Why don't I get replies???  

rm_NRVOUS1972 45M
290 posts
5/5/2006 2:23 pm

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Why don't I get replies???

Ok, so i posted this to my network about a fortnight ago, funnily enough I never got a repy to it either!!!!
Anyway, I posted something to the effect of 'why don't I get replies to emails sent to local women'
I've been on AdultFriendFinder for nearly a year now and am still waiting for my first meet, yes I know it takes time but well, you know, after this much time there should be someone who is willing to take a chance on me.
After picking out several what you would say 'appropriate' matches, I set about mailing them to see if they'd take the liberty to be excited by the thought of me mailing them/ being interested in them and therefore, replying.
Well, so far the grand total of replies is......, yep, you guessed it, fukkin zip/nowt/nothing/nada.
I apologise for swearing there but i feel it's justified, I want to see if that 'Miss Right' is out there for me.
All I really want i somebody that'll reply, thank me for taking the time to attempt to get to know them.
is it too much to ask for just a solitary person to get back to me and say, 'thanks but no thanks', or even 'piss off', but it seems that even that is too much to ask.
Does any other person on this site feel the same??, or is it just me like always????
Answers on a postcard to the usual address

helga_hansen 50F
1987 posts
5/5/2006 2:38 pm

Welcome to Blogville... and who knows... perhaps this will be the blog that changes everything!


Love, hugs and kisses from ♥♥HH♥♥

waerlookin4fun 51M/47F

5/5/2006 3:11 pm

I guess it would depend on what kind of emails you're sending and if you send a face pic with it. Are you sending more than a one liner??? Telling the woman about yourself and making sure to check for spelling errors? I think most women would prefer a face picture with the email. Just a thought, good luck in your search

TheQuietGuy2005 55M
2386 posts
5/7/2006 12:24 pm

As Waerlookin says, there are good emails and there are bad emails and it never does any harm to take a moment to figure out whether you're writing the best email you possibly can.

It's always risky generalising but there's a body of opinion that says that emails out of the blue are a poor way to contact women. Why? They get so many of the damned things!

So what to do? Put yourself about in the chatrooms and start a blog. Hey! You're doing both of those!

Best of luck to you, sir.

rm_EE407 42F
3903 posts
5/7/2006 1:03 pm

Welcome to Blogsville!

Maybe this will change your life... blogsville & EHT

CelticFlower 51F

5/7/2006 1:38 pm

A great start and a super member of the EHT.

slightly_sexy8 39F
314 posts
5/7/2006 1:50 pm

what do you say in your emails?

rm_NRVOUS1972 replies on 5/14/2006 5:52 am:
This is what I wrote to one of my local ladies:

Hi, was looking through my cupid matches today, and whenever I changed options etc, you were always on my list. I'm sure you're now about to say, OMG, am I gonna be the next 'victim'. I hope I don't give you that impression!!!
Saying that you used to like the club scene but prefer pubs now is the sort of manna from heaven that comes to me only once or twice in a lifetime. Not that I'm boring I hope you understand, more the fact that I like rock/punk/metal music and the music that gets played at clubs really does nothing for me.

Dunno about being perfect but I am right (most of the time!!! lol)
I'm also looking for a lasting relationship, although I don't hold out much chance of getting it from this site, although I am always willing to be open minded about my chances.
This is going to sound totally corny too, I do love children, and fully appreciate that most of your time will be dedicated to them.

I've just read this whole message, and it seems to be the typical dating by numbers answers to your profile statements lol.

Let me tell you a little about me then instaed, I'm 33 years old, 6 feet tall, a little overweight (but working on it, and I don't mean fat, just have a little pot belly!! lol), have shoulder length dark hair and size 11 shoes!!, erm, love sex, but don't get that much of a chance to experience it (I knew I had to touch the subject sometime, just wanted to leave it as late as possible, sorry)

I don't know if I've done a good job of promoting myself there, lol, but if you do have an interest, please feel free to reply, I can send you some photos of me if you want to see what I look like.
As a standard member, you might not be able to reply to me, I'm unsure of how it works, me being a silver member and all that. If you can't then I can often be found in the United Kingdom or Lobby chat rooms.

here's hoping that I hear from you soon, if you got thi far, thanks for reading!! lol
Oh, by the way, my name is Steve and I live in xxxxxxx xx xxxxxx.


snugglehugs 52F
54 posts
5/7/2006 4:05 pm

Nrvous, from one lady who knows u quite well, i would say that these ladies are mad not to talk to you cos u are a lovely, modest, intelligent, respectful guy with a lovely hairy body(mmmmmmmmmmmmmm) and a very warm heart. You will find her, it just takes time, hun.
P,S, Get that hair cut, you lout!!!!

Sulabula 46F
12659 posts
5/8/2006 11:00 am

Welcome to blogland and i don't know why

Sula xxx

come visit my blog

racingcrazy67 50M

5/10/2006 9:17 am

NRV. Patience my dear NRV. Take your time over what you say in your emails, be dilligent and put effort into your blog and carry on being the funny, nice and very welcome member of the EHT.

It's been a pleasure chatting with you and I'm sure and hope you will meet someone special soon (no I'm not offering! )

Above all (and if I have to tell you again you're in BIG trouble)......be positive!!!

keenbutshy2 46F

5/12/2006 5:59 pm

I think this is going to require some one-to-one tuition!!

Report in on Monday night!!

AngelEyez4u2004 58F
1473 posts
5/14/2006 5:39 am

NRV as a few others have already posted to you, I think that most women on the site get alot of emails and don't always take the time to read each one, sadly enough I know I myself am guilty of that. The only suggestions I have to offer are.....make sure you put a catchy subject title, provide a face pic (most women aren't interesting in seeing your dick or other parts first off), and introduce yourself as the the warm and caring person u truly are. Have you considered perhaps you are emailing the wrong type of women? I know you said they were the site matches, but also as personal experience, i've learned that 9 out of 10 times, those matches are totally off. If you are anything at all like the person I've come to know in the chatroom the last several months, your miss right will come along, and u do know they say patience is a virtue

slightly_sexy8 39F
314 posts
6/8/2006 12:28 pm

you asked, so i am replying about this.

if you sent that to me i would think it was just a cut and paste and would probably just send a thank you but no thank you sort of reply back. mass emailings don't appeal to me at all, but someone taking the time to actually read my profile and ask me a question do. but then i probably don't get as many emails as some here.

not sure that helps.

rm_NRVOUS1972 45M
488 posts
6/9/2006 10:59 am

Slightly, thanks hun, at least you were honest, AND you said you'd at least send a thanks but no thanks. Dunno if it would make you think any different, bu this is the profile of the girl I emailed. missfitness2005

rm_splashbabe 52F
11 posts
10/10/2006 5:27 am

hi babe, firstly i want to say you are always making me smile and you always give me a warm welcome in the chatroom. We are too far apart to see each other, i have never been to county durham!. I have been in AdultFriendFinder for over 2 yrs now..it's not easy for anyone to find miss or mr right, these days i have definitly found people are harder and harder. Yes i have dates but i get my heart broken so much. I always think whats wrong with me? we never know the answer. Keep going as i do..life is full of challenges.

___Hunny_Marsh__ 49F

12/8/2006 6:23 am

Good things come to those who wait

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