Unspoken expectations...  

rm_Hrd4YouAll 57M
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2/19/2005 11:25 am

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm

Unspoken expectations...

Unspoken expectations kill us...

We meet someone, hit it off... maybe... Things progress into a relationship... All the while we are on our "best behavior" since dating, at the core, is sales. I do not want to sound cynical, because I am far from a cynic. I am, in my heart an incurably hopeful romantic - the other end of the same spectrum, maybe? LOL

We hope that maybe if we do "special things" for our partner - like make a special dinner or send flowers to work - that then they'll drink less, give us more sex or maybe just give up the remote control. We hope for the ultimate, then get pissed when it falls short. Thinking they hurt you when you never told them your wants in the first place.

If you say,"This is what I want..." then say, "What do you want?" and then LISTEN to the answer (pay attention guys, don't think up what to say while she is talking, actually listen)... The fact is you might not find your Princess or Prince on the first try, but you will maintain a sense of self while you are seeking a partner and you will add friends to your life because you never lied about your intentions.

Anyway, for the first time in my life I have no unspoken expectations about a relationship. I am hopeful and inspired by what is happening right now with my Angel and I... She stimulates every aspect of my being. I am a pragmatist, though... I know we will have moments that will test our relationship's strength... If, when faced with a situation that tests us, we come together as a team or we splinter into kindling has yet to be decided. The thing that amazes me is that I am not worried about it... I know my own strengths and capabilities. I offer everything I am, freely and without reservation, to a chance at a good relationship.

Have a great day, all!

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