Ladies, Can't find a date? How's your grooming?  

rm_LovelyKgrl 39F
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5/20/2006 10:52 pm

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Ladies, Can't find a date? How's your grooming?

Oh what a day. It was a beautiful late spring day here in downtown Wilmington, DE, and I was fortunate enough to be able to take a break from my research and enjoy it. While I was walking around doing errands, I started to notice things about people. I started to single out women. For some reason today, I was fixated on how women keep themselves.

Anyone who lives in my area knows that Delaware is a very conservative state. Well the top half is anyways. Wilmington is the home of 4 of the top 200 law firms in America, home base to the majority of the credit cards in the world, and some of the top banks in our country. The very truth is, you cannot swing your prada bag without knocking over three suits. Consequently, Delawareans seem to dress conservatively, comparatively speaking, and that is not a bad thing. However, to the rest of the girls…we need to talk.

There is no excuse, I mean no excuse for not looking cute. There is no excuse for not having a flattering hairstyle, no excuse for not matching, and for God sakes, there is no excuse for walking around wearing dress shoes with sweat pants, a tang top with no bra when you’re a 40 DD and toping it all off with curlers in your hair. Not surprisingly, some of the women who are not paying attention to themselves are single, and wondering why. You can't ignore yourself and think that men are going to notice you. If you look sloppy, a guy's brain immediately jumps to the conclusion that everything you do is sloppy. If you can't manage to rake a comb through your hair, men will most likely think that you won't be able to manage much else either, like getting them off!

By no means do you need to spend a lot of money, in fact a good grooming routine can cost you under 15.00 a month. As for clothing, I happen to buy a lot of my basics, tees and such from Target and Kmart, and even then I hardly ever pay full price. I have been known to wear a $5 shell under my $200 Garfield & Marks blazer. I spend the most money on my day clothes because that's when I'm paid to look like I have it all together. Even when I'm not at work, during the day I'm more Talbot's looking then jeans and tee shirt beause you never know who you'll run into, everyone is out during the day. You can end up face to face with a new job lead, the ex and his new never know. Night time I experiment, when I go out club hoping, I can turn that $2 vintage find into a head turning outfit, and those old jeans paired with heels are dynamite. Remember, not a lot of money, you just need to spend a little bit of time. I'm talking about good grooming people!

I have seen young ladies that I guess you would call plain by today’s impossible standards. Yet, with a $15.00 trim, a little frizz ease, correctly applied cosmetics, and a matching outfit…viola! I am sick of seeing girls cram themselves into outfits that make them look bigger then they actually are. Just because it looks good on your girlfriend and it’s trendy doesn’t mean that YOU can wear it. I’ll tell you right now, some of the trends that are in make me look like an idiot! I won’t go into clothes too much, women and clothing is a personal thing and it greatly depends on individuality. I will however say that no matter what you wear, it has to be clean and well fitting.

The following is a list of people and necessities that every women the very least! Ladies, from what I can tell on this site, I haven’t seen one of ya that need this list, but if you know someone who needs help, it’s our sisterly duty to help.

Every women needs;

A tailor

A dry cleaner

A hair stylist - even if it’s just one of those quickie cuts salons for $10.00 a cut, go to the same stylist every 4-6 weeks. Too many people cutting your hair different ways can result in crazy things. Consistantsy is key. (Even better, can't afford the top dollar salon? Many top stylists offer free consults. Go to one, take notes and use that exact teminalogy when explaining to your quickie cut girl how you want your hair.)

A Nail technician - Manicure at least every other month, you can file your own nails in between. Pedicures should be done at the very least once a month.

An Iron - Please, please, when in doubt take the extra 3 minutes or so and run a warm iron over your outfit. Watch out for the setting. You don’t have to be like me, I iron my tee shirts, but at the very least starch and iron your cuffs and collar for a professional and pulled together look.

A Good bottle of Shampoo, Conditioner, Leave in conditioner, Frizz Ease and Hairspray. At the very, very least.

A Good pair of Tweezers - If there is a hair where it shouldn't’t be please pluck it.

A Pumice stone - If you are a feet obsessive person like me then you already know this is more then necessary. I pumice my feet once a day.

Vaseline - Moisturizer, makeup remover, wrinkle eraser, cuticle moisturizer, and you can even use it as chap stick in a pinch.

Facial soap - Your face has to last you a long time, you can’t cover it up, it deserves soap made just for the face

Mascara - self explanatory


Concealer - PLEASE if you need it, use it.

Powder - PLEASE, even if you don't want to wear make up, you would be shocked to see what concealer, powder, mascara and lipstick can do for you.

There it is, my bare bones guide to looking your best. It doesn’t matter what size you are, looking impeccable is very simple to do, it’s about looking our personal best not trying to look like that ad in the magazine. We all have periods where we can barely get the energy to get out of bed. There are days where lipstick, a low chignon, and big sunglasses are all I can manage, but if you don't pay attention to yourself, no man will either.

Nightguy_1961 56M
4866 posts
5/20/2006 11:34 pm

The same is true for guys as well...

I've heard many a male friend say "How come I can't get the ladies to pay attention while they all smile at you?" And I look at him; he's wearing dirty jeans that are 4x too big, a tshirt from a strip club that's faded, shoes that should be buried with honors, hair unwashed, no shave....need I go on?

Granted, I have long hair and a beard, BUT... I keep my hair clean and well groomed, my beard trimmed and even. I make sure that my clothes try to match the situation I'm going to be going into, etc, etc.

Now I'm not saying that I always dress the nines all the don't want to see my attire when I go fishing or if I'm working in the yard You'd want to bury me...

Just my viewpoint....excellent post, btw...glad I stopped by...

NG61...fading back into the shadows...

HotTXpussy4U 49F

5/21/2006 12:57 am

Oh TG - I have all those on the list! And because I travel so much - I have my own manicurist license so I can do my own nails. It just made things much easier than finding a good, quality person in all the new towns and cities.

I agree with the statement "If you look sloppy, a guy's brain immediately jumps to the conclusion that everything you do is sloppy." That works for both men and women.

If you don't take the time to make yourself presentable - then you are gonna feel awkward hanging out with me. I don't have fancy label names on my clothes...but I know how to look good when I leave the confindes of my house. It's all how you wear it, not what you wear.

Great Post!! {=}

docdirk 49M

5/23/2006 8:45 pm

Oh, Kiera, thank you for the description of Wilmington in spring! I can almost smell the green grass at Brandywine Park from here!!

As for women looking their best, well, you've perfected that as well! Maybe you've just scared those other girls into submission!!

Ah, Its you again, Your Angel Feathers and your Blood Stains...

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