinda like my skin..hahahaha


BBSOUTHERNGURL 46F
62 posts
3/23/2006 6:54 am

Well you see... I am one of those that has the will to compromise..thats what makes me the speical kind of person that I am... I do not judge people by there race, color what have you....being with someone that has different religion than yours...yes if theres no compromise it will never work....the way I look at it is I am willing to learn your religion as long as you show me the respect to want to learn about mine.... who KNows we can have the best of Both worlds...


rm_Poetical25 38M
95 posts
3/23/2006 8:05 am

    Quoting BBSOUTHERNGURL:
    Well you see... I am one of those that has the will to compromise..thats what makes me the speical kind of person that I am... I do not judge people by there race, color what have you....being with someone that has different religion than yours...yes if theres no compromise it will never work....the way I look at it is I am willing to learn your religion as long as you show me the respect to want to learn about mine.... who KNows we can have the best of Both worlds...
Being in a relationship when the couples have two different religions/faiths requires understanding and respecting the other persons beliefs no doubt about it. I am not asking anyone to change what they believe in ... what you believe is fine as long as it doesn't disrespect what i believe in... In my previous relationship I was suppose to be a teacher now since i didn't see religion as a barrier i was like I am willing to help but I am not a teacher you need to do your own research. Understanding and respecting someone's faith does not mean endorsing it. Compromise comes in holidays special occasions.
but how much are you willing to compromise to make a relationship work? thats a very important question!!


rm_Poetical25 38M
95 posts
3/23/2006 8:46 am

The last Question is for anyone that would like to share thier ideas

How much are you willing to compromise to make a relationship work?


BBSOUTHERNGURL 46F
62 posts
3/23/2006 10:30 am

Yes It is.... Very important....but I have no Idea what kinda of faith/religion that you have.... I don't go to church like I should But I beleive there is a god....and only one God...unless someone shares with me differently...the holiday things...I don't know what you celebrate and how you celebrate it so...thats something you would have to share with me... I am southern baptist I believe in all the holidays and love to celebrate them with my family and friends... share with me Please...then I can tell you to what extent I can compromise....


BBSOUTHERNGURL 46F
62 posts
3/23/2006 10:34 am

and the real answer to your question.... If I am in LOVE with that person I personally would go to any extent and compromise to make the relationship work


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