Party of LEAST concern...  

rm_N2Reds 57M
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4/11/2006 9:08 am

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Party of LEAST concern...

Sorry for the absence. I took a couple of days off from writing in my blog. There's too much happening to record it all, but I will get around to the highlights soon.

Thanks to all of you who continue to follow my blog and quest to meet Ms. FIRST. I appreciate the encouragement and find your interest flattering.

In exchange maybe you will learn something from my experiences (hopefully positive) or from my follies. Either way, read on brave souls...

So here's the most useful thing I've learned so far in my adventures to form new relationships with others. It's called "party of least concern." Many of you may already know about this...I figure it accounts for at least 50% of the population...the ones in control of any relationship.

Unfortunately, there is never a 50/50 split in an emotionally based relationship. There are givers and takers. Takers are usually the party of least concern. Meaning, they could "take" you or leave you. You, on the other hand, are the giver and the one stuck keeping the relationship going.

Crazy, huh? That means half of us are putting out more effort to pursue romance and relationships than the other half. And, the other half we are pursuing, don't even care about us...WHY DO WE DO THIS?

Is it better to love than to be loved? Are we more SATISFIED in our relationships with others if we do all the WORK? Even if we know our "partner" has little interest in us other than what we can do for them? Very sad.

I've spent my whole life doing this. No wonder my relationships haven't lasted. I would eventually give up. I'd get tired of pursuing a dead end relationship and finally get the picture and move on. NOT ANY LONGER!

Okay. Now that you know this, what are you going to do to change your life and get the love and respect you deserve?

Trust me on this. If you stop looking toward the horizon for the relationship you "think" you want (the one you think will make you so HAPPY)and start looking over your shoulder to the one trying to catch up with you (the one ATTRACTED to you), you just might find a match. Plus, they're willing to put more into the relationship to make it work than you have to.

Time to check the ego long enough to experience real sincerity and passion for a change. Get to know others who actually CARE for you. Take a break and get a little of the affection you deserve.

While you're having so much fun with the one who loves you, think about how much the "other" half is missing.

Shine your loving light on others who need it, desperately or not, and you will find the happiness you seek...

amoldenough 71F
16436 posts
4/29/2006 2:25 pm


I emailed you earlier today about one of your blogs. I didn't realize there were so many. Anyway, I just read party of least concern. You might have written that just for me! Very good advice. I will keep it in mind. Whoever Ms. First turns out to be, she will be one lucky lady.

"Don't cry because it's over; smile because it happened."

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