rm_JinaBean 38F
9 posts
8/10/2006 1:19 am

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I know this might sound crazy, but lately I've had this thing for oral sex. It's not like I've never had it before because...well duh. It's just that this guy I was talking to, when we started, he just didn't know how to do it. I was greatly disappointed. He wasn't drunk, high, or crazy--it was just blah. He came from giving my head, while I was sucking him off. Advice anyone?

economickrisis 56M

8/10/2006 1:49 am

I give lessons on my blog
Hell luv, I taught the lesbians how to lick.

Welcome to the blogs

BlueEyedSoul65 52M
1027 posts
8/10/2006 2:09 am

Well you could always get him a book on the subject. But assuming that you know your own body well and the particular things you find pleasurable, just tell him. If he's licking too hard, not hard enough, nowhere near your clit. Even if men like to think they know what they're doing, the same things don't work with everyone, so he should be able to accept that without getting his ego bruised.
Have Fun!

rm_PurryKitty2 49M/51F
9753 posts
8/10/2006 3:26 am

Let him keep practicing and tell him "a little to the left, a little to the right, up, aaaaaaaaaaaah there ya go"

Good luck and welcome to the blogs

Purry {=}


rm_raal99 37M
4 posts
8/10/2006 4:01 am

u r so lowely
i want friendship with u?

angelofmercy5 60F
17881 posts
8/10/2006 6:15 am

Welcome to the blogs! I hope you'll stop by my blog sometime and say hello.

yassismine 45M

8/10/2006 1:47 pm

Hi JinaBean,

My first thought is that you should probably call me. I don't like to brag, but I've had nothing but rave reviews in this department. http://AdultFriendFinder.com

Seriously though, I've found that with some women, the 69 position makes it difficult for them to focus on their own pleasure. There is so much going on, it's hard to relax and get lost in your own sensations. The same can be true for the lesser experienced man as well. It takes significant focus to tune into a womans body, and having your cock sucked can definitely be a distraction!

I'm feeling generous today and I will share with you some generalized instructions on the art of going down that could send him in the right direction at least. Perhaps it could be fun and educational to read this to him the next time he's between your legs stumbling and bumbling. LOL!http://AdultFriendFinder.com

OK here it is:

"When a woman finds a man who gives good head, (cunnilingus) she's
found a treasure she's not going to let go of too quickly. There is
nothing that makes a woman more unique than her pussy. They come in
all different sizes, colors and shapes; some are tucked inside and
some have thick luscious lips
One side of her clitoris is normally more sensitive than the other.
If she doesn't know which side - experiment. When a woman becomes
aroused, the clitoris becomes engorged. The more engorged, the more
it craves to be touched.

Take A Look

Be sure to wet your finger(s) before you touch her clit because it
doesn't have its own juices and it's extremely sensitive. Your
finger will stick to it if it's dry and that hurts. Whenever you
touch her pussy, make sure your finger is wet. You can lick it or
moisten it with juices from inside her. Before she becomes aroused,
her clit is too delicate to be handled.
Gently peeling apart the labia minora, her small lips, and look at
her inner lips, even lick them if you want to. With the tip of your
wet finger slide it upward until you reach her little pink bud of
flesh in the front. If you are in front of her, you can find it
where all the whorls and folds of skin come together at the top of
her vagina. The clitoris is about the size of the tip of your little
finger. This is the most erotically sensitive spot in a woman's
body. Its sole purpose is receiving pleasure.

Tease Her

Women love to be teased. The inner part of her thigh is her most
tender spot. Lick it, kiss it, make designs on it with the tip of
your tongue. Come close to her pussy, then float away. Make her
anticipate it. Now lick the crease where her leg joins her pussy.
Nuzzle your face into her bush. Brush your lips over her slit
without pressing down on it to further excite her.
When she's bucking up and straining to get more of you closer to
her, put your lips right on top of her slit. Kiss her gently, then
harder. Now use your tongue to separate her pussy lips and when she
opens up, run your tongue up and down between the layers of pussy

Tongue Fucking

Gently, spread her legs more with your hands. Tongue-fuck her. This
feels divine. It also teases the hell out of her because by now she
wants some attention given to her clit. Quickly push your tongue in
and out of her wet pussy, alternate between quick and slow thrusts.
Don't forget to run your tongue up the full length of her pussy lips
just nipping at her clitoral bud. Never use your teeth.

Clitoral Orgasm

See if her clit has become hard enough to peek out of its hood. If
so, lick it. If you can't see it, it might still be waiting for you
underneath. Bring your tongue up to the top of her slit and feel for
her clit. If you can't feel the tiny bud, you can make it rise by
licking the skin that covers it. Lick hard now and press into her
skin. Gently pull her pussy lips away and flick your tongue quickly
against her clit, hood covered or not. Her legs should shudder. When
you sense she's getting up there toward orgasm, make your lips into
an O and take the clit into your mouth. Start to suck gently and
watch her face for her reaction. If she can handle it, begin to suck
harder. If she's into it, suck even harder.
Go with her. Move with her as she lifts her pelvis into the air with
the tension of her rising orgasm. Don't fight her. Hang on, and keep
your hot mouth on her clit. Don't let go. That's what she'll be
saying too: "Don't stop. Don't ever stop!" There's a reason for
that, most men stop too soon

Finger Fucking & Orgasm

You can finger-fuck her while she's enjoying your clit-licking
talents. Before, during or after, she'll like it all. In addition to
the erogenous zones surrounding her clit, a woman has another
extremely sensitive area at the roof of her vagina. This is what you
rub up against when you're fucking her. The infamous G-Spot. Your
fingers will have to do the fucking. Take two fingers. One is too
skinny and three is too wide and can't get deep enough into her
pussy. Make sure they're wet. Slide them inside, slowly at first,
then a little faster. Fuck her with rhythm. Speed up when she does.
Listen to her breathing. She'll let you know what to do. If you're
sucking her clit and finger-fucking her at the same time, you're
giving her far more stimulation than you would with your cock alone.
You can count on it that she's getting high on this.
When she starts to have an orgasm don't let go of that clit. Hang in
there. When she starts to come down from the first orgasm, press
your tongue along the underside of the clit, leaving your lips
covering the top. Move your tongue in and out of her cunt. If your
fingers are inside, move them a little too, gently though, things
are extremely sensitive just now. If you play your cards right,
you'll get some multiple orgasms this way. A woman can stay excited
for a full hour after she's had an orgasm.
Don't leave her alone just yet. Talk to her, stroke her body, caress
her breasts and keep making love to her quietly until she's come all
the way down."

I really get off on giving a woman extended orgasms. Please do feel free to contact me if you are interested in experiencing this.

rm_JinaBean 38F
1 post
8/11/2006 5:15 pm

Thank you for all of the good advice. I will defintitely look into some of it. And thanks for the warm welcome to the blogs!

ArgonRivesShare 42M
2 posts
8/16/2006 10:37 am

hmmmmm. Sorry to hear about that. Well just my opinion on the subject, you are either good at going down on someone or you are not. There are so many different ways to go down on a woman. The only way someone gets better at that is with practice, imagination and an understanding of what your partner wants and what gets them off. And the person going down MUST enjoy it, if they are not enjoying what they are doing then they will never be able to perform up to expectations. Good luck.

rm_GAMBINO212 38M
1 post
9/6/2006 8:14 am


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