The problem with small towns  

rm_Lilith4711 41F
77 posts
7/23/2005 10:36 am

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The problem with small towns

I live in a very small very conservative community. Do you have any idea how fun that makes meeting people from this site? That's why I don't show a face pic and and say I'm from the closest large town to here. I just really don't want certain people to know I have a profile could cause me alot of trouble.

Anyway, I've had a couple of amusing run-ins that I thought I'd share. First, I had been emailing this couple and when we started chatting on YIM, I noticed her screen name...then she mentioned her husband's first name. Well, I put two and two together and realized that I'd been to their house! We had a good laugh over that one.

The second encounter I'm still not 100% sure about yet. I've been emailing someone, sometimes chatting...enough to know his real first name. Well, yesterday I was at a community function and was introduced to a man... Maybe this is all a product of my overactive imagination, but I thought to myself...same race, same height, same age, same body type, same first name, same place of residence...hmmm. I think I know the first letter of his last name...I'll have to check that out today. It's especially interesting since the people who introduced me to him are the same ones who introduced me to this site, and they have no idea their friend could be on here too.

Any one else meet someone here that they know or later met in real life? Share your stories!

rm_Lilith4711 41F
24 posts
7/23/2005 11:30 am

I sure hope so, oceanguy. It just infuriates me that there are still people out there who take issue with what perfect strangers do in their own homes. I hate that I have to be paranoid about my identity on here, but until the rest of the world enters the 21st century I have little choice. I just find it funny that in this small conservative community, so many of us are closet freaks. If the rest of them only knew!

jungandhorney 43F

7/23/2005 11:33 am

Your post sounds all too familiar.......I also live in a small town that is overrun by Southern Baptists. Not only is the county dry but it is impossible to go anywhere without having the Baptist religion shoved in your face. I opted to post my beautiful smile because I could really care less what other people think of me. I am already a misfit in Tyler so, what the hell? And if someone sees me on here....what can they say? They had to have been here to see me here.........

I don't think I have known someone in real life only to have run into them here......but I have a feeling someone I met in real life may have recognized me from here...........

I was picking up a client of mine from his school and I met his teacher. This teacher looked at me in a strange way that hinted at recognition and a happy surprise. For some reason, he seemed a bit familiar in a way I could not place him.................I do wonder.......

It is really amazing when you discover just how similar people are to you when you thought you were's like the joy of finding out that you are not the only one in a small Texas town that loathes the current administration!!!!

Bellefourchelove 63M

7/23/2005 11:56 am

I know all about small towns, which is why I don't have a photo up. I have known of people being "asked" to leave. As for meeting people, a blogger mentioned she'd be in Deadwood and would be wearing black with purple polka dots. how many of these could there be? recently I saw a woman, in Deadwood, wearing black and purple polka dots. Seemed like a friendly and outgoing sort too. She was with a man and I didn't get a chance to talk to her. But then it might have all been just a coincidence.

Bellefourchelove 63M

7/23/2005 12:01 pm

Lilith4711, I take comfort in your speculation that there are lots of us closet freaks in the small towns. come out, come out wherever you are!

tamethytension 56M
2320 posts
7/23/2005 12:05 pm

As yet nothing off AdultFriendFinder. However 3 years ago a woman on FriendFinder contacted my standard member profile which I had as yet to place a photo. We chatted a couple of days and by the 3rd chat she was wondering whether I was a certain Doctor...uh I said no that would be MY DAD! ... Turns out that 12 years earlier she had been my father's executive nurse's aid and she remembered me from the couple of occasions I had come by the office.

nightstogether 58M

7/23/2005 1:30 pm

Small towns the world over; always worrying about what other people will think about you and your appearance in public. I had that too; now it makes precious little difference to me. Why the change? Partially because I regularly check to see if anyone from my area is listed here according to town name, district and borough, secondly because anyone can catch me naked if they go to the same sauna and, thirdly, it's my life; let them worry about their tight little conservative asses, I'm busy making sure mine is happy and busy!

private-intellectual (.de)

rm_connor696 62M
834 posts
7/23/2005 1:59 pm

I experienced some anxiety when I created my profile, but I really wanted to include everything--not just photos that show my face along with my naughty bits but also interests, dreams, and so on. On the one hand I think, well, if people want to judge me negatively, then fuck 'em (but not, you know, in a good way). On the other hand, people can make your life unpleasant if they want, and you can end up losing jobs or loans or whatever. Honestly, why is sex a moral issue? What's bad about wanting to feel good and to help other people feel good? Still, I chose to take the plunge. No repercussions so far, but I'm fairly new at this. If I do somehow encounter someone I know, I hope it turns out well. (After all, what would they be doing here that they would see my profile?) Sluts of the world unite!

rm_Lilith4711 41F
24 posts
7/23/2005 6:06 pm

Hey Bellefourchelove, I'm not even speculating about all the freaks in the area. I know it for a fact. Just go into the Video Blue on Main Street in Rapid and take a look at the bondage equipment in the back. A local guy makes it to sell there. And we're not just talking furry handcuffs softcore stuff. This guy makes things to hang people from the ceiling with!

NoRegret5 47M
10 posts
7/24/2005 10:15 am

You sure won't meet me, lilith.

Bellefourchelove 63M

7/24/2005 11:40 am

I wish we lived in a society where sexuality didn't have such negative connotations. I'd love to just simply be me always, and I am in a sense, but I'm compelled by fear of consequences to openly display my desire to love and lust openly. Kudos to all of you that have stood up and "come-out" to stand up for who you are, pictures and all.

Masseur_0 43M

8/3/2005 4:39 pm

Hehe, small towns, I from a town of 3,000 to a town of about 500. THe post office, bank, library town hall and 3 taverns are all less than 200 yards from my door. Cozy...and there are about 6 people from this toen on this site...Freaky deeky!! Of course when I tell other people in the state that I live in Port Deposit I have to follow by saying "But, I'm not a native. I still have all my teeth." But it's nice...Nice change from midwestern industrial wasteland.

Oh, and Belle, I agree 100%. A society free of sexual tension would be.....well, it would be a state of nature so to speak. I'm sure we wouldn't be as stressed and depressed and schizo as we are now. Sex in America is such a two-faced topic. Everyone wants and loves it but can't show it and dare not talk about it. No wonder we're crazy...Only in Amerika

Bellefourchelove 63M

8/8/2005 1:57 pm

Right on with that in America is such a two-faced topic. Repression has a big hold on lots of folks.

Masseur_0 43M

8/8/2005 8:07 pm

Yep, where else can you makae a multi billion industry out of something that is naturally given freely? Go finger...Uh...I mean figure....

Bellefourchelove 63M

8/11/2005 10:57 am

No doubt!!! Wonder where Lilith has been: I miss her posts.

Tryanything1ceXX 45M/41F

9/6/2005 8:07 am

i no belle hun she has been working to death but i am sure she will be back soon

kisses melissa

TN4fun82 41M/36F

1/29/2006 3:57 pm

my question is. Did you take it any further with the couple you met from your small home town?

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