Minimum Age For Marriage  

rm_KirkVW44m 56M
514 posts
4/26/2006 9:44 am

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4/27/2006 9:39 am

Minimum Age For Marriage


I was just sitting here thinking. You have to be 16 to get a drivers license and 21 to consume alcoholic beverages legally. Why cant they set a minimum age limit for people to get married to around 35-40. It doesn't mean you can't spend years ahead of the minimum age with your lover it just means you cant be legally bound to them..

So you ask why? Because most men and women don't seem to find out who they are let alone what they want in a person till around this age. I'm living proof of this. So how many support a minimum age that you can get married ? While were at it should we throw in a 5 year probationary no strings clause if you don't like your partner after that point lol.. I'm so cruel aren't i lol.. Be honest then explain why you like the idea or why don't you like it.

Kirk

rm_Lottie_Dah 70F
53 posts
4/26/2006 11:15 am

So if a woman can't legally marry until she's 35-40, would it follow that she's not supposed to have children until then?

If not and she does have children and if the man subsequently leaves, it might be easier and untimately fairer for her and the children if there was a marriage. Things like paternity, child support, and medical issues are probably more easily managed, by court intervention if necessary, if a legal relationship was established.

Most people aren't forced to get married before 35-40, or any age, so I realistically don't see the need for such a minimum age law. Some people might just as easily argue that no one should marry before their mid-50's because menopause and male midlife crisis can greatly stress marriages and lead to people changing.


MysteryDreamer 58F

4/26/2006 11:22 am

You never know a person until you live with them!! I am all for setting an age for marriage, it takes alot of work to make a marriage work. People give up too easy, first argument, they are out. Geez, why didnt I do that? lol. Things are changing every day. We just need to go with the flowwwwwwwwwww?????? Life's a beach, then you die. (sigh)


rm_KirkVW44m 56M
688 posts
4/26/2006 5:48 pm

[quote]So if a woman can't legally marry until she's 35-40, would it follow that she's not supposed to have children until then?[/quote]

Lottie_Dah i was making light of the fact that if people waited till they were further along in life to get married they would be more likely to stay with who they married..

Thanks for the replies

Kirk


rm_KirkVW44m 56M
688 posts
4/27/2006 4:34 am

    Quoting BigGirlzRSweet:
    I don't think people should marry so quickly... with that I agree. But, I don't think that age is the issue... it's experience. If someone has a career or has lived a life and know what they want earlier than that, then they should be able to get married then. But to assign an age at which a person knows who they are and what they want isn't the answer...
Look the hell out i found the quote button! Guess i need to pay up huh BRGS? *wink* I wasn't pointing at age and per say a career or chosen path in life as much as figuring out what a person needed from another dear. I mean i got married when i was 27 and i really didn't have a clue about what i wanted and i'm referring to me inside dear and what i needed from a woman or what i wanted to give and share with her.

Your right about age not being everything but i just think as we get older that we figure out some answers about ourselves that maybe we didn't have at an earlier age is all. I think two soul mates/lovers should have for one the same desires and much the same interests and values in life in their relationship is all and i personally didn't find anybody that had the same or even what i wanted to much later in my life.

If you would of asked me what a soul mate was at 30 years of age i would of not been able to tell you let alone describe it.

Hoping your day was wonderful

Kirk


rm_Lottie_Dah 70F
53 posts
4/27/2006 7:44 am

    Quoting rm_KirkVW44m:
    [quote]So if a woman can't legally marry until she's 35-40, would it follow that she's not supposed to have children until then?[/quote]

    Lottie_Dah i was making light of the fact that if people waited till they were further along in life to get married they would be more likely to stay with who they married..

    Thanks for the replies

    Kirk
It's not uncommon for relationships to change as people and circumstances change. Sometimes it's an improvement. Other times it can be manageable. And sometimes it can lead to the relationship ending. I think I know what you mean, but often those changes can't be foreseen, no matter the ages of the persons involved.

If I had my way, people could freely and easily make "marriage" commitments which are individualized and very different from the norm. My own preference for a commitment would address a lot of these issues.


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