Is there any light here?  

rm_GurlNight 53F
5 posts
8/14/2006 3:41 pm

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9/4/2006 5:46 pm

Is there any light here?

So been on the site for a while and looking with much interest to find someone to groove with. And for the most part those that appear are in their own self pleasure zone. Anyone else out there find this to be true?

Hydragenias 57F

8/14/2006 5:29 pm

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CB_2 52F

8/14/2006 6:31 pm

I think men love the idea of an ongoing NSA sex relationship (which they call fuck buddies and we girls call friends with benefits), but in my experience so far, the reality of it scares the crap out of them, because the girl has then taken the male role of wanting sex without commitment.

Blogito ergo sum.

spacecadet561 61M

8/14/2006 6:34 pm

There are some folks into the meet and greet and beyond scene. Some of us are a bit more constrained by our real lives and so have to content ourselves with cyber pleasures. Check out the local listings for your town, you may find folks who want to get "up close and personal". Just beware that there are some folks you may not want to meet, and always have an escape plan until you know you can trust someone.


rm_alttesthot 43M

8/15/2006 11:46 am

I prefer an on going friends with benefits. Comfort about health and other safety issues is my main concern. I've had a friends with benefits at one point. I loved it that her sex drive was greater than mine. We would have play contests to see who can get the other to submit with our sex skills. I usually loose when it comes to 69 cause she's just too good and I lay back and enjoy.

Men usually would be concerned about the NSA turning into a relationship or worse Fatal Attraction. If you can show them that you are pretty much using them for sex, they would be more comfortable. Hence, men call it fuck buddies. The friends with benefits imply a relationship of some sort. That scares them. If you are interested in someone to hang out with like drinks or movie and then depending on mood have sex type of Friends with Benefits, you should consider if you would fall for the guy. Cause most women tend to associate feelings with sex and an on going sexual relationship builds up feelings. One big reason why mine stopped. She got too close and wanted a relationship.

Hope this helps

rm_tradesman59 58M

8/21/2006 2:37 pm

I think we are all out for our own pleasure, I am. But I take pleasure in my partners excitement or pleasure. I like friends with benifits because I don't bed women that I don't like or don't find attractive. One timers are exciting, ongoing is better. You get into each others groove. depending on many things like availibility or geography ongoing may only be a few times a year and the anicipation even makes it better.
Altteshot is right...a fatal attraction is something to fear both ways. I am here for pleasure, but not at someone else's expense.

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