Why some men get a bad name.....  

rm_JUSTsex4me 37F
157 posts
3/24/2006 4:56 pm

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Why some men get a bad name.....

Yes, I'll be the first to admit that I have cheated as a direct result of being a member on this site. No, it was no one's fault but my own.

At first, I joined just to browse...ya know, to see what's out there. Then I met a guy on here who, I later found out, I had known for quite some time. Not directly knew, my parents know his parents, and we may have played together as kids, etc... But anyway, we talked and talked and talked on here. He was sweet, we had sex, I thought feelings were building (which I now know were merely feelings of excitement over the secret "lover" on the side), and then we were just friends. Well, I assumed we were friends because he said so. Then he emails me one day and tells me about his new-found love. I really believed that this guy was seriously leaving his wife to be with the woman of his dreams; the one who would treat him right and calm his ass down. Well, I know that was a crock of shit now and that he uses people for his own pleasure, strings them along, and when he's done with them he drops them like a bad habit with absolutely no consideration for their feelings or what he is doing to them.

You know who you are, and yes, I can prove myself if need be through message archives (wonderful thing aren't they?)

I found a blog on here around my area very recently, that made mention to this man. I wasn't sure at first if this mere mention was directed at him or she was talking about someone else, so I asked her. To my astonishment, this guy had told her he was interested in a relationship with her, and not just sex. Now, this man is married and is leading another woman to believe that he is leaving his wife because he loves her, then he wants to be in a "relationship" with this other woman. WOW!!

Now, it may be wrong of me to not have said something to this other woman who is madly in love with this man, but gladly she found out before it was too late. She can, and I'm sure will, move on from this heartbreak and find happiness that she deserves, but it took a toll on her.

I won't stoop to the level of mentioning his ID on this blog, but he knows who he is and that he is the reason that men get a bad name.

Yes, this is a sex site. But--women take the word love with meaning. I know that I do not use the term lightly and when I say it I mean it. This guy uses the word far too often, he used it with me more than a few times, and in this case someone got hurt deeply over it.

Like I said, I will not mention any names, but

to the man: I can't believe that you would do this to another person. You need to realize that everyone has feelings and you cannot use them to your benefit. You need to realize that you do not have to lead a woman to believe that you're in love with her and leaving your wife to get sex. If you want a slut, stay in your damn bar and you will surely find more than enough willing to spread their legs after a few drinks and not remember your name in the morning. You may be a good person underneath it all but you're actions prove otherwise.

to the woman: you deserve so much better and will find it. I don't know you personally, but from what I do know you are a person who will love the right person with every ounce of your being and you deserve the same in return. Don't settle for second, and never leave any man make you feel that way. Keep your head up, move on, and take care of you.

rm_JUSTsex4me 37F
185 posts
3/28/2006 12:12 am

well I think you deserve to know, so here is the post Whats With Men, Anyway. I'm just very disappointed and disgusted that he would pull something like this.

rm_JUSTsex4me 37F
185 posts
3/28/2006 12:06 pm

mzhuny~ yes they do, unfortunately the people who end up getting hurt are the ones who least deserve it.

PAladyLookin4You 41F
7 posts
3/31/2006 9:34 pm

Some men will say anything to get a woman in the sack... did I say some? Quite possibly all. For the record, said woman who was offered said relationship declined even an initial meeting. How could anyone be so cruel? Especially with the man holding her tattered heart up like a banner flapping in the breeze on his profile. tsk, tsk...

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