My kind of guy  

rm_JocelynRenee 56T
51 posts
9/1/2005 10:32 pm

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm

My kind of guy

OK, so I am married; I'm absolutely madly, head-over-heels (no pun intended) in love with my wife. So, why bother looking for a guy? That's a good question and one that I ask myself quite often. After years of studying what the experts have to say, chatting with others online, and much soul searching, I have found the answer: men have cocks and every once in awhile I like to play with one attached to somebody other than me. Why do human always overcomplicate everything when the simple answer is staring us right in the face? Oh, but only if that were true right now! LOL

That "simple fact" though, carries with it an awful lot of baggage. That cock is attached to another human being - one with their own wants, needs, hopes, and dreams - and I'm not the type of person that can totally separate the physical act from the emotional reality. Cocks may not have feelings, but their owners do - well most(?) of them anyway. Well, I'm too tired to deal with the psychology of it right now, let's get down to what kind of man makes me wet.

First up, there are only 2 physical characteristics that are turn-offs for me: obesity and excessive hair. Also, I'm a petite girl so I tend to favor men under 6' tall, but that's not a rule. Other than that, he can be any race, any income level, full head of hair/bald, glasses/perfect vision...whatever. What really does it for me is their brains. My dream guy is comfortable in his own skin; confident, without being cocky, and interesting to talk to. I like to know people and I like it when they are interested in knowing me.

Being a transvestite gives me (I think) a unique perspective on the state of male/female relations. Although I've only been a member of this network a short time, I've spent a lot of years in similar forums. I gotta tell you guys that most of you are really going about this the wrong way. Women say the same thing too (you'd be surprised at the things women will admit to you when you're wearing a dress). I can't tell you the number of letters I've received over the years that consist of one sentence: "Hey, I have a nine inch..." or "...I'll take you for a ride in my Porsche/BMW/Mercedes" or "You have a nice ass I want to..." Blah, Blah, Blah! The only reason any of this B.S. ever works is that we get so desperate we grin and bear this crap for the occasional thrill. Either that, or we really do want to take a ride in your Porsche.

I don't mean to sound like a bitch, but I know that most of you can do so much better. I'm a guy too; I know you have interesting thoughts under that macho indifference. Let us hear them; we'll like your 9 inches (or 7", 6", or 5") that much more. Look, it's a given that people who take the time to put up a profile here are, in some way or another, looking for sex. But most people would like to know you think of them as something more than a place to store your cock for a few minutes. Be real, tell us who you are, actually read our profiles, and take the time to get to know us. Trust me; you'll be happy that you did.

OK, now onto my advice for all you curious guys out there that see TS girls online and think that getting together with them would be the perfect way to test your curiosity. Step one: reign in your expectations. The TS models you see on the Websites are, without a doubt, gorgeous. But they bear the same resemblance to most everyday Tgirls as the latest Sports Illustrated swimsuit models do to the average woman on the street. Step two: learn the difference between cross dressers, transvestites, and transsexuals. Yes, labels suck and each individual is unique, but there are important distinctions between CD/TV and TS. Take the time to get to know the person and how they see themselves so you can act accordingly.

Me? I am a transvestite; a few years ago I identified as a cross dresser. The difference for me is both physical and mental. Physical, in the sense that I incorporate some of my femme characteristics into my male appearance by having pierced ears/belly button, shaving from head to toe, thinning my eyebrows and growing my nails longer. It's mental in that dressing is no longer simply a sexual turn-on, it's more of an outlet/expression of my femme side. I like being dressed now simply for the sake of being dressed. Deep down, I'm still male though. I like my male parts and I think more like a man. I like to think that my femme side makes me a better man though - more sensitive to others/more nurturing, etc.

It's difficult to definitively explain. The best I can come up with at the moment is that I yo-yo between being male and female. I don't think I'm ever 100% one or the other. During my most female moods I like to express it by taking on the outward appearance of a female. For me that also means I prefer to be treated as female and assume a more submissive role in the bedroom. In other words, I prefer to be a bottom with men, am versatile with tgirls, and am a top with women.

Well, that's all the writing I've got in me for now. I'm looking forward to going out this Saturday so hopefully I'll have a fun story to relate next time.

rm_rj4259 59M
4 posts
9/7/2005 8:36 pm

Thank you for saying what most of us have been feeling for years & weren't sure how to put into words. I for one would love to stay in touch with you & exchange e-mails & perhaps meet up someday. Again thank you LOL rj4259

rm_JocelynRenee 56T
11 posts
9/7/2005 11:24 pm

RJ, thank you for the nice comments. I'd love to chat anytime, but since I am a standard member, I cannot initiate contact. I love mail and will answer all who write. Hugs - Jocelyn

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