What are people looking for?????  

rm_Iwillwait4u2 54F
1274 posts
5/19/2006 7:36 pm

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5/20/2006 4:38 pm

What are people looking for?????

What are men looking for? a Love? a one night stand? a committed friends with bennies?

And what do you as a MAN get out of this?

what about you as a woman? What do you get out of this? Being the third party in a realtionship?


Ubermik 50M
209 posts
5/19/2006 8:48 pm

This is a bit pointed isnt it?

Just as many women cheat as men, maybe more infact

But usually the person actually cheating is getting something they cant get from their partner, whether thats time, an ear, compliments, attention, someone taking an interest in them rather than just expecting of them or whatever else it is thats missing from their relationship which most of the time isnt sex, but that usually ends up being part of the package the third person throws into the pot as nobody ever really does anything for nothing

The other person gets an equally varied set of things from whatever they want that isnt already in their life like the compliments, attention and other stuff the person in the relationship is getting

And often they are also either hoping to get the other person full time or the opposite and dont want an available partner and the infrequency and lack of complete involvement is the appeal

Each of the questions you have asked is like asking how long a piece of string is as each person will have their own reasons which ever side of it they are on

Ubermik 50M
209 posts
5/19/2006 8:50 pm

Ah, my mistake, from the wording in the first bit it sounded like you were talking about people cheating lol

Did I mention I'm blonde?

JuicyBBW1001 55F

5/20/2006 2:55 am

I am looking for friends maybe even a connection beyond the sexual realm but so far I am batting a thousand.


cookiequeen1000 54F

5/20/2006 5:18 am

I'm not interested in dating married men. If they will lie and go behind their spouses back, then they will lie to me. I value honesty and integrity. Have to be friends first with me. Not looking for one night stands or monogomous LTR either. Looking for people who fit into my polyamory lifestyle. So far so good. There are several men I'm seeing now, but so far only one I've met here has the potential to work into my schedule and lifestyle.

Have enjoyed meeting people thru AdultFriendFinder. Many of the people I've met and have many things in common with, I would never have met if it weren't for AdultFriendFinder. Starting some fun friendships. Time will tell how long they last.

FriendlyFuk66 51M

5/20/2006 10:03 am

Personally I am looking for friends and if it happens to be friends with benefits than that works too. I am not looking for love or a long term commitment because I just got my divorce finalized and figure that I will save my heart for my daughter. I am looking for someone to go do things with, such as riding bikes or going to the movies or hiking or some of those types of things. If things lead to sex well then that is fine but even if they don't that is fine also.

Ubermik 50M
209 posts
5/20/2006 1:17 pm

I'm strictly speaking not looking for anything at the moment, but knowing myself as I do thats merely a transient state due to a few changes mainly my 14 year old daughter moving in with me

Plus having been on more mainstream dating sites for the last three years I was getting hacked off with needy, clingy, insecure paranoid types, women who think the moment you talk to them your "exclusive", the ones who think you are engaged if you sleep with them and the ones who are either convinced all men are going to be like their ex or are looking to make all subsequent partners pay and jump through hoops because of what an ex did. Then there are the ones scared to risk, and life doesnt have guarantees

As I tend to have a slow build up and class sexual compatibility as being as important as compatible personalities I need to know someone quite well on both counts before I could even take a guess at whether I would want to label it as anything more than "seeing" each other. But the more common requirement on those kind of sites is for it to be labelled as a "relationship" pretty much from the outset. But although I never had a problem with monogamy the label of relationship for me is something I reserve for quite serious entanglements

So I figured that as long as this place wasnt purely about one off sexual hook ups then it might be a better place to meet people who have a closer outlook on how interaction should start and who have a more secure and open minded outlook generally

Plus there are a few things I have on a mental "to do" list that not many partners would be ok with, so if the mood took me it would be the ideal place to tick those before I did meet someone where there was some potential if that happened

So really I guess I am just looking to see what I might want to be looking for lol

No real aims and an open mind to the future as I dont know what I will or wont want in a month or even a week lol

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