Leaving AFF/ Passion  

rm_NaughtyOkies 45M/55F
37 posts
3/10/2006 12:11 pm

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Leaving AFF/ Passion

I don't want to come off as a whiner here, but I feel like a few things need to be said about the problems we have encountered here on AdultFriendFinder/Passion.com.
We have decided not to renew our membership with this site after this month due to several things about this site that have thoroughly frustrated us. This is a short list of annoyances we have encountered during our brief stint here.....

1- This is absolutely the slowest website I have ever visited. It takes the pages forever to load, and we feel that if we are paying twenty bucks a month along with the tens of thousands of others on here that are paying, that AdultFriendFinder should be able to afford more server space.

2- We are sick of meeting people who look nothing like their pics. Posting ten year old pics is very dishonest and misleading. I know that this isn't the website's fault, but there seems to be a large number of these types of people floating around here.

3- We have been contacted by many "couples" that piqued our interest only to find out later that they are either single men posing as couples, or one half of a couple using this site without the spouse's knowledge or consent.

4- We have been harassed to no end by single men who want nothing more than to convince Ms. Okie to meet them alone. This shows an extreme amount of direspect on their part, as we have made it very clear in our profile that we only play together.

5- We are worn out from chatting with couples who talk a big game until party time. We have encountered everything from impotence to wives who become jealous that Ms. Okie has the nerve to achieve an orgasm! women who feel that it's perfectly acceptable to have sex with me, but suddenly decide that they can't bare the pain of seeing their husband penetrate another woman. That is absolutely ridiculous and extremely selfish!!

6- We have also discovered that the majority of the couples (that we have chatted with and/or met) here have so many issues with each other, such as mistrust, sexual issues, etc., that they have no business being in this lifestyle! If you are experiencing sexual problems with your spouse, chances are that having sex with another couple is NOT the answer. Anyone who expects to benefit from this lifestyle needs to understand that you MUST be secure in your own relationship before you look to play elsewhere. Anything otherwise is damaging to yourself and those others that you victimize by spreading you drama and insecurities to.

I only feel it fair to point out that we have met some decent people here as well, and those we will truly miss. But we will stay in contact with those folks and allow our friendships to further blosssom. I do not want to point out specifically who the members are that we have spoken of here(above), but you know who you are, and we hope that you can understand where our frustrations stem from. We are just tired, for lack of a better word, of feeling that people are abusing our outgoing and at times, way too nice, personalities. So this is our outlet release our frustrations and at the same time politely let you know what you do to others, whether intentional or not.
It seems that there are a great deal of beginners here, and that's fine, we all have to start somewhere. However, it isn't fair to those of us that are commited to our spouses and benefiting from what this life style has to offer if you represent yourself as a secure person or couple, yet haven't fully committed to this lifestyle. I guess the point I'm trying to make is that there is either hot or cold, in or out. No room for fence riders, and please don't insert yourself into anyone else's world until you are TRULY ready to take the plunge.
That's it, that's all I have to say. I truly hope that our experience hasn't been typical, and i wish all of you good luck and happy times.


Koffla 61M
55162 posts
3/10/2006 5:20 pm

I am really sorry to hear what you just described here and also in the rant section. Your's is the best written rant about this problem I've seeing. For the life of me I cannot comprehend why people have to play this type of games. I wish you guys good luck.

Kofla


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dirtyred47 57F  
19 posts
3/13/2006 5:41 pm

We could not have put it better words. You "HIT THE NAIL ON THE HEAD". This is a very honest couple that speaks the true. You are the man.


lightswitch1963 69M/54F

3/16/2006 7:31 pm

HEY, WE FINALLY MADE IT BACK. DAMN, HATE TO HEAR YOU ARE LEAVING. WE ARE JUST EXACTLY WHAT WE SAID, AND WERE (ARE) DYING TO GET HOLD OF THE TWO OF YOU. WE FEEL LIKE WE ARE LOSING FRIENDS. WE ENJOYED THE CONVERSATIONS. E-MAIL US, AND WE WILL LET YOU KNOW WHERE IN DURANT WE ARE. WOULD HATE TO MISS OUT ON SUCH AN OPPORTUNITY. GOOD LUCK, HOPE YOU FIND HAPPINESS, GOD BLESS.


lifeisablast333 54M

3/18/2006 3:45 am

there are crazy people everywhere...................


Tulsacplhotsex 50M/46F
6 posts
3/26/2007 5:22 pm

could not have said it better......can't help but notice the severe lack of others who would agree...figured this would be swamped with responses


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