How To Approach A Domme  

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3/29/2005 4:09 am

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm

How To Approach A Domme

Dear Submissives:

Speaking for myself, as a woman and a Domme, if we meet in person, offer your name and/or handle and offer to do something gentlemanly or gallant; like get a drink or light my cigarette. In the initial approach I don't expect anything more of a sub that I would from any man or woman. You are not expected to kneel, kiss my feet, or call me anything other than Roma. I sometimes go to the local AdultFriendFinder Meet & Greets at Loree's in Citrus Heights, and I attend local BDSM meetings and play parties.

If on-line: I would request a sub to write me an articulate letter describing their interests, both in general and in BDSM. They should give me some indication of WHY they might be compatible with me as a person, not just because I'm a Domme. First, I'm a real woman, with a life, and other interests as well. I'm looking for a sub that will be happy with me, with some of the same interests, both inside and outside the lifestyle.

Subs should know and be honest with themselves. Or how can you expect a Domme to accept you if you can't be honest? The truth will come out, it always does. Do you want a play-partner, or a serious relationship? Are you married? In an Open Relationship? I hate it when someone says they want to be my slave, as they usually don't have any idea what that really means. Another pet peeve is Empty Promises! Don't promise what you can't deliver! I'm a lifestyle Domme, NOT a pro, so I can choose who I will play with.


Show Respect!
Treat a Domme like a real person (because she is!)
A Domme does not exist to forfill your fantasties.
Be patient, there are many more subs than female Dominates.
Desperation is never attractive!

Dominately Yours,

Domina Roma aka NovaRoma

Robertoroma35 48M
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3/29/2005 8:04 am

Buona Serata Complimenti Splendida DONNA

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12/26/2005 3:14 pm

My Lady you hit it on the head with your comments and insights. I am a sub who has had to great Teachers and Mistresses to worship and obey over the last 8 years. There is a Teacher student relationship that also involves friedship and above all trust also. My last Mistress taught and commanded me to be very oral with service and worship. She had to move out of state so I am without a Mistress to worship and serve, if you know of anyone one looking for a new slut boy bottom please have them reach me at 209-761-0383 or at AdultFriendFinder I would really love to find some one to serve and worship again. Thank you for your time and wisdom.


4/18/2006 9:55 pm

Hmmm..I am a type 1 sub..(very serious..not just for sex)..and the sub accpets the dom..and I have been a sub my entire life....

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