STill CraZY!  

rm_N2Reds 57M
39 posts
6/22/2006 9:35 pm

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6/27/2006 10:41 pm

STill CraZY!

Okay...I have quickly come to realize in my very short time as a wild and crazy single guy that the majority of women are still CRAZY AFTER ALL THESE YEARS!

Several weeks ago, a (married) friend of mine told me that my new lifestyle of flirting and squirting is GREAT as long as I could keep from screwing it up by falling into another relationship and getting trapped by marriage.

I now understand what he meant. As I have said in earlier posts, it seems the women I meet are only interested in long-term relationships. No matter what they say or how they the end...THEY ONLY WANT TO GET MARRIED!

I have not written in several days due to my recent sack time with Ms. FIRST. She is incredible sexually, and we have developed a unique friendship.

Of course, NOW after a few months of very intense sex, she wants more!!! Even knowing I just got out of a very long and difficult relationship and promising me she wasn't expecting an exclusive relationship. DAMN!

I have been upfront and honest the whole way. I like her a lot and want to spend time with her, but not EXCLUSIVELY. Nonetheless, now she is trying to tighten the noose.

She made a play to force my hand yesterday and it backfired. I will not go into the details, but I caught her checking up on me to see if I have other lovers. She made some assumptions that were not true (but could have been)and reacted in a manner that exposed her deeper intentions.

I called her on it and expressed my disappointment in her methods to find out, especially since I wouldn't mind telling her either way.

I again explained my situation and focus. I told her if she needed more commitment, I couldn't give it. I also told her is she wanted to end it and move on to someone who wants a more serious relationship, I would understand.

I want (deserve) my freedom.

Today, she is back-peddling trying to act like she doesn't need commitment, and she didn't mean to over-react. But it is too late, Elvis has left the building and she cannot undo the damage caused by her concerns and suspicions.

I liked her a lot, especially because she seemed willing to give me the personal space I needed to find my way in this new life. But, now I can't see her the same way as before. There's been a break in the flow of our chemistry.

We talked about it for a long time and she tried to convince me I misunderstood her actions and that everything will be okay.

But, I know her actions resulted from the feelings she is developing for me. Sorta like a trial close in sales where you ask for the order early in the pitch to see where you stand (that is when you find out what objections your prospect truly has against buying).

She wants to know if we are at the same place emotionally. I am not...not that I couldn't ever be. Just not now, this early.

Of course, speaking selfishly, I don't want to lose her. She is one of the best lovers I've ever had. She loves sex, orgasms easily and blows me like no other.

This dating bullshit is too much work!

Well, a gluton for punishment, I agreed to see her tomorrow night to "work things out," but I know it will not be the same. I have already lost some of the passion after taking the hit.

Damn crazy bitches...

rm_1SweetBitch 56F
8575 posts
6/22/2006 10:18 pm

I think you might be the crazy one here...why would you go and see her again knowing she is looking for something you cant give her at this time?

No Day Is So Bad It Can't Be Fixed With Great Sex!

1 SweetBitch

rm_N2Reds 57M
17 posts
6/23/2006 5:39 am

Good point...

However, that seems like an easy position for a female to take, especially one so beautiful she can have any lover she wants from a long list of interested suitors.

Guys don't have it quite that easy. Like water in the desert, a good woman with a strong sexual appetite is very hard to find.

I don't want to lose her. We've had a great time together the past couple of months and everything has gone wonderfully. She's the one who is feeling the need to press. After explaining my intentions again, she's saying she's okay with it.

I'm at least willing to give her the benefit of the doubt, even though it is likely from a safer distance, until I know she is being truthful.

Thanks for the comment. You have a great profile and awesome blog.

rm_funforme143 55F

6/26/2006 12:35 pm

Ok, N2Reds, here goes . . .
I've been away for several days and am just now reading your latest post and like so many other posts by you, I cannot keep myself from replying. I actually think that your position and that of 1SweetBitch both have merit. From your perspective, you are doing the right thing and giving Ms. First the benefit of the doubt and the opportunity to explain herself face to face, knowing that body language can say a lot. 1sweetbitch seems to be coming from the perspective that you are leading on Ms. First when you know she wants more than you are ready to give her at this time. As a woman, I understand that perspective, especially as someone who always roots for the underdog and identifies with a woman's perspective. As a smart woman, I ultimately have to side with you and say that common decency and a willingness to get more information before making a perhaps-hasty decision has to win out over the possibility that Ms First will misinterpret your motives. I also agree with you that no matter the outcome of your meeting with her, the barn door has been opened. In other words, the damage has been done and cannot be undone.
I strongly disagree however, with your statement that finding a good woman with a strong sexual appetite is like finding water in the desert. Trust me when i say, we are out there. You might just have to change your search criteria.
I think the most interesting thing about your post is how it illustrates why men and women have such a difficult time relating to each other. Men are from Mars, Women Are From Venus. We will never, ever think alike. But... that is one of the reasons we cannot stay away from each other. I think that because Ms. First's actions left you feeling spied upon, disappointed and betrayed, the damage has been done and is perhaps irreparable. Now you are better prepared for Ms. Second (LOL!!) You might want to name her Ms. First Again, I don't know! Anyway, I don't think she was lying when she told you she would be content with a casual, non exclusive relationship. That was her head talking. Then her heart got involved and caused a flurry of different emotions that were most likely unexpected on her part. She thought at first she could handle it. Then the more you two became entwined, the less she could emotionally detach. Women are like that. Even the most independent, saavy and tough ones. Women want to believe we are tough enough to live without men, or at the very least live with far less emotional attachment to them, but when it comes right down to it, we need you guys as much as you need us (we're not built to be that tough and Thank God for it, we've got babies to hold and caress and nurture !).Some of us love the hell out of the search for Mr. Right, Mr. Right Now and Mr. Right On. Could it be that Ms. First might have been conducting her own trial close to see exactly where you really stood?

- fun

rm_funforme143 55F

6/27/2006 7:26 am

I meant "savvy" not "saavy" and "I" not "i" LOL!

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